Some people don’t like birthdays. They worry about getting older or whatever it may be. Me? Im the opposite. I see celebrating a birthday as a success. Like, “Look! You’ve made it to another year! Congrats!”. Life is hard. The fact that I’ve lived to 31 is something to celebrate.
This has been a year of massive emotional progress and self-mastery on a whole new level. I am a completely different person than I was this time last year, and I still have such a long way to go. It’s been quite the year. Here are a few things I’ve learned:
Eat as many vegetables as possible. Color your diet. Watch the sugar. But really…. watch the sugar!
Health and happiness trump money and success.
Plan for the future but don’t live in it.
Slow down. Look around. Enjoy the moments. There is no rush.
Be a student of life. Never, ever, ever stop learning.
Happiness isn’t found in reaching any goal or achievement. It is found in the present moment. It is found where you are right now.
Love people. Enjoy the sunsets. Watch the fireworks. Swim in the ocean. Laugh until you cry. Eat the chocolate. Do all the little things that bring you joy. Savor it (every second of it).
You have enough time for everything that matters in your life.
If you don’t risk anything, you risk everything.
Stop spending your time trying to explain yourself to people who are committed to misunderstanding you.
Be yourself and be true to yourself. If you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.
If you want to do it then you should. Life isn’t going to wait for you. Do it now.
Life can be really really hard and shitty at times.You’ll be handed things you think you can’t handle and challenges that stretch you in every way possible. You can either let it destroy you or let it strengthen you. Choose to transcend and grow. Allow your struggles to bring more meaning to every moment in your life.
Your face will change. Your body will change. The only kind of beauty that endures is the kind that lives in your heart.
Stepping onto a brand new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation that no longer fits, or no longer exists.
Judge less, love more. Everyone you meet has a story. Encourage others and be kind. It’s a really easy way to make the world a better place.
Work hard. Rest well. Learn to disconnect. Engage in self-care. In the marathon of life, the key is learning to be mindful & pace yourself.
Be the type of person you want to meet and be around. Seek to be a person of value not just success. You were born with the ability to change someone’s life. Don’t ever waste it. Be kind. Be present. Be someone who makes a difference
Everything in life is temporary. Life changes every second and so can you.
Mental and spiritual fitness is THE essential ingredient to your health and happiness. Stress will kill you (literally). Take as much care of your mind as you do your body. Health really comes from the inside out.
It costs nothing to be positive and it changes things for the better.
You cannot control everything that happens in life, but you can control how you respond. In your response is your greatest power.
Accept yourself for all that you are. And never stop challenging yourself to be all that you can be.
Personal growth is an ongoing process and it is never “finished”. I am proud of myself for the changes I’ve made and the challenges I’ve overcome this year. It hasn’t all been rainbows and unicorns, there have been tears, internal tantrums, anxiety, and sadness. But it’s all helped make me into who I am today. I am proud of myself for the woman I am and believe in the woman I aspire to be.
I wouldn’t want to exist in a world where I am not being challenged, not growing, not becoming stronger and more self-aware. I know that every moment I push myself to grow is making me a better person, and giving me the ability and self-belief to traverse other, more difficult situations in the future. I believe that if we can gain self-mastery, while treating ourselves with love, compassion, and forgiveness, there is nothing we cannot achieve.
Here’s to another great year of learning, growing, loving, and living. Thank you for being a part of my journey and a part of my heart. My life wouldn’t be the same without you in it.
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Have you ever had one of those days where you were tired? You started a workout, but then felt heavy, exhausted, and needed to rest?
I have those days. I get excited to sweat, but just don’t seem to have any gas in the tank. My mind feels tired, my legs are like lead, and my body is asking for rest. So I listen, call the workout, and stop.
I wasn’t always like this. Growing up in a strict school of ballet I was taught the “no pain no gain” philosophy. Self-sacrifice, self-discipline, and “pushing through pain” was celebrated. You were a good dancer if you gave your all, no matter what, all of the time. No days off.
My life moved on from dance, but it took me a long time to change this mindset. There was never a specific moment that changed things for me, that turned me from self-sacrificing to self-loving. I just started to evolve over time. I learned many hard lessons. I began to see how pushing through the pain wasn’t actually helping, but rather hurting my fitness goals long term. I changed the way I viewed exercise and training. It wasn’t something to “be good at” or “win”. It didn’t have to hurt or leave me drained. It could actually make me feel strong, confident, energized, and balanced. It could enhance the quality of my life – if I chose to listen and train smart. So I learned to listen to my body. I developed my fitness plan that met my needs, preferences, and energy levels. I found a way of exercising that made me feel happy, healthy, and whole, all because I took the time to listen and figure out what that felt like.
Being a wellness coach, I work to help others find balance. And I can honestly say that today I practice what I preach. Now I train with a self-compassionate mind, a training regimen I would prescribe to a loved one. It’s always a work in progress and my body changes all the time. Every day is an invitation to choose to check in, listen, and find a healthy challenge. One that makes me feel amazing.
I believe exercise is one of the most powerful ingredients in having energy and living a healthy life. The hard part is figuring out when enough is enough and when it’s just too much. The good news? Your body is SMART. You just need to train your brain to recognize the signs for when to put the pedal to the metal and when to pump the brakes—and actually do it.
Here are my thoughts on how to learn to listen to your body and enjoy exercise in a healthy way.
How to Listen To Your Body
Check YoSelf before You Wreck YoSelf. We move so fast these days and follow our busy schedules from start to finish. It’s rare that we take the time to slow down to notice how we are feeling or if our plans are in-line with what we need. Every day is an opportunity to pay attention. Before exercising, take a few moments to do a mindful check-in to get in touch with your body and mind. How does your body feel? How is your energy? How is your mood? Notice where you might be storing stress, tension, or emotion. With all this in mind, what kind of exercise is right for you that day? Do you need a hard cardio workout to burn off stress? A strength workout to feel grounded? Some functional movement to address muscular imbalances? A few exercises to boost your energy? A yoga workout to stretch out tight hamstrings? By noticing how your body and mind feels in the moment, you can move forward in choosing a workout that meets your needs.
Give it 20 Minutes. If you are feeling tired and are not quite sure if you should or should not workout, give it 20 minutes. Start slow, ease into it, and check in with how you feel. Sometimes a workout can completely transform your energy and turn you from sleepy to energizer bunny. And sometimes it doesn’t work that way. It’s always worth getting moving for 10-20 minutes to see how it goes. If you feel good and end up exercising for more time, then great. If not, at least you got some movement and found out how your body felt. It’s always worth it to try a few minutes and check in with your physical self.
Be Mindful of the Fitness that surrounds you. Those “motivational” quotes that tell you “Unless you puke, faint, or pass out keep going”? Yea thats just plain stupid. That’s not motivating, that’s body shaming. Those types of mantras will end up hurting you mentally, physically, or both. Get away from that sh*t. Also be a conscious consumer of what fitness classes, instructors, and groups you choose to be around. If a class or an instructor ever makes you feel pressured to push or compromise your health for “conquering” a workout, it’s probably not a healthy source of fitness support. There are plenty of fitness classes and coaches that can help you challenge yourself in a positive way, so if you haven’t found them yet, keep looking. You should feel encouraged to listen to your body and supported in doing what you need to do to be strong.
If it hurts, stop. This seems really straightforward but I can’t tell you how many people I know who push through the pain. If you feel sharp pain or discomfort during any type of workout, don’t keep going. Doing so can result in serious injury that will sideline you for a long time—talk about frustrating! Pain signs are not hard to recognize, they HURT. Be smart and listen to your body if it’s telling you to slow down or stop.
If you feel tired, do less. I love hard workouts, but I definitely don’t do maximal, high-intensity workouts every single day of the week. In fact, I usually let my energy levels and body awareness dictate how hard I work. While I love to go fast and do a million burpees, some days I head into the gym for a workout and my body feels low on energy. I take that as a sign that I need to go easier that day. I’ll slow down, ignore my pace, do a little bit of feel good movement, or focus on recovery foam rolling. Using this strategy allows you to take care of yourself, stay active, and make fitness a habit, but without overdoing it.
What would you tell a friend to do? Would you tell a client or friend to train the way you do? If the answer is no, you might want to re-think how you workout. Exercise is supposed to help you not hurt you. Would you tell a friend with achilles tendonitis to go run a hard 6 miles? Or someone who pulled their lower back to toughen up and do their workout anyways? Probably not. But would you encourage a friend who’s feeling down to join run club? Or tell your stressed out colleague to go to yoga? Or suggest some fresh air and a walk outside when your friend is feeling tired? I would too. Sometimes we take better care of others than we do of ourselves. When you are not sure how hard to push or whether or not you should do a workout, think about what you would tell someone you care about to do. Then listen to your own advice.
The younger version of me would have felt guilty for stopping a workout early. Old dance mantras and “fitspiration” quotes would run around circles in my head. I would have continued to workout. I would have pushed past the fatigue. I would have seen “conquering” a tired day as a win.
But today I know better. I know to listen.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for challenging yourself to be your best. But there’s a line between healthy challenge and just not smart. Your body is the only place you have to live and it deserves to be respected. Learning to listen to your body may be one of the best things you ever choose to do. There’s no quote or class out there that can teach you how to find the right balance between push and recover. It’s on you. But the beautiful thing is every day is an opportunity to check in with yourself and choose to do what YOU need to do to feel your best. This process of listening, honoring, and giving to yourself will allow you to find your strongest self, inside and out.
Do you listen to your body when it comes to planning, modifying, or sometimes skipping workouts? Does this habit work for you? Let me know in the comments below.
I wish for you the wisdom to listen, the strength to find your own challenge, and the courage to do what YOU need to do to be well.
Here’s to you my friend, listening to yourself and living a feel good life.
Is your life feeling hard right now? Read these words and important reminders.
I wrote this article to send strength and faith out into the universe. I hope that wherever this finds you it gives you light and a reminds you to stay positive, stay strong, and keep your head up.
Here are a few things to remember when life gets really hard:
Everything in life is temporary. Every time it rains, it stops raining. Every time you get hurt, you heal. Your mind might tell you that this will last forever. It won’t. Nothing lasts forever. After darkness there is always light and this too shall pass.
You are strong enough to rise above this.Life is tough, but you are tougher. No matter how much it hurts, hold your head up and keep going. You were given this challenge because you are strong enough to handle it. Use each setback, each disappointment as a cue to push on ahead with more determination than ever before. Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle.
“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” ― Maya Angelou
Where you are right now is a necessary step. You are not what you have done, you are what you have overcome. Your struggles are part of your path.No pain comes without a purpose. Pain is part of growing and living a stronger, more meaningful life. This is important to remember when you’re having a rough day, a bad month, or a crappy year. When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can go right. Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to get to your best.
You can’t have happiness without sadness. Its important to understand that you cant know real joy without real sadness. Life’s ups require life’s downs. When you are able to let go and be at peace with the reality of these ups and downs is when you are able to find more meaning from any challenge.
“Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” – Joshua J. Marine
Its OK to not be OK all the time. It’s ok to cry. It’s ok to have meltdowns. It’s ok to not have it all together. It’s OK and actually, it’s important. If you just “shove it under the rug” and ignore hurt, pain, or upset it stays with you and negatively effects your life. Allow yourself to feel. Give yourself space to be sad. Don’t be afraid to fall apart for a little while. You have to FEEL it to HEAL it. Because when you do that, the situation will open into an opportunity for you to heal from it, grow from it, and rebuild yourself into a stronger person because of it.
“Don’t forget you’re human. It’s okay to have a meltdown, just don’t unpack and live there. Cry it out and then refocus on where you are headed.”
Being kind to yourself is the best medicine. When it feels like everything is going wrong, show yourself some extra TLC. Simple pleasures and self-love can help alleviate suffering, whether it’s watching a comedy, using your favorite tea cup, being in nature, hanging with animals, listening to your favorite album, or taking a mini retreat to your favorite place. Whatever works for you. Show yourself a little extra kindness, care, and love when life gets hard.
Sometimes not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. It forces you to reevaluate things, opening new doors to opportunities and information you would have otherwise overlooked.
Don’t stop Believing. Just because life didn’t go as planned doesn’t mean you’ll never be happy again. Sometimes you have to go through difficulties, breakups, rejections and painful wounds, in order to gradually discover these powerful truths: 1) Life is not exactly how you thought it was. 2) The loss of one wonderful pleasure is not necessarily the loss of true, long-term happiness and well-being. Life rarely turns out exactly the way you want it to, but you always have an opportunity to make it great.
No matter what, today is a priceless gift and its up to you to make the best of it. There is always, always, always, something to be grateful for. Strength comes when you have so much to cry and complain about, but you prefer to smile and appreciate your life instead.
“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.” – Vivian Greene
You are not alone. We’ve all faced loss, fear, heartbreak, and sadness. So many of us are fighting the same exact battle alongside you. We are all in this together. Letting others in when you’re having a hard time helps. Let yourself lean on your loved ones and open up to them. No, they won’t always be able to pull you out of the challenge you’re in, but they will be able to give you some light and love on your way through.
Be positive, patient and persistent. Learn to trust the journey even when you don’t understand it. The strongest people aren’t the people who always win, but the people who don’t give up when they lose.
The dots will connect. We’re not going to always understand why everything happens in our lives. There are things that break us, challenge us, and test our limits. There are things that are not removed and situations that take a long time to change. You have to trust that it is what’s best for you. Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be. As Steve Jobs so famously said, “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.” Trust that your dots will connect. Have faith in yourself and in the future.
The best thing you can do is choose to be positive and keep going. You can’t control everything that happens to you; you can only control the way you respond to what happens. Your response is your power over whatever challenge you may face. So “Keep Calm and Carry On”. Smiling doesn’t always mean you’re happy with everything. Sometimes it just means you’re strong and smart enough to accept it and make the best of it.
If you can breathe, you can make it through anything. When fear, anxiety, worry, or stress sets in, stop yourself and take a minute to regroup. Don’t get too far ahead of yourself worrying about what might happen next. You don’t have any control over that. But you DO have the present moment. Take a DEEP breath and stay committed to being right here, right now. Just take it one day at a time and keep breathing. You’ll make it.
Those are some reminders I’ve used to help myself through challenges and tough times. What is one reminder that helps you stay strong when life gets really hard? Let me know your words of encouragement in the comments below.
At the end of the day, I hope that whatever you might be going through you know that:
1. You will get through it
2. You will be stronger for it
3. You will find more greatness out of life because of it.
I’m sending you positive energy and love my friends.
Cheer Yourself Up when injured! Here are some positive thoughts to help you heal from an injury.
Healing Thoughts To Recover From Injury
“Aloha from Maui Caroline! I just want to thank you so much for your positive attitude. You have helped me get through such a rough time. Since Sept. my Father was in and out of hospital sick and passed away March 28th. Meanwhile I had broke my foot and had surgery in Jan. I was on crutches for 2 months and just got out of my boot this past Monday. Your ‘hurt foot’ workout videos got me through it without going crazy from not being able to exercise. I’m an avid runner and spinner so it took everything for me to not go crazy. I start PT on Monday and looking forward to getting my life back. Thanks again for ALL your positiveness from the bottom of my heart.” – Lauren, Maui, Hawaii
“Hi Caroline, My name is Bob Mayer, and I live in northern Wisconsin. I’ve never so much as commented on a YouTube video before, but I needed to go out of my way to thank you for providing the broken foot workouts on YouTube. I’m a triathlete, half-marathon runner, cross country skier, basketball player, and (aspiring) weightlifter. So, having a broken foot really upends my lifestyle. I’m appreciative that folks like you are willing to put some time into people like me that have a frustrating injury. Again, thanks! Keep up the good work. Best, Bob” – Bob Mayer, Wisconsin
“Hi, Caroline! I just wanted to say thank you, really! I sprained my ankle for the first time in life, 5 months ago and it was horrible! It happened after training and I was so depressed about it and felt so helpless not able to move for almost 2 weeks and then having pain and not training at all. I was so happy to find your channel on YouTube and your videos have been so helpful ! Thank you for your advices, positive energy and help in such hard time. You rock! Keep on your great work! Looking forward to more videos from you! Have a great summer, Trisha” Trisha, Denmark
“Caroline, I just want to thank you SO much not only for your YouTube workouts for a broken foot, but for your AWESOME attitude and positive energy!! I have really been lifted up by your validation and empowering dialogue. Seriously, it is a hard thing to recover from an injury and have my usual cardio addiction at a standstill. Your workouts were my turning point from feeling completely depressed and victimized by my injury–to feeling optimistic and empowered that there IS something I can do to stay fit and positive. Your quote, “The only disability is a bad attitude” is like my new life motto!! I can’t tell you how much I needed that! And I can tell I’m healing faster with working out too. Thank you so much for your amazing work!! It’s making a huge difference for me!! ” Elsie Madison, California
I’ve dealt with my fair share of injuries. Each one has brought it’s own lessons and opportunities to strengthen my internal fitness. Injuries are part of being human and part of the experience of having a body. Sometimes you get sick, tired, hurt, or face physical challenges that are not in your control. It’s life and it happens. But it doesn’t make getting hurt any easier. If you are working through an injury right now, I am here to offer you some comfort and support.
Wellness is so much more than physical. It’s mental, it’s spiritual, it’s taking care of yourself as a whole. Keeping your mind + spirit in good shape will help you recover from your injury and return to good health. And I am here to help you take care of yourself inside and out.
Here are some healing thoughts to help you recover from injury and stay positive through the process.
How To Stay Positive When Recovering From An Injury.
Acknowledge and radically accept the injury. It is not what you wanted. It is not what you asked for. It sucks but here it is and you must be the one to prioritize and deal with it. Resistance in the healing process is not good. Acceptance helps release resistance. Accept that there are some things you cannot control about the healing process, like how long it may take. But also recognize that there are many things you can control, like how you react to it (moment by moment), how consistent you are with your rehab and treatment, the energy of people you keep around you while you are healing (this is a big one, keep the Negative Nancy’s away!), the alternative activities you do with your time while you are healing, and so on.
Be non-judgmental but honest with yourself about how it got to this point. Ask yourself, “What was my body trying to tell me?” and “Did I listen to its first signals? Or wait until it got to the point where the only way my body could get my attention was to take me out of the game for a bit?” This will help you learn how to better listen to your body. It will help you understand your body’s signals and messages to possibly prevent an injury from occurring again. However, sometimes sh*t happens and you break your foot without notice. Acknowledge that too and move on.
Affirm Your Body’s Ability to Recover and Empower Your Mind To Help you Heal. If you believe your body isn’t healing and talk about how you are not getting better, you are affirming the negative and NOT helping the recovery process. You must empower your mind to help heal your body. It’s kind of like preparing to run a race or deliver an important presentation at work. Close your eyes, visualize the outcome you want, and affirm to yourself that your body WILL heal and WILL recover back to full health. Empower your mind to think positively about recovery and help your body heal.
You are going to have good days and you are going to have bad days. And it’s important to know: thats OK. Throughout the recovery process you will have days where it’s easy to deal and manage healing. You may also have days where you feel frustrated, upset, impatient, angry, all sorts of emotions. It’s important to know that its totally normal to feel those feelings and to have positive strategies on hand for coping with them when they happen. Don’t isolate yourself or hurt yourself doing something self-destructive (like using drugs/alcohol/food to numb emotions or pushing your injury too far in a workout session that you re-hurt yourself.). Reach out to friends, family, loved ones. Do something to help release the feelings and restore your spirit in a healthy way. Which leads me to my next suggestion…
Cheer Yourself UP. Life is short. Injured or not, there is SO much to enjoy about it. Count your blessings instead of adding up your troubles. Choose to see the good in everything and make the best of the situation. Put on your favorite music. Sing out loud. Shake your booty. Watch funny movies. Surround yourself with friends. Plan your next vacation. Write thank you notes to those who made a difference in your life. Write a note of encouragement to yourself. Find ways to cheer yourself up. Your body will feel the positive energy and it will make you feel better.
Do what you CAN do. Don’t stew over what you can’t do. Do what you CAN do. If you have a hurt foot, work on your push-ups. If you hurt your wrist, practice your body weight squats. Work on the physical therapy exercises prescribed to you through your doctor. Do all your “homework” exercises and follow the doctors orders. Be the best patient there ever was, the kind doctors love to work with. You’ll heal faster and it will make you feel better to be proactive and positive about the recovery process.
Visualize it. Affirm it. Talk about it. Yes, realistically you are injured but that is no excuse to rehash the past every day with every ache or pain, or with every person that asks how you are doing. If some asks how you are doing say to them “Thanks for asking and I’m healing up.” or “On my way to coming back stronger and better.”
Most of you know, I am a big believer in positive affirmations (in fact, there’s a whole chapter in my book on them!). I recommend repeating one or two healing affirmations throughout the day. This will keep your mind in good shape. My favorite healing affirmations are “My body now restores itself to its natural state of perfect health” and “Every day in every way I am getting healthier and stronger”.
Be kind to yourself. The healing process is all about the art of allowing. Allowing releases resistance and therefore releases tension in the body that is needed for healing, as opposed to the resistance creating tension that inhibits healing. Being angry with our body is like being angry at a kid for having broken leg. What is done is done and now what is needed is support and kindness towards yourself. Also, allow others to take care of you and trust their care. This can be difficult for Type-A-control-freak-independent types (again I say this in the most endearing sense, you all know I love you) but maybe that is a part of the lesson. Many high achieving individuals struggle with asking or receiving help. Be kind to yourself and allow others to help support your needs. This in itself can be very empowering because we are all in this together. There is no person on earth that does not need someone for something in their life, we are all interdependent.
Accept this moment and this injury in this time and space. Try to see your injury isolated to this time and space in your life. Just because something is happening now does not mean it will happen again, especially if we learn from it. What you resist only stays with you longer and when you fight something, you only make it stronger. Flow with reality, not against it. Choose to accept what is, be positive and proactive, let go of the need to control every little detail, and embrace peace in the process. Remember: what you resist persists, what you embrace dissolves. Practice letting go and trusting your body. Which leads me to my last suggestion…
Trust yourself and trust your body. Time to heal allows you to focus on yourself. Sometimes we think that because we train and workout we are paying attention to ourselves when really we may be distracting from life or other issues. An injury allows you to learn more about you. It provides and opportunity to learn how to be more self compassionate. It also provides time to reflect on things that may need to change in your life. Healing through an injury allows you to make space in your life FOR YOU. Guess what, your life is not going anywhere and if you use this time to take care of yourself and heal correctly you’ll probably come back stronger, wiser, and better than before. I’ve seen it happen time and time again. However, it is up to you to prioritize yourself and take good care of YOU during this time.
While I could go on and on about coping with various psychological and emotional aspects of an injury, I truly believe that each individual faces their own unique healing process. If you need additional support moving positively forward to health through this time, I offer phone wellness coaching. You can set up an appointment by emailing: firstname.lastname@example.org
I hope this offers you some comfort and support through this difficult time. It is important that you recognize that you can choose how you react to your situation. Remember, “If you change the way you see things, the things you see change.” Injury and pain in life are opportunities to grow and sometimes change directions in life. Be open to what this time in your life is reflecting back to you. Take it one day, one breath at a time.
Have you ever found yourself ruminating and overanalyzing what someone said to you hours after a conversation? Or worried that when a friend doesn’t text you back that they are upset with you? Perhaps you feel hurt by your co-workers actions and feel like they are “out to get you” in the office. Or maybe someone says something which you take as an insult or you assume a person doesn’t like you if they walk past without saying hello.
Why is it so hard not to take things personally? We are human and we all struggle with this from time to time. It’s easy to feel unloved and unwanted when people aren’t able to communicate and connect with you in the way you expect. And it’s so hard not to internalize that disconnection as a reflection on your worth. But the truth is, the way other people behave and function is not about you. In one of my favorite books, “The Four Agreements”, author Don Miguel Ruiz writes,
“Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz
This concept seems easy on paper, but it can be hard to put to practice in our lives. When it comes down to it, you’re in control of how you interpret things. Think of how much happier you’d be with a new perspective. Here are some suggestions on how to shift your mindset and adjust your interactions so you can live in peace.
How to Not Take Things Personally.
Realize: It’s just not all about you. Other’s interactions and way of being is a reflection of them and it’s nothing personal. If someone is being unkind to you, remember that they’re probably behaving this way because of something that’s happened to them in the past or present; which has nothing to do with you. They might be having a bad day, going through a rough period, or it might just be their personality. Everyone has their own issues they are working through. Once you realize that the world isn’t all about you, you will be happier.
Wait to respond. Controlling your response in any given situation allows you to reflect on what’s happening and calmly communicate with the person that might be getting under your skin. Before reacting to another’s actions or saying something you might regret, STOP. Pause and take a deep breath. Resist the urge to act immediately through a difficult emotion. Instead, create space to develop an appropriate response and then act with intention.
In difficult conversations, use Nonviolent Communication. Nonviolent communication is also known as Compassionate Communication or Collaborative Communication. It was invented by Marshall Rosenberg in the 1960s and focuses on self-empathy, empathy, and honest self-expression. It’s a four-step process based on (1) observation, (2) feeling, (3) need, (4) request. When I went to wellness coaching school, we studied Nonviolent communication as a technique to have difficult conversations.
For example: “Dan, when I (1) see dishes in the sink, I (2) feel irritated because I’m needing (3) the kitchen that we share in common to be clean. (4) Could you please do your dishes?” You’re not taking the fact that he hasn’t done the dishes, personally; you’re communicating how you feel without being irrational or demeaning. You can learn more at The Centre for Nonviolent Communication.
Have Empathy. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes by trying to understand what the other person might be feeling/thinking/trying to convey to you and what his or her circumstances are that may influence their behavior.
Seek clarification before jumping to conclusions. Instead of making an assumption, first ask the other person for more information and give them the benefit of the doubt. It’s too easy to assign motives to others. You think they say something a certain way and before you know it you’re getting mad at them before you even speak to them. A better option is to give them the benefit of the doubt. If they do something that confuses you, ask them about it without judgment.
Be okay with being vulnerable and expressing when someone’s actions hurt you. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable by expressing our feelings can help resolve conflicts. My friends know, when there’s a disagreement or mis-understanding, I want to talk it out right away. I believe it’s far better to be uncomfortable being vulnerable and have a difficult conversation than to live with upset in your heart.
Take comments or criticism in a constructive way. If you are criticised, ask yourself if there’s any truth to it, and what you can learn. Even if it wasn’t said in a nice way, you can still learn something. Take the lessons and choose to see the positives in every experience.
Dont dwell on it. Every moment we spend dwelling over the past, even minutes ago, we lose precious time Now. Obsessing over what happened and holding on to anger, resentment, or hurt only causes pain in your life. Learn what you can from the situation and then let it go. I know it can be hard to do, especially if you feel upset and hurt. But it’s very important you don’t obsess over past pain and problems. For these things have the power to poison your heart, your mind, your body, and your life.
Realise that you can’t please everyone. No matter who you are or what you do, there will always be people who dislike or criticise you. You can’t change other people and all you can do is be yourself. At the end of the day, “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
Distance Yourself from Toxic People. Sometimes it’s extra challenging not to take things personally because you are around toxic people. If you know someone who insists on destructively dictating the emotional atmosphere, then be clear: they are toxic. If you are suffering because of their attitude, you’ve tried the steps above, and it doesn’t seem to help or they don’t seem to care one bit, then ask yourself, “Do I need this person in my life?” When you delete toxic people from your environment it becomes a lot easier to breathe. If the circumstances warrant it, leave these people behind and move on when you must. Be strong and know when enough is enough! Letting go of toxic people doesn’t mean you hate them, or that you wish them harm; it simply means you care about your own well-being. Don’t let toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and get them out of there.
Make sure you have plenty of time for Self Care. Think about how you feel when you haven’t slept, had enough quality nutrition, or haven’t had enough time for yourself. Cranky, moody, and easily upset, right? If you don’t make enough time to care about yourself, you will be more sensitive to taking the words and actions of others personally. But if you give yourself the consistent self-care and love you deserve, you will feel strong and grounded within yourself and other people’s actions and words won’t get to you as much.
Learn to love yourself. Realise that your self-worth depends on you. It does not depend on what others say about you. We take things personally when we care too much about what others think. Instead, give that validation to yourself, so you don’t have to rely on other people to make you feel worthy of love and care. It’s natural to want to feel accepted and loved, but don’t give your power away to other people. When you don’t feel confident in yourself, you will always seek that feeling from other people, but it will never totally satisfy you. Stop relying on others to fuel your self-esteem and love yourself. The love and attention from others should just serve as an added bonus to what you already have cultivated within.
Can you imagine how many problems could be avoided or solved by practicing this concept and following the steps above? It does require awareness, effort, persistence, and time to stop taking things personally, especially when it’s something you are used to doing. It’s well worth the effort. You will find that your self-esteem and overall quality of life will improve when you stop taking things personally. Commit yourself to self-awareness so you can monitor the times that you’re reading too much into a situation. Practice the suggestions above so you can resolve conflicts externally or internally with calm. Little by little you’ll see a change in your perspective that will positively impact your relationships, especially the one with yourself.
It all boils down to a choice. A choice we sometimes forget we have, but one that can either strengthen us or weaken us. Next time an opportunity arises to take something personally, which will you choose, fear or love? The reality is: the world is impersonal and people do annoying, painful, unimaginable things every single day. That doesn’t mean you have to let that get under your skin.The more you focus on things that make you feel good personally, the less you will take things personally, and the more you will enjoy life.
Writing is one of my personal passions and I loved writing this piece. I hope it helps you in your life, let me know your thoughts in the comment section below and thanks for sharing this article. If you don’t like it, I promise I won’t take it personally 😉
Want to fall in love? Start with yourself. Here are 70 actionable ways to love yourself and love your life.
When Valentine’s Day approaches, we all start looking for signs of love outside of ourselves—chocolate, cards, phone calls, flowers, gifts or other sweet sentiments. It’s all too easy to connect our happiness to these external factors and use these things to define the level of love in our lives.
Yet it’s important to remember that happiness is not really determined by the external world, but by the world found inside of you. No amount of flowers, gifts, or love from someone else can fill a void created by a lack of internal happiness. Love is an inside job—and the irony of it is, in order to receive it, we have to already have it. So with Valentine’s Day coming up, Id like to invite you to look at your relationship with yourself and your life. Are you in love with it?
Love takes work. Relationships take work. And the love you have for yourself and your life – yes, you guessed it – takes work. Just like anything worth working for, great love doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time, sweat, dedication, patience, practice, persistence, and a positive attitude. It’s a never ending work in progress but one thing I know for sure: learning to love yourself is a sure way to bring more happiness into your life. Here are 70 actionable ways you can love yourself and create a positive, powerful relationship to your life.
70 Ways to fall in Love With Yourself and Love Your Life.
Use positive language (especially when talking to yourself).
Don’t sabotage your happiness. Get out of your own way.
Find your voice and listen to it.
Surround yourself with positive people.
Believe in your ability to change your life.
Don’t compare yourself to others.
Ask for help.
Take life one day at a time.
Treat others how they want to be treated. Golden rule people!
Don’t let fear hold you back. Feel the fear. Do it anyway.
Don’t create unnecessary drama. Don’t put up with people that do.
Stop making excuses.
Get rid of mental clutter.
Get rid of physical clutter.
Set up clear boundaries.
Seek out opportunities.
Don’t take things personally.
Celebrate the little things.
Trust your intuition.
Help others help themselves.
Be a good listener.
Don’t take life so seriously.
Pick your battles.
Highlight your strengths.
Look for beauty everywhere.
Let go of what you don’t need.
Work hard and play hard.
Know your life has a purpose.
Greet yourself with love.
Pay attention to what your body is saying.
Take calming time-outs.
Don’t wait for someday.
Look for learning opportunities.
Make time to play.
Don’t settle. Ever.
Don’t waste time on hate and envy.
Handle stress positively.
Inspire yourself – and others.
Try your best in everything.
Turn your face to the sun.
Stop wanting to be what you’re not.
Be your own hero.
“The most important relationship in your life is the relationship you have with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself.”. Give yourself permission to fall in love with yourself, no matter what’s missing or what you wish could be different. You’ve got one life and like it or not, you are married to it. You might as well make it the relationship of a lifetime and find all the beauty in it. To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven. Don’t wait until you die. If you wait, you die now. If you love, you live now. So go ahead! You have nothing to lose. Fall head over heels in love with yourself and love your life (every minute of it).
Want more help on loving yourself inside and out? Check out my book, Balanced Body Breakthrough. I’ve got chapters worth of content on self love, self-esteem, and self-care. It will help you take action and love yourself so you can love your life.
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Many people talk about “burning off” holiday calories or exercising to earn their holiday treats. Well let me tell you: this mindset sets you up for a negative relationship to fitness and a lifetime of fighting for a healthy weight. Anytime the motivation to move or eat well comes from a place of guilt, shame, or fear, the outcome never leaves you feeling better long term. And who wants to live through the holidays feeling scared to gain weight? Shouldn’t it be a time of joy and celebration? Yes. And it all starts with shifting your mindset.
Christmas Morning Run. How I like to celebrate after seeing Santa 😉
It makes me sad to hear people equate sugar cookies consumed with number of burpees performed. Or over-exercise just to over-eat and make themselves sick. Eating well and exercise during the holiday season is about SO MUCH MORE than avoiding weight gain. It’s about :
– Having energy, stamina, and strength. From holiday parties to shopping, long days of cooking or socializing, you’ll have more power to do it all with quality fuel and exercise induced endorphin power.
– Having a healthy way to bond with friends and family. One of my favorite ways to build positive relationships is through exercise and eating well. Preparing nourishing meals and making time to exercise with each other, supports both your relationship AND your health goals. Its all about how you choose to spend time with your loved ones. Together you can create an environment of support that embraces exercise and eating well in a positive light. If you want them to, your relationships CAN support you in your health.
Family Bonding over Making Strawberry Santa Hat Treats for the holidays
– Managing the physical stress of traveling or unusual schedules. Nothing says back pain like a full schedule, the car, or airplane. A little bit of exercise goes a long way and helps you not feel so bent out of shape from long days. Healthy meals and snacks keep your digestion and mood on track despite unusual hours. Exercise and eating right helps you travel smart, manage long hours, and get around feeling your best.
– Feeling confident at family/friend gatherings. You know that feeling you get after a workout? Or that satisfied sensation you experience after eating a nourishing meal? A million bucks, top of the world, happier than ever, ready to conquer? Yea I thought so. Me too. It’s that undeniable, unstoppable power that health gives you. It puts extra strength in every step and the confidence that gives all your holiday plans a little boost.
– Finding calm, stress relief, and a better mental state. The holidays can be emotional, demanding, and challenging for many people. From dysfunctional family gatherings to running into ex-boyfriends or old memories, it’s a time of year that can bring up a lot of feelings. But when you take time for yourself and connect to the silence within you, that’s when you can make sense of any chaos going on around you. Exercise can be that space for you. It can give you time to clear your mind, feel your feelings, sort through your emotions, and find a better state of being. Simply by taking time out to take care of yourself will allow you to be your best and deal with any stress with a positive outlet.
– Being more present and in the moment. Taking care of your health allows you to be conscious of how your body feels, what you put in your body, and what you put in your mind. Fitness is a practice of listening to your body and mindfully nourishing yourself with healthy foods and movement. Research has shown that being more present with how you care for your body can relieve stress, while also improving energy levels, memory and attention. Which in itself allows you to truly be present throughout the holiday season.
I’m not saying NOT to indulge in your favorite holiday treats or take some well-deserved time off to hang in your christmas pjs over the holidays. Please DO! I believe in balance, listening to your body, and living life to the fullest. I just want to invite you to shift the way you look at exercise and eating over the holidays. Motivate from a place of gratefulness, health, and feeling your best. You deserve a life full of energy and strength to celebrate all the blessings in your life. Through moderation and choosing to look at health as a gift, I believe that you’ll drop the holiday “fight to fitness” and find yourself feeling your best.
What gifts does exercise and eating well give YOU during the holiday season? Leave me one way you power up your holidays as a comment below. Lets choose to be grateful, grounded, and happier through making exercise and eating well a positive, uplifting part of our lifestyle.
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My name is Megan, I am 19 years old and I am writing to you to say thank you. I have struggled with body image and exercise my entire life, when I was 12 years old I was extremely over weight, and by the time I was 14 I was in the beginning stages of anorexia. I went from being a kid who hated sports and loved junk food to a teenage girl that would go days without eating and exercising constantly. As I got a little older I realized neither scenario was healthy. I cared only about my exterior and not about my health. As I started to eat again, I gained weight, which was good but I wasn’t happy with how I looked. By 16 I knew how to eat healthy and loved the way good, nutritious food made me feel, but HATED exercising because I associated it with the struggles I had with my eating disorder. Again, I still hated the way I looked.
About 2 years ago is when I found your YouTube channel. I was looking for workouts to make me skinny and busting my butt and hating exercise. Your channel was different, your exercises eased me into a healthy fitness regime and your positivity, energy and kindness made me realize that a healthy lifestyle is achievable by forgetting the exterior and most importantly having a positive outlook on yourself, others and on life.
Now, I am the happiest I have ever been, I feel amazing, move every day, and eat healthy food for energy to keep me going. I would like to say you were a huge part of how i feel today. Thank you, thank you, thank you!
In health AND happiness
I can’t even begin to tell you how incredibly touched and inspired I was by your story. THANK YOU for taking the time to write and to share your journey so openly with me. I am extremely grateful youtube brought us together and allowed us to share time online being healthy, happy, and positive. Your story is exactlywhy I do the work I do, to inspire a healthy relationship to self and to empower others to live a life that FEELS good and is full of happiness. I hope we continue to share this life journey together and I hope to see you on towards dreaming big, being brave, accomplishing goals, loving life, and loving yourself. Your note today touched my heart in such a powerful way. You have truly inspired me and I am honored to have been a part of your journey.
I can’t wait to film more videos to share with you through youtube! If you ever have any requests for videos please let me know – I am so happy I get to support you through the channel. And in the event you ever want to share your story below anonymously as a testimonial on my “Caroline Jordan Fitness” social media I would be honored. I know your story would inspire others to adopt a healthy and happy relationship to exercise! WE are the change in the world! WE can help others live a life that FEELS good and is positive simply by doing it ourselves. THANK YOU for being the change and helping create a healthier, more positive, more self-loving world. I hope you know how beautiful you are inside and out. And I hope you know how your life is positively impacting the health and happiness of the planet.
Till next time – keep inspiring and keep shining. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for this beautiful note 🙂
Wow! I did not even expect a response. I can truly tell you care about what you do and it makes a huge difference in the lives of others. I just thought I should say thank you, because you definitely were a part of the push I needed to get me where I am today.
I think that a healthy body image and acceptance of self is so important in creating a happier life. I would love to help you improve the happiness and health of others by sharing my story anonymously. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, and I hope to inspire others the way you do.
Also, your channel and weekly newsletters have inspired someone all the way in Canada! Good for you 🙂
*** Reader’s name has been changed to respect her privacy ***
Megan’s transformation story touched me deeply and re-affirmed my work in the world. People ask me all the time: Caroline, what exactly do you do? And I don’t have a one word answer. Im a little bit of everything. A little bit teacher. A little bit coach. A little bit writer. A little bit model. A little bit speaker. All of these little bits mix into the big piece of Caroline Jordan Fitness. I am not a one word answer. I am a unique blend of positivity, purpose, heart, and character. I want to make the world a better place through my work. I want to inspire and enable people to love themselves, take care of themselves, and live a life that feels good inside and out. Megan’s story reminded me of WHY I do what I do. I wanted to share it in this space as I thought it might inspire you on your healthy journey too.
I was raised in movement. Dance and fitness are part of my DNA makeup. It is in my blood, it is something I love, and it is what I live. My first big career dream when I was growing up was to be a “successful fitness instructor” teaching world wide and helping others find the joy in movement. I have journals from high school where I described in detail my visions of success in spandex. Teaching group fitness through high school nurtured my passion and I continued on to pursue Dance and fitness in college which affirmed my mission: I was put on this planet to inspire movement and loving life through health.
After graduation I hustled in San Francisco to work in fitness full time. It was a successful career, yet burnt me out. I became disillusioned. While there is a lot of good in the fitness world, there is also a lot of negative. The extreme, image obsessed, “push yourself till you puke”, and “work yourself to exhaustion” messages are very strong and celebrated. They reinforce a negative relationship to exercise, body, and self. This superficial side of the industry and “six pack abs” songs of glory turned me off. I believe that looking good on the outside is not the path to happiness, but instead believe that feeling good on the inside is the path to happiness. Exercise and movement IS a gateway to fulfill your highest potential, but too often this message gets lost in the “harder better faster stronger” and “look sexy or you aren’t successful” messaging thats out there. I didn’t want a part of it, I wanted a way out. So I signed up to earn my Health and Wellness Coach cert and I started to change career paths.
Studying positive psychology and wellness coaching lit a fire in me. I discovered strengths and skills I didn’t know I had. My career blossomed and branched out as a result. Through coaching my brand began to morph from one of just “fitness professional” to “other”. I still held a space in fitness, yet was pursuing all these opportunities under the vast umbrella of wellness. Through the years I morphed into what I am now – this unique combination of a little bit of everything with one mission: inspire positive thoughts to enable positive actions that create positive outcomes in the world.
For so long I wanted “out” of the fitness industry because I was tired of fighting it’s dark superficial side. Yet over the past few years and through email reminders like Megan’s, I have come to a realization. Fitness is something I love and something I strongly believe in. My work in fitness has been a powerful pathway to get my message out into the world. I now understand that by embracing my fitness roots I can take my Caroline Jordan Fitness mission to new heights. I have been called not to leave the fitness industry, but to LEAD the change within the fitness industry. Will you join me?
I know that the work that I am doing IS serving a purpose. My brand works to shift perspectives and allows others to adopt a healthier life not because it makes them “look good” or fit into a cultural mold, but instead to live their best lives and fulfill their greatest potential. It’s stories like Megan’s that keep my fire burning that remind me to keep going.
Let me ask you: Where are you on your healthy life journey? How can I help you along the way? Tell me how I can be of service in the comments below, it brings me great joy to see you thrive.
I believe in you and believe you have the power to choose to love yourself and love your life. And if ever you forget your own greatness, I want to be the voice thats there to remind you of your strength. Stay committed, positive, present, and persistent. You deserve to feel good and to live a life you love.
Every year around this time, gyms get the influx of new members wanting to get “beach-ready” bodies in time for summer. We go crazy trying to find the perfect “30 Days to Perfect Abs” workout and the right fad diet that promises to make us fit and fabulous by the time we need to get into a swimsuit.
Is there anything wrong with that? I mean, at least people are trying to get into shape, right? There’s nothing inherently wrong with wanting to shape up for summer, but it’s important to go about it in a healthy manner that promotes your overall wellness and doesn’t push you toward unhealthy fad dieting or injury from overly intense workouts.
The summer fitness obsession distracts from the joy of the season and is often the reason so many people’s healthy living goals are failing. Listen up: Just because beach weather is a few weeks away does not mean you have to go on a crazy crash diet. Instead, I suggest you take action with these expert tips to get your body (and mind!) in tip-top shape — the healthy way. Can you get fit without obsessing about it? I think so, here are my tips on how :
How to Be Fit Without Obsessing About It : Getting In Shape for Summer the Healthy Way.
Ignore the hype and lose the extremes. If a program offers “instant” results—AKA, 30 days or less—it is probably either complete nonsense or extremely unhealthy. As fabulous as it would be to go from size 12 to size 6 in one months, it’s simply not feasible or sustainable. The kinds of diets that promise this kind of impossibly fast change are usually those that encourage you to starve yourself and deprive your body of essential nutrients in favor of dropping pounds or getting “lean” for your swimsuit. This is unsustainable because your body can’t function off of gummy bears or cotton balls for long before it starts deteriorating. You’re alsopretty much guaranteedto gain back the weight afterward. Avoid falling into the “quick fix” trap and….
Make SMALL changes consistently. Instead of jumping on the next 10 day juice cleanse or giving up carbs forever, make small healthy consistent changes. Many studies have shown those who focus on slow and steady lifestyle changes are far better at sustaining it. Start small and make healthy changes that work for you. Anything from eating a better breakfast or adding one more workout to your week counts. Remember, Rome wasn’t built in a day– the secret to lasting lifestyle change is to keep going in a positive direction. Motivation is what gets you started, habit is what keeps you going.
GET OFF the scale. This is controversial advice, as many studies have shownpeople who weigh themselves regularly are more successfulat long-term weight loss. The problem with the scale is that it can lie, it can be frustrating when it barely budges, it doesn’t reflect gaining muscle, and it can just become something you hate doing (or cause more body obsession – not a good thing). While the studies show regular scale users are better at weight loss, they haven’t been compared with what I think are far more positive things to measure, such as miles run each week, weight lifted, fitness classes attended, fast food meals avoided, healthy meals prepared, fruits and vegetables consumed. And there are better ways to assess results, like how your clothes fit, your energy levels and even your sex drive. If you can use the scale in a way that elicits a positive mindset, then go ahead, but if it stresses you out, consider tossing it and tracking other more important variables instead.
Stop comparing yourself to other people. It’s okay to be in friendly competition with your gym buddies. It’s not okay to get so caught up in trying to be the best that you become discouraged when others seem to be making more progress than you. Everyone is different. Bodies come in all shapes and sizes, with differing metabolic rates, body fat percentages and capabilities. The best thing to do is to judge your own progress. If you’re doing better than you were last month, or last week, then you’re doing something right.
Get Your HEART pumping. Regular exercise helps you achieve both physical and mental wellness. Make movement part of your life and exercise most days of the week. For cardio, aim for at least 20 minutes, everyday for health; 30-45 minutes 5-6 days per week for aerobic and fitness improvement. There’s no need to hit the gym HARD everyday. Vary your cardiovascular training with low, moderate, and high intensities. And most importantly don’t forget to….
Build lean muscle and body confidence with Strength Training. Strength training is the secret to maintaining a healthy body and mindset throughout every season of your life. It gives your metabolism a major BOOST by increasing the metabolic rate, allowing the body burn more calories throughout the day. It also increases lean muscle mass and overall strength, helping to improve performance, endurance, and energy levels. These things combined work to help you maintain your weight goals over a long period of time. Not only that but lifting weights has been shown to improve psychological health, by increasing self-esteem, confidence, and self-worth (all KEY components if you want a healthy body and mind for your lifetime). Aim to strength train 2-3 times per week to reap the lifetime benefits.Get motivated here and follow the A.C.E. strength training guide to get started.
Find Your Team. A good support system is a vital element to reaching your goals in a healthy way. Often times its not about getting tons of support, but about finding the RIGHT people to help you. Communicate your goals to people in your life who will hold you accountable, help you overcome obstacles, and keep you from going crazy with extremes (no 30 day juice cleanses!) when it comes to reaching your goals. Im a big believer in coaching, as I have seen the rewards that investing in yourself can bring. A coach can help you overcome roadblocks, keep you moving forward towards the life you want, and give you constant encouragement and support. The secret to a life of lasting healthy habits is surrounding yourself with others who lift you up and keep you in check so you don’t become “obsessed” with a bikini brain mindset 😉
Don’t diet. Just eat HEALTHY. If you go ON a diet you will eventually have to go off a diet. Want lasting, healthy, positive change that doesn’t have a yo-yo effect? Improve your relationship to food and learn to nourish yourself. Don’t just eat salads this summer – learn about nutrition and how to eat to feel amazing – it’s worth investing time in and will help you eat healthy for all the seasons.
MIX it UP. Routine is the enemy of results. After doing the same cardio/strength routine your body adapts and you burn fewer calories. Eventually your results – weight loss, muscle definition – will slow down. And repeatedly placing stress on the same muscles and joints could lead to an overuse injury. Also sticking to a super strict routine can cause you to become too obsessed with it. If you feel like you always have to run 10 miles a week or do yoga on mondays at noon, it might be time to force yourself out of your routine comfort zone. Heres your ACTION PLAN: Once a every 2-3 weeks, change one thing about your workout regimen. Take a dance class instead of your saturday run, or use a resistance band instead of dumbbells. Not only will you see better results with a varied plan, mixing things up may help you stick with exercise in the end. Refresh your mind, body, and spirit on a regular basis by mixing things up consistently.
Stop criticizing your body. Quit grabbing the skin around your waist and staring at it angrily in the mirror. Stop complaining to your friends about how bloated you are or how much you’d rather look a certain way. Stop! None of this is helpful. Obsessing over how great some model or over how you wish you had a different body part is only detrimental to your health. If you continue to beat yourself up over your imperfections, you’ll never be happy with yourself. You are going to be in your skin for the rest of your life – you might as well learn to love and get comfortable in it.
Think beyond the bathing suit. FOCUS ON HOW YOUR LIFE FEELS. Getting into shape is great for beach season, but it’s also much more than that. Eating clean and exercising regularly won’t just make you look good—a healthy lifestyle will make you feel better all-around. So while getting bikini-ready might be a good starting point for your fitness journey, it shouldn’t be the sole reason for the changes you make to your lifestyle. Because of the culture we live in, we’re always going to be under-impressed with our own bodies. It’s human nature to constantly feel like we could do more and look better. But if your perspective is to focus on how you feel more than on how you look, you’ve got a much better chance of sticking with your goals and being healthy longterm. Besides, feeling good is addicting! The more energized and productive you feel, the more you’re going to want to continue doing the things that are contributing to your wellbeing. Live a life that feels good on the inside, not just one that looks good in a bikini.
Getting in shape is a great goal, and getting started on it in time for summer is fantastic! But do it for the right reasons, the right way. Health is not a 30-day thing, a 60- or a 90-day thing. Healthy is not about being “fit” for summer, its about living fit for your lifetime. Put your overall well-being ahead of any aesthetic details. The better you feel about yourself, the better you take care of yourself, and the healthier you are for the rest of your life.
There are so many other amazing things to enjoy this summer. Dont waste your days in diet and workout obsession trying to get to a image of “beach body” perfection that doesn’t exist. Love yourself, accept yourself, take care of yourself, and enjoy the season FULLY in health and happiness. Now how does that sound for a summer vacation?
Till next time, keep shining,
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