Things to Remember When Life Gets Really Hard.

Here are a few things to remember when life gets really hard. Help yourself stay strong and positive with these uplifting words.

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Is your life feeling hard right now? Read these words and important reminders.

I wrote this article to send strength and faith out into the universe. I hope that wherever this finds you it gives you light and a reminds you to stay positive, stay strong, and keep your head up.

Here are a few things to remember when life gets really hard: 

Everything in life is temporary. Every time it rains, it stops raining. Every time you get hurt, you heal. Your mind might tell you that this will last forever. It won’t. Nothing lasts forever. After darkness there is always light and this too shall pass. 

You are strong enough to rise above this. Life is tough, but you are tougher. No matter how much it hurts, hold your head up and keep going. You were given this challenge because you are strong enough to handle it. Use each setback, each disappointment as a cue to push on ahead with more determination than ever before.  Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle. 

 

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“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” ― Maya Angelou

Where you are right now is a necessary step. You are not what you have done, you are what you have overcome.  Your struggles are part of your path. No pain comes without a purpose. Pain is part of growing and living a stronger, more meaningful life.  This is important to remember when you’re having a rough day, a bad month, or a crappy year.  When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can go right.  Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to get to your best.

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You can’t have happiness without sadness. Its important to understand that you cant know real joy without real sadness. Life’s ups require life’s downs. When you are able to let go and be at peace with the reality of these ups and downs is when you are able to find more meaning from any challenge. 

“Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” – Joshua J. Marine    

Its OK to not be OK all the time. It’s ok to cry. It’s ok to have meltdowns. It’s ok to not have it all together. It’s OK and actually, it’s important. If you just “shove it under the rug” and ignore hurt, pain, or upset it stays with you and negatively effects your life. Allow yourself to feel. Give yourself space to be sad. Don’t be afraid to fall apart for a little while. You have to FEEL it to HEAL it. Because when you do that, the situation will open into an opportunity for you to heal from it, grow from it, and rebuild yourself into a stronger person because of it.

“Don’t forget you’re human. It’s okay to have a meltdown, just don’t unpack and live there. Cry it out and then refocus on where you are headed.”

Being kind to yourself is the best medicine. When it feels like everything is going wrong, show yourself some extra TLC.  Simple pleasures and self-love can help alleviate suffering, whether it’s watching a comedy, using your favorite tea cup, being in nature, hanging with animals, listening to your favorite album, or taking a mini retreat to your favorite place. Whatever works for you. Show yourself a little extra kindness, care, and love when life gets hard. 

Sometimes not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. It forces you to reevaluate things, opening new doors to opportunities and information you would have otherwise overlooked.

Don’t stop Believing. Just because life didn’t go as planned doesn’t mean you’ll never be happy again. Sometimes you have to go through difficulties, breakups, rejections and painful wounds, in order to gradually discover these powerful truths:  1) Life is not exactly how you thought it was.  2) The loss of one wonderful pleasure is not necessarily the loss of true, long-term happiness and well-being. Life rarely turns out exactly the way you want it to, but you always have an opportunity to make it great.

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No matter what, today is a priceless gift and its up to you to make the best of it. There is always, always, always, something to be grateful for. Strength comes when you have so much to cry and complain about, but you prefer to smile and appreciate your life instead. 

“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.” – Vivian Greene

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You are not alone. We’ve all faced loss, fear, heartbreak, and sadness. So many of us are fighting the same exact battle alongside you.  We are all in this together. Letting others in when you’re having a hard time helps. Let yourself lean on your loved ones and open up to them. No, they won’t always be able to pull you out of the challenge you’re in, but they will be able to give you some light and love on your way through. 

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Be positive, patient and persistent. Learn to trust the journey even when you don’t understand it.   The strongest people aren’t the people who always win, but the people who don’t give up when they lose.

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The dots will connect. We’re not going to always understand why everything happens in our lives. There are things that break us, challenge us, and test our limits. There are things that are not removed and situations that take a long time to change. You have to trust that it is what’s best for you. Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be. As Steve Jobs so famously said, “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.” Trust that your dots will connect. Have faith in yourself and in the future.

The best thing you can do is choose to be positive and keep going. You can’t control everything that happens to you; you can only control the way you respond to what happens.  Your response is your power over whatever challenge you may face. So “Keep Calm and Carry On”. Smiling doesn’t always mean you’re happy with everything.  Sometimes it just means you’re strong and smart enough to accept it and make the best of it.

If you can breathe, you can make it through anything.  When fear, anxiety, worry, or stress sets in, stop yourself and take a minute to regroup. Don’t get too far ahead of yourself worrying about what might happen next. You don’t have any control over that. But you DO have the present moment. Take a DEEP breath and stay committed to being right here, right now. Just take it one day at a time and keep breathing. You’ll make it.  

Those are some reminders I’ve used to help myself through challenges and tough times. What is one reminder that helps you stay strong when life gets really hard? Let me know your words of encouragement in the comments below. 

At the end of the day, I hope that whatever you might be going through you know that:

1. You will get through it

2. You will be stronger for it

3. You will find more greatness out of life because of it.

I’m sending you positive energy and love my friends.

Caroline

Want to build a balanced body? Check out my book, Balanced Body Breakthrough and get your mind, body, and spirit in great shape so you can love your life.

If you are interested in scheduling a consultation to discuss ways we can work with together and improve your health and happiness, contact me at: carolinejordanfitness@gmail.com

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How To Stay Positive With An Injury. Healing Thoughts

Cheer Yourself Up when injured! Here are some positive thoughts to help you heal from an injury.

Healing Thoughts To Recover From Injury

Healing Thoughts To Recover From Injury

“Aloha from Maui Caroline! I just want to thank you so much for your positive attitude. You have helped me get through such a rough time. Since Sept. my Father was in and out of hospital sick and passed away March 28th. Meanwhile I had broke my foot and had surgery in Jan. I was on crutches for 2 months and just got out of my boot this past Monday. Your ‘hurt foot’ workout videos got me through it without going crazy from not being able to exercise. I’m an avid runner and spinner so it took everything for me to not go crazy. I start PT on Monday and looking forward to getting my life back. Thanks again for ALL your positiveness from the bottom of my heart.” – Lauren, Maui, Hawaii

“Hi Caroline, My name is Bob Mayer, and I live in northern Wisconsin.  I’ve never so much as commented on a YouTube video before, but I needed to go out of my way to thank you for providing the broken foot workouts on YouTube. I’m a triathlete, half-marathon runner, cross country skier, basketball player, and (aspiring) weightlifter.  So, having a broken foot really upends my lifestyle.  I’m appreciative that folks like you are willing to put some time into people like me that have a frustrating injury. Again, thanks!  Keep up the good work. Best, Bob” – Bob Mayer, Wisconsin

“Hi, Caroline! I just wanted to say thank you, really! I sprained my ankle for the first time in life, 5 months ago and it was horrible! It happened after training and I was so depressed about it and felt so helpless not able to move for almost 2 weeks and then having pain and not training at all. I was so happy to find your channel on YouTube and your videos have been so helpful ! Thank you for your advices, positive energy and help in such hard time. You rock! Keep on your great work! Looking forward to more videos from you! Have a great summer, Trisha” Trisha, Denmark

“Caroline, I just want to thank you SO much not only for your YouTube workouts for a broken foot, but for your AWESOME attitude and positive energy!! I have really been lifted up by your validation and empowering dialogue. Seriously, it is a hard thing to recover from an injury and have my usual cardio addiction at a standstill. Your workouts were my turning point from feeling completely depressed and victimized by my injury–to feeling optimistic and empowered that there IS something I can do to stay fit and positive. Your quote, “The only disability is a bad attitude” is like my new life motto!! I can’t tell you how much I needed that! And I can tell I’m healing faster with working out too. Thank you so much for your amazing work!! It’s making a huge difference for me!! ” Elsie Madison, California

Injury. Sh**t happens.

I’ve dealt with my fair share of injuries. Each one has brought it’s own lessons and opportunities to strengthen my internal fitness. Injuries are part of being human and part of the experience of having a body. Sometimes you get sick, tired, hurt, or face physical challenges that are not in your control. It’s life and it happens. But it doesn’t make getting hurt any easier. If you are working through an injury right now, I am here to offer you some comfort and support.

Wellness is so much more than physical. It’s mental, it’s spiritual, it’s taking care of yourself as a whole. Keeping your mind + spirit in good shape will help you recover from your injury and return to good health.  And I am here to help you take care of yourself inside and out.

Here are some healing thoughts to help you recover from injury and stay positive through the process.

How To Stay Positive When Recovering From An Injury.

Acknowledge and radically accept the injury. It is not what you wanted. It is not what you asked for. It sucks but here it is and you must be the one to prioritize and deal with it. Resistance in the healing process is not good. Acceptance helps release resistance. Accept that there are some things you cannot control about the healing process, like how long it may take. But also recognize that there are many things you can control, like how you react to it (moment by moment), how consistent you are with your rehab and treatment, the energy of people you keep around you while you are healing (this is a big one, keep the Negative Nancy’s away!), the alternative activities you do with your time while you are healing, and so on.

Be non-judgmental but honest with yourself about how it got to this point. Ask yourself, “What was my body trying to tell me?” and “Did I listen to its first signals? Or wait until it got to the point where the only way my body could get my attention was to take me out of the game for a bit?” This will help you learn how to better listen to your body. It will help you understand your body’s signals and messages to possibly prevent an injury from occurring again. However, sometimes sh*t happens and you break your foot without notice. Acknowledge that too and move on.

Affirm Your Body’s Ability to Recover and Empower Your Mind To Help you Heal. If you believe your body isn’t healing and talk about how you are not getting better, you are affirming the negative and NOT helping the recovery process. You must empower your mind to help heal your body. It’s kind of like preparing to run a race or deliver an important presentation at work. Close your eyes, visualize the outcome you want, and affirm to yourself that your body WILL heal and WILL recover back to full health. Empower your mind to think positively about recovery and help your body heal.  

You are going to have good days and you are going to have bad days. And it’s important to know: thats OK. Throughout the recovery process you will have days where it’s easy to deal and manage healing. You may also have days where you feel frustrated, upset, impatient, angry, all sorts of emotions. It’s important to know that its totally normal to feel those feelings and to have positive strategies on hand for coping with them when they happen. Don’t isolate yourself or hurt yourself doing something self-destructive (like using drugs/alcohol/food to numb emotions or pushing your injury too far in a workout session that you re-hurt yourself.). Reach out to friends, family, loved ones. Do something to help release the feelings and restore your spirit in a healthy way. Which leads me to my next suggestion…

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Cheer Yourself UP. Life is short. Injured or not, there is SO much to enjoy about it. Count your blessings instead of adding up your troubles. Choose to see the good in everything and make the best of the situation. Put on your favorite music. Sing out loud. Shake your booty. Watch funny movies. Surround yourself with friends. Plan your next vacation. Write thank you notes to those who made a difference in your life. Write a note of encouragement to yourself. Find ways to cheer yourself up. Your body will feel the positive energy and it will make you feel better. 

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Do what you CAN do. Don’t stew over what you can’t do. Do what you CAN do. If you have a hurt foot, work on your push-ups. If you hurt your wrist, practice your body weight squats. Work on the physical therapy exercises prescribed to you through your doctor. Do all your “homework” exercises and follow the doctors orders. Be the best patient there ever was, the kind doctors love to work with. You’ll heal faster and it will make you feel better to be proactive and positive about the recovery process. 

Visualize it. Affirm it. Talk about itYes, realistically you are injured but that is no excuse to rehash the past every day with every ache or pain, or with every person that asks how you are doing. If some asks how you are doing say to them “Thanks for asking and I’m healing up.” or “On my way to coming back stronger and better.”

Most of you know, I am a big believer in positive affirmations (in fact, there’s a whole chapter in my book on them!).  I recommend repeating one or two healing affirmations throughout the day. This will keep your mind in good shape. My favorite healing affirmations are “My body now restores itself to its natural state of perfect health” and “Every day in every way I am getting healthier and stronger”.

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Be kind to yourself. The healing process is all about the art of allowing. Allowing releases resistance and therefore releases tension in the body that is needed for healing, as opposed to the resistance creating tension that inhibits healing. Being angry with our body is like being angry at a kid for having broken leg. What is done is done and now what is needed is support and kindness towards yourself. Also, allow others to take care of you and trust their care. This can be difficult for Type-A-control-freak-independent types (again I say this in the most endearing sense, you all know I love you) but maybe that is a part of the lesson. Many high achieving individuals struggle with asking or receiving help. Be kind to yourself and allow others to help support your needs. This in itself can be very empowering because we are all in this together. There is no person on earth that does not need someone for something in their life, we are all interdependent.

Accept this moment and this injury in this time and space. Try to see your injury isolated to this time and space in your life. Just because something is happening now does not mean it will happen again, especially if we learn from it. What you resist only stays with you longer and when you fight something, you only make it stronger. Flow with reality, not against it. Choose to accept what is, be positive and proactive, let go of the need to control every little detail, and embrace peace in the process. Remember: what you resist persists, what you embrace dissolves. Practice letting go and trusting your body. Which leads me to my last suggestion…

Trust yourself and trust your body.  Time to heal allows you to focus on yourself. Sometimes we think that because we train and workout we are paying attention to ourselves when really we may be distracting from life or other issues. An injury allows you to learn more about you. It provides and opportunity to learn how to be more self compassionate. It also provides time to reflect on things that may need to change in your life. Healing through an injury allows you to make space in your life FOR YOU. Guess what, your life is not going anywhere and if you use this time to take care of yourself and heal correctly you’ll probably come back stronger, wiser, and better than before. I’ve seen it happen time and time again. However, it is up to you to prioritize yourself and take good care of YOU during this time.

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While I could go on and on about coping with various psychological and emotional aspects of an injury, I truly believe that each individual faces their own unique healing process. If you need additional support moving positively forward to health through this time, I offer phone wellness coaching. You can set up an appointment by emailing: carolinejordanfitness@gmail.com

I hope this offers you some comfort and support through this difficult time. It is important that you recognize that you can choose how you react to your situation. Remember, “If you change the way you see things, the things you see change.” Injury and pain in life are opportunities to grow and sometimes change directions in life. Be open to what this time in your life is reflecting back to you. Take it one day, one breath at a time.

Have you ever been injured? Whats one thing you’ve done to stay positive during the recovery process? Let me know in the comments below. And make sure to check out the best foods and supplements for healing from an injury here. 

Injury or not, every day life gives us so much to be grateful for. Keep finding the blessings and stay positive my friends.

Sending good vibes and healing energy to you,

Caroline

For more uplifting support Check out my book, Balanced Body Breakthrough. It will help you keep your mind, body, and spirit in great shape !!

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You’re Invited to LOVE your BUTT at BOOTYcamp the Remix July 20th in SF!

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Hi Fitness Friends,

Im so excited to tell you: I’m hosting a bigger, better, BOOTYcamp event! Our June BOOTYcamp was so much fun, we had to do a remix hun 😉 And YOU are invited!

Get ready to drop it like a squat and get fit with me and other positive peeps Wednesday July 20th. It’s “BOOTYcamp: The Remix” A low-impact hour of the most effective total body exercises to define your core and behind. The class is designed for ALL levels, so whether you are an advanced exerciser or beginner, you’ll be able to find your own unique challenge and set the pace. Expect to sweat, get a great workout, and meet other positive people who share your love of fitness.

What: BOOTYcamp the REMIX
When: Wednesday, Jul 20, 6:15pm – 7:15pm
Where: City Nights | 715 Harrison Street, San Francisco, CA 94107

Swag: ZICO coconut mocktails and Perfect Bar treats

The only hangover you’ll have from this night out is a sore butt and a happy heart. Space is limited. Grab a friend, register now, and join us. This club remix is better than the original and your butt will love you for it.

REGISTER: https://www.movewith.com/classes/51387

RSVP on Facebook here: https://www.facebook.com/events/1566662583630635/

Read the event recap from our June BOOTYcamp here: http://www.carolinejordanfitness.com/bootycamp-june-2016-event-recap/

Questions? Email me at : carolinejordanfitness@gmail.com

Love and Squats,
Caroline

How You’ll Feel After BOOTYcamp July 20th… loving life and loving your butt 😉

Post BOOTYcamp Happiness!

BOOTY lifting moves for a BOOTYlicious Butt.

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Do you have a depressed butt? Has it been slow, sleepy, and not as perky as you’d like?

Maybe it’s time to give it a little lift.

Having a happy and active butt muscle does so much more than help you look good in your jeans. It can actually reduce fatigue and back pain, protect the knee joints, and create overall strength. The glutes are our largest muscle group, and virtually every movement carried out by the lower body requires their activation.

Here are a few great reasons to work your rear and a few of my favorite bodyweight butt exercises to get you started now:

Benefits of a Strong and Happy butt muscle:

  • Powers Your Body. Strong glutes increase your force and power during everything from sprinting, jumping, and squatting to climbing, swinging, and cutting from side to side. A more powerful butt will allow you to run faster, cycle stronger, and power walk up the fifth flight of stairs without losing your breath.
  • Protects Joints. A stronger butt can mean healthier knees, as well as a pain-free lower back and hips.
  • Banishes Back Pain. Butt strength and endurance are correlated with a lessened risk of lower-back pain, says Brad Schoenfeld, Ph.D., director of the human performance lab at Lehman College. “Increasing glute strength with resistance training in a variety of rep ranges is the best way to prevent pain.”
  • Reduces Fatigue. Your butt muscles are stabilizers and supporters of the rest of your body during your daily activities, as well as your athletic performance. A strong butt will give you more stamina and help reduce fatigue throughout your day as you walk, climb stairs, ride your bike and do whatever else you do physically. At the end of the day, you should feel less tired and have more energy when you have a powerful butt.

Ok, ok. You get it. Having a strong butt is the secret to a strong life.

So now what?

I got your back (or should I say butt? 😉

I’m going to let you in on a few shapely secrets with this little sneak preview of some moves from my upcoming July 20th BOOTYcamp class in SF. Here are four booty-burning bodyweight exercises you can do right at home for a stronger, happier butt. Try these four moves, and notice how your body feels when you give it a little bit of movement, strength, energy, and BOOTY boost. Photo credit Mark Kuroda.

Squat

Stand with the feet hip distance apart toes facing straight forward. Extend the arms out in front of you for balance. Sit the butt back and down, bringing the thighs parallel to the floor. Make sure the heels stay on the floor and chest is lifted. Keep the knees behind the toes as shown in picture. Press through the heels to return to a standing position.

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Single leg Squat

Stand with feet hip distance apart and raise the right leg, flexing the right ankle and pushing the hips back. Lower the body while keeping the right leg raised (a squat with one leg). Hold and then return to standing. You can use a bench to squat/sit on to work your way towards doing the single leg squat if needed. Keep the knees behind the toes and the heels firmly on the floor.

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Hip Bridge

Lie on your back with the knees bent and feet hip-width apart. Place arms at your side and lift up the spine and hips. Slowly bring the hips back down, then lift back up. Try to do 10-20 reps or try 10 reps of single leg hip bridge with one leg in the air.

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Single Leg Deadlift

Start in a standing position with the feet together. Standing on the left leg, lift the right leg off the floor and bring the knee up towards the chest. Lean your upper body forward and reach your right leg out behind you. Bring the knee back up towards the chest and repeat. Perform 10-15 reps on one leg and then switch legs. Add variety by moving the arms in a running motion or bringing the arms close to the floor deepening the lunge.

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Try out the exercises above and make it a goal to perform activation + strength exercises for your glutes, hips, and thighs at least 2-3 times a week for best butt results. Take my word for it: these moves look simple, but they are going to transform your backside and keep your butt happy for life.

Bottom line? (pun intended)

A happy butt = A happy life.

And thats worth all the work.

Want more? Check out this post from Positive Health and Wellness: “8 Butt Exercises to do in 30 Minutes That Burns Fat”

Keep your squats low and your standards high my friends 🙂

Some BOOTY loves you,

Caroline

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Red, White, and Burpee. The Perfect Workout for Fourth Of July Weekend

Red, White, and Burpee!

Red, White, and Burpee!

The Perfect Workout for Fourth Of July Weekend

I can’t believe how quick time goes by!  Crazy to think that this weekend is already Fourth of July when I feel like just a second ago we were celebrating New Years! Vacation and summer travel plans don’t have to get in the way of you staying fit and feeling your best. In fact, time away can be the perfect opportunity to get creative with your workouts. If you are heading out of town this weekend and still want to get your fitness on without worry of finding a gym,  follow this bodyweight HIIT workout 5 x through!! You don’t need a gym or fancy equipment to stay in great shape. All you need is you. 

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Red, White, and Burpee Workout

10 Jumping jacks

10 Pushups (modify on knees)

10 Plank Jacks (in plank positon, jack legs out and in)

10 Jump Squats (modify regular squats)

10 Burpees (modify step back and step up)

REST 15 seconds

Repeat!

Short, sweet, and will make you feel like fireworks. Leave me a comment below if you try this workout and let me know how you feel! Wishing you a happy fourth of july holiday friends. Know that I am grateful for you.

Love and light,

Caroline

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