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Something To Remember When You Feel Hurt, Sad, Lost, or Alone.

Here are some things to keep in mind when you feel hurt, sad, lost, or alone. Read this post and give yourself this important reminder.

Recently I received this thoughtful comment on a Caroline Jordan Fitness self healing meditation : “Hello friends! I just wanted to share my experience with the practice. I just recently had a extremely intense and traumatic event in my life, that has left me unable to pick up my left foot and on crutches. It’s been almost a week, and this meditation helped not only my hope to heal and drive my negotiable thoughts and fears out but the feeling in my leg is more present than it has been since I was shot. A big thank you for sharing this and I intend on practicing it everyday even after I heal! Much love!”

I receive comments and messages like this often from coaching clients, YouTube subscribers, and community. Each note leaves an imprint on my heart and serves as an important reminder that so many of us are fighting a similar battle right now.  

I know in the midst of bad days and hard challenges, it can be easy to look around and see a bunch of people who seem to be doing perfectly fine.  But I assure you they’re not.  We’re all struggling in our own unique way, every single day.  And if we could just be brave enough to open up about it, and talk to each other more often, we’d realize that we are not alone in feeling lost and alone with our issues.

Try to remember this.  No matter how embarrassed or pathetic you feel about your own situation, there are others out there experiencing the same emotions.  When you hear yourself say, “I am all alone,” it’s just your subconscious mind trying to convince you of a lie.

There’s always someone who can relate to you.

There’s always someone who understands.

Perhaps you can’t immediately talk to them, but they are out there.

I am out there.

I want you to know that I understand.  Life is not always easy.  Every day can be an unpredictable challenge.  Some days it can be difficult just to get out of bed in the morning, to face reality and put on that smile.  But I want you to know that your smile has kept me going on more days than I can count.  Never forget that, even when times get tough, as they sometimes will, you are incredible, you really are.

So please try to smile more often.  Even when times are hard, you have so many reasons to.  Time and time again, my reason is you.

You won’t always be perfect and neither will I.  Because nobody is perfect, and nobody deserves to be perfect.  Everybody has issues.  Nobody has it easy.  You will never know exactly what I’m going through, and I will never know exactly what you’re going through.  We are all fighting our own unique war.

But we are fighting through it simultaneously, together.

Remember, our courage doesn’t always roar.  Sometimes it’s the quiet voice at the end of the day whispering, “I will try again tomorrow.”  So stand strong.  

Things turn out best for people who make the best out of the way things turn out.

I hope the short story above helps you feel less alone in your challenges.  I hope it gives you hope. Good and bad, losses and wins, I am committed to making the best of this life along with YOU. Have you tried my guided meditation for self healing? Has it helped you through a tough time? I love hearing reviews, comments, and stories from you! Keep them coming   One day at a time, one step at a time. Hard days and not, every day is a gift.  Keep your chin up and keep shining my friends.

Caroline

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10 Minute Self Healing Meditation for Relief from Injury, Illness, Pain, and Negative Thoughts

This 10 minute guided Self Healing meditation will support you in manifesting a full physical mind and body healing. Each time you listen, it will initiate a deep healing transformation of every cell in your body. Other benefits include instant relief from physical pain, healing long-term illnesses, finding deep levels of inner peace, an increased amount of energy, and the quieting of mind chatter. This Self Healing Meditation will soothe your body and relieve your mind of any so you can receive a physically transformative healing experience.

Self Healing Meditation

Self Healing Meditation

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Depressed, anxious, scared, frustrated, angry, hurt, resentful, hopeless, hurt, in pain, desperate, emotional…

Dealing with pain can make you unravel. I know. I have been there and I want to help you feel better.

As you know, I have been working through a particularly challenging foot injury. Its taken me out of so many things I love (high heels included) and there have been times when I have felt depressed, hopeless, frustrated, and physically/mentally exhausted. When I feel like this I know that one of the best things I can do to support myself is to meditate. I find that meditation helps me reset and shift my consciousness so that I can find the present moment and view life in a positive light. This in turn eases my depression/anxiety/exhaustion; sometimes, it eradicates it completely.

The endurance and uncertainty of an injury is emotionally exhausting. In those times where I feel lost, upset, drained, hopeless, or scared about what’s next, I have turned to meditation and prayer to help.

When you feel stuck in that place of hopelessness and depression you must find a way to shift your state of being. Remember your thoughts and beliefs affect your body’s ability to heal. If you are caught in a negative thought cycle and obsessed with your pain, you’ll only move downward. What you focus on expands and if you let yourself worry about pain, you are giving more power to it. Both health and illness is a part of life. When you keep that in mind and have a positive state of mind, then illnesses or injury can change.

If you are feeling hopeless, depressed, or stuck in a state of pain, this quick Self Healing meditation can help you shift your mindset to a more positive place. This Self Healing meditation is about establishing a different relationship with your thoughts and affirming your body’s ability to heal itself. You’re training yourself to place your attention where and when you want. This is very powerful. It gives you the ability to direct your thoughts (and mood) in more productive and peaceful directions. This ability has profound self-healing implications for physical and mental health.

The mind is a powerful thing, and our thought and intent are as potent as any medicine.

How this Self Healing Meditation Helps The Body Heal Itself

The body knows how to heal itself. It is equipped with natural self-repair mechanisms that repair broken proteins, kill cancer cells, fight infections, prevent aging, and maintain the homeostasis of the body. When the body gets sick, whether from the common cold or something more serious, like heart disease or cancer, it’s almost always because the body’s self-repair mechanisms have broken down, usually because of stress.

When the nervous system is stressed, as it is during the “fight-or-flight” stress response that is so commonly triggered in modern day life, these self-repair mechanisms are disabled and the body is at risk for disease or injury. Only when the counterbalancing relaxation response is activated, when the sympathetic nervous system is turned off and the parasympathetic nervous system is turned on, can the body heal itself.

So how can you turn on that relaxation response so the body can heal itself? My book, Balanced Body Breakthrough, lists many ways, but one of the simplest and most effective is meditation!  Meditation has been scientifically proven to activate the relaxation response, and as a result, almost every health condition improves. Research has shown meditation is effective in treating angina pectoris, cardiac arrhythmias, allergic skin reactions, anxiety, mild to moderate depression, bronchial asthma, herpes simplex, cough, constipation, diabetes mellitus, duodenal ulcers, dizziness, fatigue, hypertension, infertility, insomnia, nausea and vomiting during pregnancy, nervousness, postoperative swelling, premenstrual syndrome, rheumatoid arthritis, side effects of cancer, side effects of AIDS, injury and all forms of pain – backaches, headaches, abdominal pain, muscle pain, joint aches, postoperative pain, neck, arm, and leg pain.

Meditation has been shown to decrease stress-related cortisol, reduce respiration and heart rate, reduce the metabolic rate, increase blood flow in the brain, increase activity in the left prefrontal cortex (which is observed in happier people), strengthen the immune system, and lead to a state of relaxation.

Meditation also reduces work stress, anxiety, and depression, promotes cardiovascular health, improves cognitive function, reduces alcohol abuse, improves longevity, promotes healthy weight, improves immune function, and heightens quality of life.

If you are struggling with injury or illness, making a consistent effort to practice Meditation will help your nervous system relax. Doing so will help you heal from injury, pain, illness, or negative stress patterns that hurt your health.

Meditation for Self Healing

Meditation for Self Healing

Guided Meditation For Self Healing. Heal from Injury, Illness, Pain, and Negative Thoughts

This Self Healing Meditation was inspired by what I have experienced during my own journey to healing, and was specially created to assist those of you who are currently going through physical challenges and dealing with pain. I believe in the body’s wisdom and capacity to heal itself. This 10 minute guided meditation will support you in manifesting a full physical mind and body healing. Each time you listen, it will initiate a deep healing transformation of every cell in your body. Other benefits include instant relief from physical pain, healing long-term illnesses, finding deep levels of inner peace, an increased amount of energy, and the quieting of mind chatter. This Self Healing Meditation will soothe your body and relieve your mind of any so you can receive a physically transformative healing experience.

The benefits of practicing this Self Healing Meditation include:

  • Assisting you in releasing your fears by relaxing your mind
  • Giving you more energy to focus toward physical healing
  • Training your mind to support your body and restore wellness
  • Helping your body relax so it can repair itself.

Guided Meditation For Self Healing. Heal from Injury, Illness, Pain, and Negative Thoughts

  1. Begin by creating a peaceful environment free of distractions or disruptions. Some people have rooms exclusively dedicated to meditation.  Even a small closet can be tricked out to become a special space designed to help your body relax and your soul connect. Meditating outside can also be lovely. The point is to create an environment conducive to freeing your mind from its daily clutter and relaxing your body.
  2. Get comfortable. Choose a position where you can feel grounded and relaxed. Use pillows, cushions, and other props that help you feel comfortable. Keep your back straight so you can breathe deeply with ease.
  3. Close your eyes. Closing your eyes minimizes visual distractions, helps you come back into your body, and starts to settle you.
  4. Focus on your breath as you inhale and exhale. 
  5. Release judgment. Most importantly, don’t judge yourself as you learn to meditate. Criticizing yourself for meditating “badly” or beating yourself up because your mind won’t calm down will only stress you out, defeating the purpose of making attempts to help your body relax so it can repair itself. Remain compassionate with yourself, and pat yourself on the back for any progress you make.
  6. Keep in mind that this meditation is not meant to replace any medical or psychological treatment or consultation. If you have a serious medical condition, please consult with your medical doctor immediately. Do not use while driving or operating machinery.

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10 Minute Self Healing Meditation for Relief from Injury, Illness, or Negative Thoughts.

Try this Self Healing Meditation and let me know how you feel afterwards by leaving me a comment below. I hope this serves you in feeling your best.

The most important thing to remember in our efforts to be good to our body is to remember to love it. In order to heal ourselves, it is essential to remove the negative beliefs that contribute to an unhealthy physical condition. We need to give ourselves positive messages all of the time and release negative pain. We don’t have to wait until we become thin or build our muscles or lower our cholesterol or reduce our fat ratio. We need to love ourselves right now and listen with love to the needs of our bodies. We deserve to feel wonderful all of the time and healing is your divine right.

Be well. ♥ Know that you are loved, and that healing is always possible. ♥

Caroline

 

My mission is to empower feel good fitness inside and out. I am here to be of service in your wellness and help you get your mind, body, and spirit in shape so you can love your life. Lets work together and live well. Contact me at carolinejordanfitness@gmail.com 

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Easy Ways to Spread Holiday Cheer (and Help Make the World Brighter)

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“The best way to spread Christmas Cheer, is singing loud for all to hear.” Buddy The Elf

The world could use a little holiday cheer right now.

Ok, maybe more than just a little.

And we can help with that.

Well, we probably can’t help everybody or save the world overnight. But we can intentionally spread some holiday cheer and make the world a little more bright. And if we can cheer up one person’s day, maybe their smile can cheer up one more.

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You can make an impact simply by giving the gift of a smile or a happy moment with little random gestures.  The best part? It’s so easy to give, costs nothing, and the time you invest does a world of good for happiness. Lets join together, pay it forward, and spread holiday cheer. Here are a few easy ways to make the world brighter: 

Easy Ways to Spread Holiday Cheer (and Help Make the World Brighter)

  1. Smile at strangers ( I love this one. Smiling is my favorite )
  2. Leave a large tip
  3. Pay for the person behind you in line
  4. Hand write a letter of gratitude and appreciation
  5. Help someone get active.  There’s a coworker or acquaintance in your life who wants to get healthy, but needs a helping hand.  Offer to go walking or running together or join a gym together.  Check out your local Active activities.
  6. Call your grandparents / relatives just to say hi.
  7. Give an authentic compliment to three people.
  8. If someone you love really likes something (a meal, a favor, etc.) give it to them when they least expect it.
  9. Create a care package and send it to an active duty military unit.
  10. In the madness of holiday shopping: make eye contact with the store clerk. Ask about their day. Give them a smile.
  11. Be compassionate. Ask about people’s stories. Listen. Be a good neighbor. 
  12. Hold the door open for others.
  13. Introduce yourself. Make new colleagues, classmates, etc. feel welcome.
  14. Clean out all your old clothes and donate them to someone in need. Your old is someone else’s new.
  15. Write a positive Yelp review about a local business you like.
  16. Listen intently to people’s stories without trying to fix everything.
  17. Donate blood. One pint of blood can save up to three lives.Locate your nearest blood drive.
  18. Volunteer at a hospital, homeless shelter, nursing home, etc.  Get outside of yourself and help others.  Check out Volunteer Match.
  19. Invite someone without local family to your holiday gathering
  20. Give words of encouragement to someone about their dreams, no matter how big or small they are.
  21. Surprise a new acquaintance with a gift
  22. Send flowers or bring one for everyone in your office
  23. Bake healthy treats and share with a neighbor, colleagues, or fitness instructor 🙂
  24. Listen to someone’s pain and help them find a path through it.
  25. Hug a friend.  Let them know how important they are.
  26. Let someone go ahead of you in line or give up your parking spot
  27. If you have a good book you’ve read that’s just sitting around on a book shelf, give it away to a friend.
  28. Attend an event for a good cause (like the 10th Anniversary ALIST ‘Passport to the World’ NYE Spectacular )
  29. Invite someone out for dinner
  30. Dance. Everywhere. 
  31. Go Christmas caroling
  32. Forgive someone (or yourself)
  33. Leave a nice comment on a blog or Facebook post
  34. Collect and donate prom dresses for underprivileged youth.  Check out the Princess Project.
  35. When you’re eating out, buy an extra meal for a homeless person.
  36. Stand up for someone.  Lend your voice. Often the powerless, the homeless, the neglected in our world need someone to speak up for them.
  37. Take the time to teach someone a skill you know.
  38. Decorate your office or work space with festive holiday candles and decorations
  39. Bring a little thank you gift for the coffee barista, delivery truck man, or local store owners you visit often.
  40. Teach others how to make a difference in this world by setting a good example every day.
  41. When someone wants to repay you for something, ask them to pay it forward.

The quickest way to find happiness is to help someone else find theirs. Remember, cheerfulness and love is contagious. We probably can’t change the entire world with these little gestures. But we can still intentionally seek to add life and cheer to the people around us. And as a result, make this world a little more wonderful.

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What would you add to the list? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below. Let’s make this world a little brighter with our love and positive energy.

Wishing you a happy, healthy, and blessed holiday full of health.

Caroline

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Struggling with the Holiday Blues? You are not alone. Here’s How to Cope.

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Struggling with the Holiday Blues?

You are not alone. Here’s How to Cope. 

The holidays are hard.

Wait, did I just say that?

I know it’s supposed to be the “most wonderful time of year”, but I’m just going to be real with you. They can be hard for me. And hard for others too.

Sure on Facebook, everyone’s holidays look perfect. Shiny things and families smiling. But that’s just social media for you. Everything looks like a good time when you scroll online. Let’s be real. No one’s life is perfect like a Christmas card and sometimes a smile signals great strength despite life’s obstacles.

The holidays can trigger sadness, anxiety, stress, and depression for a lot of people (eight out of 10 Americans according to the American Psychological Association). I’m one of them. As a recovering perfectionistic people pleaser, the holidays often challenge me to stay well mentally. Over the years I’ve learned how to better work with the season and created self-care strategies to help me stay grounded, positive, and present (which I go into deeper detail in my book). But that doesn’t mean the holidays are a walk in the park.

For me, it helps to identify and be mindful of triggers to seasonal sadness so that I can better move through the holidays in health. Some “holiday blues” triggers include:

  • Financial Stress. Not enough money, fear of not having enough money, guilt around spending money, or feeling like you can’t afford to celebrate or give the gifts you want to give.
  • Too Much To Do. The added stress of events, shopping, and planning when you’re already overworked and tired can feel overwhelming. We try to fit everything into an already tight schedule which can be exhausting. When my plate is too full it makes me feel frazzled and burnt out. I feel defeated when I feel like I “can’t keep up with it all” or “half-ass” on commitments I want to be there for.  
  • Loneliness and Grief. Missing those we love, reminiscing on past memories, or facing deep emotional feelings. Tis the season. 
  • Interpersonal Relationships. There’s no such thing as the perfect family or relationship. The holiday’s can serve up a lot of psychological or emotional stress in dealing with complicated family/friend relationships.
  • Divorce/Breakup. If you’re newly divorced, the holidays may remind you of happier times and accentuate your grief. It’s especially difficult for children of divorce who have to balance seeing two sets of parents. The stress is multiplied for married children who have three or even four sets of parents to visit.
  • High Expectations. Expectations of a magical holiday season can create physical and mental stress. High expectations of a happy family gathering can end in disappointment. We put pressure on ourselves to make the holiday “perfect” and when it doesnt turn out the way we expect it to, we feel let down or sad. 
  • People Pleasing. Trying to be there for everyone and everything – can make you feel guilty and like you’re not doing enough.
  • Holiday Travel. Having to deal with airports, traffic, hotels, and getting from point A to point B during the busiest season for travel can be exhausting. Not to mention dealing with jetlag and maintaining your health while on the road.
  • SAD. Many people experience the blues during gloomy weather due to decreased sunlight, called Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). I am absolutely one of those people! Summer is my favorite holiday 🙂

Do any of the above factors make you feel stressed, burnt out, sad, sick, or depressed? Well let me tell you, you are not alone. I’m right there with you. But you can make the holidays easier on yourself by following the below tips for success.

Here are a few ways I’ve learned to handle holiday stress triggers and manage the season without losing my marbles:

  • Set reasonable expectations and let go of perfection. Don’t try to do too much or match some ideal of the “perfect” holiday. If you’re comparing your holidays to some abstract greeting card ideal, they’ll always come up short. Strive to keep expectations in balance and drop the need for perfect. The best moments happen when you stop to enjoy them and real is so much better than perfect.
  • Commit to self care. Whatever it takes, take care of yourself. When you are traveling make time for exercise. Commit to getting enough sleep as much as possible. Make time for rest and for yourself. Remember the old airplane order: You put your oxygen mask on first before you can take care of everyone else.
  • Don’t overbook! Leave space. It’s tempting to fill in every waking minute of the season with events.  Don’t do this to yourself.  Leave space. Not feeling overbooked and having space will significantly reduce your stress.
  • Practice healthy drinking habits. Alcohol is a depressant and can exacerbate feelings of stress and sadness. Too much alcohol can also interfere with healthy sleep and interrupt natural sleep cycles.  Not to mention, getting too drunk at your family event might not help you improve relationships. If you accidentally overdo it, read my “holiday hangover cure” here.
  • Move Your Body to Move Your Mood.  While the physical benefits of exercise are great, I exercise to keep my mind in good shape (especially during the holidays). Exercise is one of the best ways to reduce depression and anxiety, decrease overall levels of tension, elevate and stabilize mood, improve sleep, and improve self-esteem. Even five minutes of aerobic exercise can stimulate anti-anxiety effects. Endorphins really are the best natural happy drug in the world and even a short daily walk can have a big impact. If it’s too cold in your area to enjoy a walk or run, check out a fun group fitness class or press play on my youtube videos for effective, no-equipment needed home workouts. There are also dozens of smartphone apps that can also guide you through a workout and I include my favorites in my book.  
  • Nourish Yourself. There’s nothing that spells mental meltdown faster than going too long without a real meal (sorry, cheese and crackers at the holiday party do not count as a balanced diet). Make sure to get a solid breakfast, eat all the healthy vegetables you can, and commit to quality nutrition during this time. For me this means eating light, eating clean, and eating often. Keeping myself well fueled with real food helps me maintain my energy levels and keep stress at bay.  I have snacks on hand and prepare healthy dishes to bring to events so that I know I’ll have options.  Real food = happier mood and staying well fueled = keeping your cool.
  • Kick sugar to the curb. Processed white sugar is known to contribute to depression and can exacerbate the holiday blues. Plus sugar is toxic and causes stress on the body (no one likes a sugar hangover). When you begin to notice how what you eat affects how you feel, it becomes easier to make smarter choices with sugar. Being mindful of your sugar intake during the holidays can significantly help manage anxiety and boost your mood.
  • Budget your bucks and get creative with gifts. Overspending during the holidays can lead to continued stress down the road. Set spending limits and stick to them. Or get creative and give gifts that you can’t buy in a store (experiences, memories, homemade crafts, etc).
  • Limit Social Media. Even though you know that most people only post their happiest moments on social media, it’s easy to lose perspective and get a serious case of FOMO (fear of missing out). Comparison is the thief of joy and you can’t compare yourself to others’ highlight reels of their lives. Limit your consumption of Facebook, instagram, snapchat, and instead  reach out to your close friends via phone or text message when you feel like connecting with people. You’ll get more satisfaction from spending real, face time with people rather than scrolling down a feed of tons of people you haven’t seen in years.
  • Create time for yourself during family gatherings. This one is huge for me. I love people and get a lot of energy from social events, but if I don’t have mini breaks, I lose my sh*t. Take a walk outside, find a quiet corner in the house, or make a quick trip to the store to gather your thoughts and relax.
  • Reframe Your Holiday. If you feel isolated, it’s important to remember you’re still in charge of your life. The way to bring more abundance into your life is to give first. Find opportunities to volunteer. Meet people. Attend events. Instead of feeling left out of others’ holiday plans, think of the break as free time to do whatever you wants — even if that means spending the day at home making vision boards or watching movies.
  • Eliminate stress by pre-planning. Plan any shopping, errands, and cooking in advance. Setting a schedule and making priorities will prevent too much from piling up at the last minute.
  • Set Aside Differences. Christmas dinner at Aunt Maud’s house doesn’t have to be the annual free-for-all or tension-filled affair as in past years. Make a pact with yourself to accept family members and loved ones for who they are without any expectations. Hopefully, they will do the same for you. But if they don’t and someone tries to pick a fight, just smile and wish them a Merry Christmas. This is not the time to air grievances, although it might be a good time to walk away.If there is someone you haven’t spoken to in a while, send them a holiday card. You don’t have to say anything other than “thinking of you and wishing you well.” It will make both of you feel better.
  • Talk to someone. If you are feeling down during this time of year, seek support. It’s totally OK to ask for help and talk to someone.  Infact, if you are struggling with anxiety, sadness, depression, or your mind, talking to someone may feel like a huge breath of fresh air. Lean on a friend or family member you trust, or seek out a mental health professional. You can try an online service like Reflect, an incredible online talk therapy resource.
  • Renew Your Spirit. Wellness is so much more than being fit, it’s being fulfilled in spirit. Take the time to connect to the people, places, and things that help you feel most alive and find purpose in your life. If you need some guidance, read the Spirit section of my book which is filled with suggestions, tools, and resources to lift you up.

It took me a few years to personalize healthy lifestyle habits that help me manage seasonal stress and feel my best. So if you are struggling this year, take some solace in the fact that no one’s life is perfect and you are not alone. It can be the most bittersweet, highly charged time of year (even though that’s the part that we don’t talk about). But I’m positive that this can be your best holiday yet if you are open to changing some of your old traditions that bring you down and trying new holiday habits that can lift you up.

Want more tips so you can keep your mind in good shape no matter what life brings you next? Check out my new book  Balanced Body Breakthrough. There is an entire section of the book dedicated to mental wellbeing with tools, resources, and suggestions to keep your headspace in good shape. Wellness starts in the mind and spirit. Pick up your copy here and help your mind feel better.

Do you struggle to cope with any of the above? Are the holidays challenging for you too? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below. 

Wishing you a happy, healthy, and blessed holiday full of health. Always here for you –

Caroline

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Meditation To Help You Let Go.

Holding on to something heavy that’s been weighing you down? Try this 3 minute meditation to let go and feel lighter.

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“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”
―Ann Landers

One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go – whether it’s guilt, anger, love or loss.  Change is never easy,  we fight to hold on and fight to let go.  But letting go is oftentimes the healthiest path forward.  It clears out toxic thoughts from the past and paves the way to make the most positive use of the present.

Letting go is a part of life and recently my life has involved a lot of it. The loss of a loved one, the decision to change career obligations, an injury that challenged me in every way…. There’s just a lot of letting go in my world right now. And as hard as it can be at times, it’s created space for other things in my life. I’ve learned that letting go is a constant process of learning to accept change, allowing yourself to refocus, and choosing to emotionally free yourself from the past to make way for the present.

Lately I’ve been using the Insight Timer app to guide me through daily meditations. It’s been a helpful tool with endless resources to discover and a supportive online community of meditators.  The other evening I discovered a meditation called, “She Let Go”. It moved me deeply and I thought to share it with you.

Want to let go of something with me today? Join me in the below meditation. You can choose to read the words to yourself or find a comfortable seat, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and press play on the guided meditation video recording I’ve made for you below.

“She Let Go” a Poem by Rev. Safire Rose.

“She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.

She let go of the fear.  She let go of the judgments.  She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head.  She let go of the committee of indecision within her.  She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons. Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.

She didn’t ask anyone for advice. She didn’t read a book on how to let go.  She didn’t search the scriptures. She just let go.  She let go of all of the memories that held her back.  She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.  She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.

She didn’t promise to let go. She didn’t journal about it. She didn’t write the projected date in her Day-Timer. She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper. She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope. She just let go.

She didn’t analyze whether she should let go. She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter. She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment. She didn’t call the prayer line. She didn’t utter one word. She just let go.

No one was around when it happened. There was no applause or congratulations. No one thanked her or praised her. No one noticed a thing. Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.

There was no effort. There was no struggle. It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad. It was what it was, and it is just that.

In the space of letting go, she let it all be. A small smile came over her face. A light breeze blew through her. And the sun and the moon shone forevermore.” 

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To let go is to be thankful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and helped you learn and grow.  It’s the acceptance of everything you have, everything you once had, and the possibilities that lie ahead.  It’s all about finding the strength to embrace life’s changes, to trust your intuition, to learn as you go, to realize that every experience has value, and to continue taking positive steps forward.

Whatever is weighing you down, know that you have the strength and the power to let it go. Emotions, fears, hurt, pain, regret, stress…. what ever it is, just let it go. That is just your 40,000 year-old brain doing what it does. It’s time for you to take over and choose to LET IT GO.

What are you holding on to that’s holding you back? What are you ready to let go of? What’s the first step you need to take to let it go?  Share your thoughts with me by leaving a comment below.

Here for you through all of life’s challenges and changes. Stay strong, be brave, and keep shining my friends.

Love,

Caroline

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Things to Remember When Life Gets Really Hard.

Here are a few things to remember when life gets really hard. Help yourself stay strong and positive with these uplifting words.

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Is your life feeling hard right now? Read these words and important reminders.

I wrote this article to send strength and faith out into the universe. I hope that wherever this finds you it gives you light and a reminds you to stay positive, stay strong, and keep your head up.

Here are a few things to remember when life gets really hard: 

Everything in life is temporary. Every time it rains, it stops raining. Every time you get hurt, you heal. Your mind might tell you that this will last forever. It won’t. Nothing lasts forever. After darkness there is always light and this too shall pass. 

You are strong enough to rise above this. Life is tough, but you are tougher. No matter how much it hurts, hold your head up and keep going. You were given this challenge because you are strong enough to handle it. Use each setback, each disappointment as a cue to push on ahead with more determination than ever before.  Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle. 

 

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“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” ― Maya Angelou

Where you are right now is a necessary step. You are not what you have done, you are what you have overcome.  Your struggles are part of your path. No pain comes without a purpose. Pain is part of growing and living a stronger, more meaningful life.  This is important to remember when you’re having a rough day, a bad month, or a crappy year.  When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can go right.  Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to get to your best.

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You can’t have happiness without sadness. Its important to understand that you cant know real joy without real sadness. Life’s ups require life’s downs. When you are able to let go and be at peace with the reality of these ups and downs is when you are able to find more meaning from any challenge. 

“Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” – Joshua J. Marine    

Its OK to not be OK all the time. It’s ok to cry. It’s ok to have meltdowns. It’s ok to not have it all together. It’s OK and actually, it’s important. If you just “shove it under the rug” and ignore hurt, pain, or upset it stays with you and negatively effects your life. Allow yourself to feel. Give yourself space to be sad. Don’t be afraid to fall apart for a little while. You have to FEEL it to HEAL it. Because when you do that, the situation will open into an opportunity for you to heal from it, grow from it, and rebuild yourself into a stronger person because of it.

“Don’t forget you’re human. It’s okay to have a meltdown, just don’t unpack and live there. Cry it out and then refocus on where you are headed.”

Being kind to yourself is the best medicine. When it feels like everything is going wrong, show yourself some extra TLC.  Simple pleasures and self-love can help alleviate suffering, whether it’s watching a comedy, using your favorite tea cup, being in nature, hanging with animals, listening to your favorite album, or taking a mini retreat to your favorite place. Whatever works for you. Show yourself a little extra kindness, care, and love when life gets hard. 

Sometimes not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. It forces you to reevaluate things, opening new doors to opportunities and information you would have otherwise overlooked.

Don’t stop Believing. Just because life didn’t go as planned doesn’t mean you’ll never be happy again. Sometimes you have to go through difficulties, breakups, rejections and painful wounds, in order to gradually discover these powerful truths:  1) Life is not exactly how you thought it was.  2) The loss of one wonderful pleasure is not necessarily the loss of true, long-term happiness and well-being. Life rarely turns out exactly the way you want it to, but you always have an opportunity to make it great.

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No matter what, today is a priceless gift and its up to you to make the best of it. There is always, always, always, something to be grateful for. Strength comes when you have so much to cry and complain about, but you prefer to smile and appreciate your life instead. 

“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.” – Vivian Greene

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You are not alone. We’ve all faced loss, fear, heartbreak, and sadness. So many of us are fighting the same exact battle alongside you.  We are all in this together. Letting others in when you’re having a hard time helps. Let yourself lean on your loved ones and open up to them. No, they won’t always be able to pull you out of the challenge you’re in, but they will be able to give you some light and love on your way through. 

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Be positive, patient and persistent. Learn to trust the journey even when you don’t understand it.   The strongest people aren’t the people who always win, but the people who don’t give up when they lose.

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The dots will connect. We’re not going to always understand why everything happens in our lives. There are things that break us, challenge us, and test our limits. There are things that are not removed and situations that take a long time to change. You have to trust that it is what’s best for you. Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be. As Steve Jobs so famously said, “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.” Trust that your dots will connect. Have faith in yourself and in the future.

The best thing you can do is choose to be positive and keep going. You can’t control everything that happens to you; you can only control the way you respond to what happens.  Your response is your power over whatever challenge you may face. So “Keep Calm and Carry On”. Smiling doesn’t always mean you’re happy with everything.  Sometimes it just means you’re strong and smart enough to accept it and make the best of it.

If you can breathe, you can make it through anything.  When fear, anxiety, worry, or stress sets in, stop yourself and take a minute to regroup. Don’t get too far ahead of yourself worrying about what might happen next. You don’t have any control over that. But you DO have the present moment. Take a DEEP breath and stay committed to being right here, right now. Just take it one day at a time and keep breathing. You’ll make it.  

Those are some reminders I’ve used to help myself through challenges and tough times. What is one reminder that helps you stay strong when life gets really hard? Let me know your words of encouragement in the comments below. 

At the end of the day, I hope that whatever you might be going through you know that:

1. You will get through it

2. You will be stronger for it

3. You will find more greatness out of life because of it.

I’m sending you positive energy and love my friends.

Caroline

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How To Stop Taking Things Personally.

Want to stop taking things personally? Read this helpful article on how to not take things personally to feel better in your relationships and life.

How To Stop Taking Things Personally. 

Have you ever found yourself ruminating and overanalyzing what someone said to you hours after a conversation? Or worried that when a friend doesn’t text you back that they are upset with you? Perhaps you feel hurt by your co-workers actions and feel like they are “out to get you” in the office. Or maybe someone says something which you take as an insult or you assume a person doesn’t like you if they walk past without saying hello.

Why is it so hard not to take things personally? We are human and we all struggle with this from time to time. It’s easy to feel unloved and unwanted when people aren’t able to communicate and connect with you in the way you expect.  And it’s so hard not to internalize that disconnection as a reflection on your worth.  But the truth is, the way other people behave and function is not about you.  In one of my favorite books, “The Four Agreements”, author Don Miguel Ruiz writes,

“Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

This concept seems easy on paper, but it can be hard to put to practice in our lives. When it comes down to it, you’re in control of how you interpret things. Think of how much happier you’d be with a new perspective. Here are some suggestions on how to shift your mindset and adjust your interactions so you can live in peace.

How to Not Take Things Personally.

  1. Realize: It’s just not all about you. Other’s interactions and way of being is a reflection of them and it’s nothing personal. If someone is being unkind to you, remember that they’re probably behaving this way because of something that’s happened to them in the past or present; which has nothing to do with you. They might be having a bad day, going through a rough period, or it might just be their personality. Everyone has their own issues they are working through. Once you realize that the world isn’t all about you, you will be happier.
  2. Wait to respond. Controlling your response in any given situation allows you to reflect on what’s happening and calmly communicate with the person that might be getting under your skin. Before reacting to another’s actions or saying something you might regret, STOP. Pause and take a deep breath. Resist the urge to act immediately through a difficult emotion. Instead, create space to develop an appropriate response and then act with intention.
  3. In difficult conversations, use Nonviolent Communication. Nonviolent communication is also known as Compassionate Communication or Collaborative Communication. It was invented by Marshall Rosenberg in the 1960s and focuses on self-empathy, empathy, and honest self-expression. It’s a four-step process based on (1) observation, (2) feeling, (3) need, (4) request. When I went to wellness coaching school, we studied Nonviolent communication as a technique to have difficult conversations.
    1. For example: “Dan, when I (1) see dishes in the sink, I (2) feel irritated because I’m needing (3) the kitchen that we share in common to be clean. (4) Could you please do your dishes?” You’re not taking the fact that he hasn’t done the dishes, personally; you’re communicating how you feel without being irrational or demeaning. You can learn more at The Centre for Nonviolent Communication.
  4. Have Empathy. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes by trying to understand what the other person might be feeling/thinking/trying to convey to you and what his or her circumstances are that may influence their behavior.  
  5. Seek clarification before jumping to conclusions. Instead of making an assumption, first ask the other person for more information and give them the benefit of the doubt. It’s too easy to assign motives to others. You think they say something a certain way and before you know it you’re getting mad at them before you even speak to them. A better option is to give them the benefit of the doubt. If they do something that confuses you, ask them about it without judgment.
  6. Be okay with being vulnerable and expressing when someone’s actions hurt you. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable by expressing our feelings can help resolve conflicts. My friends know, when there’s a disagreement or mis-understanding, I want to talk it out right away. I believe it’s far better to be uncomfortable being vulnerable and have a difficult conversation than to live with upset in your heart.
  7. Take comments or criticism in a constructive way. If you are criticised, ask yourself if there’s any truth to it, and what you can learn. Even if it wasn’t said in a nice way, you can still learn something. Take the lessons and choose to see the positives in every experience.
  8. Dont dwell on it. Every moment we spend dwelling over the past, even minutes ago, we lose precious time Now. Obsessing over what happened and holding on to anger, resentment, or hurt only causes pain in your life. Learn what you can from the situation and then let it go. I know it can be hard to do, especially if you feel upset and hurt. But it’s very important you don’t obsess over past pain and problems. For these things have the power to poison your heart, your mind, your body, and your life.
  9. Realise that you can’t please everyone. No matter who you are or what you do, there will always be people who dislike or criticise you. You can’t change other people and all you can do is be yourself. At the end of the day, “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
  10. Distance Yourself from Toxic People. Sometimes it’s extra challenging not to take things personally because you are around toxic people. If you know someone who insists on destructively dictating the emotional atmosphere, then be clear: they are toxic.  If you are suffering because of their attitude, you’ve tried the steps above, and it doesn’t seem to help or they don’t seem to care one bit, then ask yourself, “Do I need this person in my life?” When you delete toxic people from your environment it becomes a lot easier to breathe.  If the circumstances warrant it, leave these people behind and move on when you must.  Be strong and know when enough is enough!  Letting go of toxic people doesn’t mean you hate them, or that you wish them harm; it simply means you care about your own well-being. Don’t let toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and get them out of there.
  11. Make sure you have plenty of time for Self Care. Think about how you feel when you haven’t slept, had enough quality nutrition, or haven’t had enough time for yourself. Cranky, moody, and easily upset, right? If you don’t make enough time to care about yourself, you will be more sensitive to taking the words and actions of others personally. But if you give yourself the consistent self-care and love you deserve, you will feel strong and grounded within yourself and other people’s actions and words won’t get to you as much.
  12. Learn to love yourself. Realise that your self-worth depends on you. It does not depend on what others say about you. We take things personally when we care too much about what others think. Instead, give that validation to yourself, so you don’t have to rely on other people to make you feel worthy of love and care. It’s natural to want to feel accepted and loved, but don’t give your power away to other people. When you don’t feel confident in yourself, you will always seek that feeling from other people, but it will never totally satisfy you. Stop relying on others to fuel your self-esteem and love yourself.  The love and attention from others should just serve as an added bonus to what you already have cultivated within.

Can you imagine how many problems could be avoided or solved by practicing this concept and following the steps above? It does require awareness, effort, persistence, and time to stop taking things personally, especially when it’s something you are used to doing. It’s well worth the effort. You will find that your self-esteem and overall quality of life will improve when you stop taking things personally. Commit yourself to self-awareness so you can monitor the times that you’re reading too much into a situation. Practice the suggestions above so you can resolve conflicts externally or internally with calm. Little by little you’ll see a change in your perspective that will positively impact your relationships, especially the one with yourself.

It all boils down to a choice. A choice we sometimes forget we have, but one that can either strengthen us or weaken us. Next time an opportunity arises to take something personally, which will you choose, fear or love? The reality is: the world is impersonal and people do annoying, painful, unimaginable things every single day. That doesn’t mean you have to let that get under your skin. The more you focus on things that make you feel good personally, the less you will take things personally, and the more you will enjoy life.

Writing is one of my personal passions and I loved writing this piece. I hope it helps you in your life, let me know your thoughts in the comment section below and thanks for sharing this article. If you don’t like it, I promise I won’t take it personally 😉

In health and gratitude,

Caroline

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Exercise Your Spiritual Side for a More Fulfilling Life

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“Autumn, the year’s last, loveliest smile.”
(William Cullen Bryant)

Each season brings fresh starts and new inspiration. I love the energy of fall, that magical feeling of transition between summer and winter. Autumn brings sweater weather, pumpkin everything, and even more opportunities to spend quality time cozying up with those you love.

It feels like its been a busy fall for everyone and I hope by simply reading this post you have the opportunity to slow down, pause, and check in. Do you ever feel like life moves too fast? I mean somehow its already November… where did the year go? It’s hard not to get caught up in the hustle of the day to day. To find time to slow down and appreciate the journey. But sometimes you need to take a few steps back to see things clearly. Never let your life become so filled with work, your mind become so crammed with worry, or your heart become so jammed with old hurts or anger, that there’s no room left in them for fun, for awe, or for joy.

“Sometimes the best way to love your life is not figuring out how to work harder, but taking time to slow down and enjoy life more. I believe that living a fit life isnt just about having a strong body, but also having a strong mind and spirit. To me, spiritual fitness is the constant evolution of creating a  better version of yourself so that you can make a difference in your life and the lives around you.  In fact, the word “spirituality” comes from the latin root spiritis, meaning breath and referring to the breath of life. Spirituality deals with the transcendent, intangible dimension of existence, that gives us more life in the body and mind. Most people value or desire a spiritual element in their lives, but perhaps not in a traditional religious format. Spiritual fitness means maintaining the health of your soul so that you can live with clarity and purpose. I wouldnt worry if your spiritual fitness isnt something you can easily sum up or define.  You are spiritual if you are invested in doing the daily work to live consciously and experience your life from a deeper place.

Keeping your spirit in great shape isnt always a walk in the park. It’s often hard, scary, challenging, vulnerable, and dark. But that is part of the journey. It will often be tough. You will find strength through choosing to persevere and stay the course. Your commitment to your spiritual fitness will allow you to grasp and to gain control of life’s ups and downs. It will allow you to live purely in the mindset of growth and change. It will fuel your ability to grow better even when life becomes challenging and it will empower you to leave negativity behind.

Remember: happiness is not a destination but a manner of traveling. Your course is not defined. Its not a path on a map that you follow. Instead it’s waking up daily with the intention to be better than the day before. You are a constantly evolving work in progress and keeping your spirit in shape will help keep you on course in living a meaningful life.

When you nurture the health of your spirit, you can steer your life forward towards positive results. You can feel centered, grounded, intentional, powerful, and focused. This takes consistent commitment and work, but it IS possible and you can start now.

What do you do to take care of yourself and to keep yourself centered? What do you do to find meaning and stay connected to the world you live in? In my book, “Balanced Body Breakthrough”, I’ll be giving you my top exercises for a healthier spirit. There are so many different ways to nurture your spiritual health. I want to give you a few suggestions to help you to connect to yourself in a way that fills you up and gives you the strength to climb out of challenges and stress. Through these exercises, I believe you will develop a spiritual workout plan that will enable you to live with intention, purpose, and fulfilment. Get ready to re-discover what makes you feel alive.”

The above is an excerpt from the Spirit section of “Balanced Body Breakthrough”. This book is my coaching resource guide to getting your mind, body, and spirit in great shape so you can love your life. It contains real, usable, resources and tools that you can immediately use to find the feel good life you deserve. I’ve seen this information work like magic in clients lives and I want to share the secrets to success with you.

The book is written and ready to help you, but in order to do that, I need to find the funds to make this book into a real product. After all of my research, I chose to kickstart the project through a platform called InkShares. InkShares is reader based crowd funding that works off book pre-orders. *** In October 2015, InkShares changed their pre-order requirement to 750 pre-orders for all books. That means, if readers believe in your book and 750 pre-order copies are sold, the book gets published through InkShares. They handle editing, design, marketing, and publishing of the book from start to finish. If 750 pre-orders are NOT sold, the book does not get published (insert sad trombone sound here).  I have less than 90 days to get reader support and reach 750 pre-orders of the book to get published. If you pre-order copies of the book, not only will you help me reach this goal, you’ll get 225 pages of high quality self-care content to support you in living a life you love at the incredible price of $9.99 (such a steal!)

Do you want to keep reading? Do you want the tools to unlock balance, wellness, and sustainable self-care in your life? Do you want my Balanced Body Breakthrough Fitness program to train smart? Pre-order your copy of Balanced Body Breakthrough and let’s make this book come true here: 

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So far I have sold 159 pre-order copies and have to hit 250 for a light publishing goal and 750 for full publishing. Id be so grateful if you wanted to share this post and encourage your friends to purchase their copy of Balanced Body Breakthrough on Facebooktwitter, or email.  Sharing is caring and everyone deserves to feel amazing long-term. 

Consider for a moment that the real purpose of your life is to be fully involved in living. The exercises in my coaching book will allow you to be present for the journey and fully embrace it. I believe if you strengthen your spiritual fitness, soon you will be overflowing with passion, purpose, and fulfilment. You’ll feel strong and inspired to enjoy the journey into your own awesome life.

Love sharing this journey with you,

Caroline

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Feeling Stressed? It Could Be Your Relationship….

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Feeling stressed? It could be your relationship.

No, not to your honey.

To your technology.

Do you keep your mobile phone with you all the time? Do you feel the constant need to respond to emails, calls, and texts immediately? Are you at the beck and call of every “PING!” you hear?

We are known as the connected generation and there are obvious issues that have stemmed from our constantly plugged in state. The Pew Research Center states that Millennials (those who came of age in the new millennium — currently age 20-36) are the “always on generation“. They’re absolutely right. We text and Snapchat and Kik our friends. We Instagram what we eat and post where we are on Facebook — and that’s all before lunch. We can’t seem to get by without some sort of tech.

We aren’t experiencing life. We’re losing moments with every tap. It’s cheating, really. We may be physically present with our friends and loved ones but we’re texting some one else… or checking a sports score… or tweeting… or playing candy crush saga. Do you remember the last time you went to dinner without taking a picture? Yea, I don’t really either.

We are living life through a device and its just not healthy. If you are feeling burnt out or stressed, it could be your overconnectvity to tech. Here are some signs it might be time for a digital relationship detox:

Signs You Might Have an Unhealthy Relationship to Tech:

  • You Text and Talk at the Same Time. You ask the person in front of you to wait so you can finish a text, watch a video, or read a post . . . and rarely notice when they walk off.
  • You Text and Walk (or drive!) at the Same Time. Not only does it take you twice as long to get to your destination its JUST.NOT.SAFE. If you cant resist commuting while texting it might be time to turn your phone off. (I like you – please no accidents!)
  • You feel naked without your phone. Have you ever left your phone at home and panicked? Not such a good sign. If you you break out in a sweat without your tech, its a sign you’re an addict. 
  • You repeatedly end up online longer than you originally intended. Late nights accidently surfing instagram? And you tell me you are tired…
  • You spend more time with your friends online than you do in the REAL world.
  • You deny it (sometimes defensively) when another person makes a negative comment about how much time you spend online. 
  • You check your mobile phone in the bathroom. (way too common – EW! Please dont text me while you poo. ) 
  • You impatiently wait to get done with real interactions so that you can get online or check your phone.
  • You find yourself distracted by thoughts of how many facebook notifications, emails, or texts you might have to reply to.
  • You have a hard time maintaining focus on a project, conversation, or event.
  • You dont know how to NOT instagram an experience. You spend a noticeable amount of time on friend outings, events, or vacations posting online or absorbed in your phone.
  • You feel a physical and emotional urge to check in with your online community throughout the day. 
  • You never take a break from responding, tweeting, emailing, texting…. You live in “Fight or Flight” mode and your nervous system is frazzled. You are anxious, stressed, and tired. 

If you answered YES to any of the above statements, it may be time to work on a healthier relationship to your tech. Awareness is the first step in making a change to healthier, more fulfilling, real world living. You don’t have to live your life through a device. Here are my tips for working with your technology to enhance your life vs. allowing your tech to take you away from living it.

Caroline’s Tips for a Healthy Relationship With Tech:

  • Create NO phone time zones. Set aside times in your day to put the phone away and focus on what you are doing. I hold “office hours” for myself in the morning where I literally put my phone in the CLOSET (truth!). This way Im not tempted to innocently check it during work and can enjoy my morning distraction free and present. Im a huge advocate for creating no-phone time-zones for yourself. This means that for at least 2 hours of your day (when you’re most productive work happens) you close off your phone and stay completely dedicated to the work in front of you.

  • Create a digital bedtime. Power off your phone an hour before bed time to ensure that your last hour is spent in a meaningful way and that you get to bed on time to start the next day afresh. I like to set a bed time for my phone and power it off at a set time at night. Your phone is just not worth losing sleep over. Leave your phone in another room so that you can get the real rest you need without the distraction.
  • Remember: YOU teach people how to text you! If you respond to texts, emails, or phone calls at all hours of the day, people will think you are available at all hours of the day. If you dont want people texting you during work, DONT RESPOND TO TEXTS DURING WORK. If you dont set boundaries for yourself no one else will.
  • Note: Successful people dont waste hours surfing online and successful people aren’t slaves to their email. The biggest obstacle to productivity is connectivityYou want to be successful? Manage your time well. 
  • GET REAL. When you are with friends and people you care about commit to be present. Always put the real person before the digital one.
  • When on a trip, pack your phone in your suitcase or somewhere out of reach for two hours at a time. Gradually increase that amount. Enjoy the scenery and the people in it. EXPERIENCE IT. 
  • Set a timer for how long you want to spend “surfing” the web or using your tech. Set it and stick to the allotted amount of time. That way you can still get your “fix” without over-doing it.
  • Take a digital detox weekend or retreat. Book yourself a holiday a leave ALL technology at home. If this sounds like a huge challenge, chances are you NEED it. Give yourself a break from all tech and come back with a new perspective and feeling refreshed.

Is your relationship to technology healthy? What advice do you have for living a positive, present life? Leave your words as a comment below, Id love to know how you and your tech share a healthy life together.

I challenge you to try this: Put down the phone. Put down the iPad. Be present and be in the moment for just one day. Enjoy the conversation of those that are physically with you — those who have chosen to take time out of their lives and spend it with you. Watch an entire movie without checking your phone. Have a full conversation without glancing at a screen. Disconnect for just a moment. I’m up for the challenge…are you?

Caroline

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Self Care is the secret to a Wealthy Life. Happiness and Health is PRICELESS.

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Making YOURSELF a sacred priority is one of the smartest moves you can make. The April theme of “self-care” has been a powerful reminder of that.

In week one, I provided a few powerful questions to help you define what self care means to YOU and personalize your approach to making it a part of your life. Week 2 listed many creative ways to practice physical self care and “take care of your body when you don’t have time to take care of your body”. Week three was internal health, the mental, emotional, and spiritual self care that can transform your life. It has been a month full of information and inspiration and I hope some of the articles allowed you to define, refine, and practice self care in your day to day life. Was there a suggestion or part of the month that helped or inspired you? Leave me a comment below and let me know one of your experiences or learning lessons from the month of self-care.

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Wellness is a natural state of being and it is something that I hold as a high priority in my life. I realized as a young woman that in order to be successful in any aspect of my life I must be physically, mentally, and spiritually healthy. It is something that I work for every day, the road to self-care is a constant work in progress. My desire for wellness motivates me as I view it as the foundation for true wealth and joy. I have seen how loving myself first has positively TRANSFORMED my life and continues to work wonders in the world.  And let me tell you, it feels SO good to live a life in which your happiness and health comes first.

I believe that success isn’t the secret to happiness but that HAPPINESS is the secret to success. Love yourself and love your life and you will be successful.

I also believe that health is the ultimate WEALTH and that through self care and self love you can live an abundant life. If you aren’t physically, mentally, emotionally, or spiritually healthy then you can’t live your life fully. Nothing is worth it if you aren’t happy or healthy. At the end of the day, sacrificing your health or happiness is a waste of the BEST gift on earth, the gift of living life to the fullest and sharing that full life with others. You were given this one life to LIVE it. Your health and your happiness is PRICELESS.

When you are at your healthiest, you are at your most helpful to the world. We should all strive to thrive and do those things that make us happy, every day. Don’t feel guilty about it, you are able to show up more for others when you start showing up for yourself first.

Self care is about learning to value yourself and learning to fight for your health and happiness. With so many limiting cultural beliefs working against us we all need support. In order to see a change you must BE THE CHANGE. Join me in working towards a world that encourages others to live happy, healthy, lives through self-care. The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others, the self-care revolution starts with YOU.

While the month of April’s theme of self-care may be over, its an ongoing process that takes consistent dedication, faith, work, and sweat. Let’s make a commitment to love ourselves by practicing self-preservation through self-care. For now, I’ll leave you with this affirmation. Speak it, think it, live it: “My health is my wealth. When I take care of my health it is like depositing money in the bank of Abundant Life!”

 In Happiness and health,

Caroline

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