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Meditation To Help You Let Go.

Holding on to something heavy that’s been weighing you down? Try this 3 minute meditation to let go and feel lighter.

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“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.”
―Ann Landers

One of the hardest lessons in life is letting go – whether it’s guilt, anger, love or loss.  Change is never easy,  we fight to hold on and fight to let go.  But letting go is oftentimes the healthiest path forward.  It clears out toxic thoughts from the past and paves the way to make the most positive use of the present.

Letting go is a part of life and recently my life has involved a lot of it. The loss of a loved one, the decision to change career obligations, an injury that challenged me in every way…. There’s just a lot of letting go in my world right now. And as hard as it can be at times, it’s created space for other things in my life. I’ve learned that letting go is a constant process of learning to accept change, allowing yourself to refocus, and choosing to emotionally free yourself from the past to make way for the present.

Lately I’ve been using the Insight Timer app to guide me through daily meditations. It’s been a helpful tool with endless resources to discover and a supportive online community of meditators.  The other evening I discovered a meditation called, “She Let Go”. It moved me deeply and I thought to share it with you.

Want to let go of something with me today? Join me in the below meditation. You can choose to read the words to yourself or find a comfortable seat, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and press play on the guided meditation video recording I’ve made for you below.

“She Let Go” a Poem by Rev. Safire Rose.

“She let go. Without a thought or a word, she let go.

She let go of the fear.  She let go of the judgments.  She let go of the confluence of opinions swarming around her head.  She let go of the committee of indecision within her.  She let go of all the ‘right’ reasons. Wholly and completely, without hesitation or worry, she just let go.

She didn’t ask anyone for advice. She didn’t read a book on how to let go.  She didn’t search the scriptures. She just let go.  She let go of all of the memories that held her back.  She let go of all of the anxiety that kept her from moving forward.  She let go of the planning and all of the calculations about how to do it just right.

She didn’t promise to let go. She didn’t journal about it. She didn’t write the projected date in her Day-Timer. She made no public announcement and put no ad in the paper. She didn’t check the weather report or read her daily horoscope. She just let go.

She didn’t analyze whether she should let go. She didn’t call her friends to discuss the matter. She didn’t do a five-step Spiritual Mind Treatment. She didn’t call the prayer line. She didn’t utter one word. She just let go.

No one was around when it happened. There was no applause or congratulations. No one thanked her or praised her. No one noticed a thing. Like a leaf falling from a tree, she just let go.

There was no effort. There was no struggle. It wasn’t good and it wasn’t bad. It was what it was, and it is just that.

In the space of letting go, she let it all be. A small smile came over her face. A light breeze blew through her. And the sun and the moon shone forevermore.” 

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To let go is to be thankful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and helped you learn and grow.  It’s the acceptance of everything you have, everything you once had, and the possibilities that lie ahead.  It’s all about finding the strength to embrace life’s changes, to trust your intuition, to learn as you go, to realize that every experience has value, and to continue taking positive steps forward.

Whatever is weighing you down, know that you have the strength and the power to let it go. Emotions, fears, hurt, pain, regret, stress…. what ever it is, just let it go. That is just your 40,000 year-old brain doing what it does. It’s time for you to take over and choose to LET IT GO.

What are you holding on to that’s holding you back? What are you ready to let go of? What’s the first step you need to take to let it go?  Share your thoughts with me by leaving a comment below.

Here for you through all of life’s challenges and changes. Stay strong, be brave, and keep shining my friends.

Love,

Caroline

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Things to Remember When Life Gets Really Hard.

Here are a few things to remember when life gets really hard. Help yourself stay strong and positive with these uplifting words.

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Is your life feeling hard right now? Read these words and important reminders.

I wrote this article to send strength and faith out into the universe. I hope that wherever this finds you it gives you light and a reminds you to stay positive, stay strong, and keep your head up.

Here are a few things to remember when life gets really hard: 

Everything in life is temporary. Every time it rains, it stops raining. Every time you get hurt, you heal. Your mind might tell you that this will last forever. It won’t. Nothing lasts forever. After darkness there is always light and this too shall pass. 

You are strong enough to rise above this. Life is tough, but you are tougher. No matter how much it hurts, hold your head up and keep going. You were given this challenge because you are strong enough to handle it. Use each setback, each disappointment as a cue to push on ahead with more determination than ever before.  Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle. 

 

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“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” ― Maya Angelou

Where you are right now is a necessary step. You are not what you have done, you are what you have overcome.  Your struggles are part of your path. No pain comes without a purpose. Pain is part of growing and living a stronger, more meaningful life.  This is important to remember when you’re having a rough day, a bad month, or a crappy year.  When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can go right.  Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to get to your best.

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You can’t have happiness without sadness. Its important to understand that you cant know real joy without real sadness. Life’s ups require life’s downs. When you are able to let go and be at peace with the reality of these ups and downs is when you are able to find more meaning from any challenge. 

“Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” – Joshua J. Marine    

Its OK to not be OK all the time. It’s ok to cry. It’s ok to have meltdowns. It’s ok to not have it all together. It’s OK and actually, it’s important. If you just “shove it under the rug” and ignore hurt, pain, or upset it stays with you and negatively effects your life. Allow yourself to feel. Give yourself space to be sad. Don’t be afraid to fall apart for a little while. You have to FEEL it to HEAL it. Because when you do that, the situation will open into an opportunity for you to heal from it, grow from it, and rebuild yourself into a stronger person because of it.

“Don’t forget you’re human. It’s okay to have a meltdown, just don’t unpack and live there. Cry it out and then refocus on where you are headed.”

Being kind to yourself is the best medicine. When it feels like everything is going wrong, show yourself some extra TLC.  Simple pleasures and self-love can help alleviate suffering, whether it’s watching a comedy, using your favorite tea cup, being in nature, hanging with animals, listening to your favorite album, or taking a mini retreat to your favorite place. Whatever works for you. Show yourself a little extra kindness, care, and love when life gets hard. 

Sometimes not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. It forces you to reevaluate things, opening new doors to opportunities and information you would have otherwise overlooked.

Don’t stop Believing. Just because life didn’t go as planned doesn’t mean you’ll never be happy again. Sometimes you have to go through difficulties, breakups, rejections and painful wounds, in order to gradually discover these powerful truths:  1) Life is not exactly how you thought it was.  2) The loss of one wonderful pleasure is not necessarily the loss of true, long-term happiness and well-being. Life rarely turns out exactly the way you want it to, but you always have an opportunity to make it great.

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No matter what, today is a priceless gift and its up to you to make the best of it. There is always, always, always, something to be grateful for. Strength comes when you have so much to cry and complain about, but you prefer to smile and appreciate your life instead. 

“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.” – Vivian Greene

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You are not alone. We’ve all faced loss, fear, heartbreak, and sadness. So many of us are fighting the same exact battle alongside you.  We are all in this together. Letting others in when you’re having a hard time helps. Let yourself lean on your loved ones and open up to them. No, they won’t always be able to pull you out of the challenge you’re in, but they will be able to give you some light and love on your way through. 

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Be positive, patient and persistent. Learn to trust the journey even when you don’t understand it.   The strongest people aren’t the people who always win, but the people who don’t give up when they lose.

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The dots will connect. We’re not going to always understand why everything happens in our lives. There are things that break us, challenge us, and test our limits. There are things that are not removed and situations that take a long time to change. You have to trust that it is what’s best for you. Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be. As Steve Jobs so famously said, “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.” Trust that your dots will connect. Have faith in yourself and in the future.

The best thing you can do is choose to be positive and keep going. You can’t control everything that happens to you; you can only control the way you respond to what happens.  Your response is your power over whatever challenge you may face. So “Keep Calm and Carry On”. Smiling doesn’t always mean you’re happy with everything.  Sometimes it just means you’re strong and smart enough to accept it and make the best of it.

If you can breathe, you can make it through anything.  When fear, anxiety, worry, or stress sets in, stop yourself and take a minute to regroup. Don’t get too far ahead of yourself worrying about what might happen next. You don’t have any control over that. But you DO have the present moment. Take a DEEP breath and stay committed to being right here, right now. Just take it one day at a time and keep breathing. You’ll make it.  

Those are some reminders I’ve used to help myself through challenges and tough times. What is one reminder that helps you stay strong when life gets really hard? Let me know your words of encouragement in the comments below. 

At the end of the day, I hope that whatever you might be going through you know that:

1. You will get through it

2. You will be stronger for it

3. You will find more greatness out of life because of it.

I’m sending you positive energy and love my friends.

Caroline

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Lessons On Living A Positive Life I Learned From My Mom

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On Mother’s Day, you might give your mom a book or a thoughtful card. You might call to tell her you love her. You might take a moment to reminisce about your fondest memories together.

But one of the greatest gifts you can give your mother is recognition. Whether it takes a few words or a few hours, acknowledging your mother’s hard work is music to her ears.

Today I’d like to take the time to acknowledge my Mom for being a positive, powerful influence in my life. Here are a few of the valuable lessons she has taught me on living well and being a happy person inside and out:

Lessons On Living A Positive Life I learned from my Mom:

  • Move your body. My mom taught me that taking care of your body is crucial to being the happiest person you can be.  If you don’t have your physical energy in good shape, then your mental energy (your focus), your emotional energy (your feelings), and your spiritual energy (your purpose) will all be negatively affected. Sure exercise keeps your weight in check and you feeling confident in your favorite pair of jeans. But exercise actually has the power to make you a happier person. Moving your body creates chemical responses in the brain, which lead to both temporary and long term mental health benefits. It releases dopamine (“happy chemicals”) in your brain, eases stress, increases energy, combats insomnia, and does wonders for your confidence. Taking good care of your body can and will keep your heart happy, help you maintain a healthy weight, and bring you a positive outlook on life.
  • Eat An Inspiring Diet. To eat is a necessity but to eat intelligently is an art. My mom brought us up to eat a colorful diet filled with whole foods and variety. She would shop at the farmer’s market, garden, and cooks real, delicious food. There was always room for indulgences (she is famous for her chocolate chip cookies) and she was an excellent role model for an “eat to live not live to eat” mentality.  Growing up dinner time was a family event and we often cooked something with the fresh ingredients from our backyard fruit and vegetable garden.  Because we are what we eat, we can literally transform our minds into happier ones by eating an inspiring diet. She raised me to learn that when you eat good foods you feel good too, and happiness comes from being well- fueled.
  • Help Others. My mother worked full time as a pediatric nurse but even when she was off the clock she was always lending a hand to others. She taught me that happiness is attained by giving it away without expectation and those who help others are eventually helped.  As far as physical health benefits, performing an act of kindness releases serotonin in your brain. Serotonin is a substance that has tremendous health benefits, including making us feel more blissful.  Selflessly helping someone is a powerful way to feel good inside. The happiest people you will ever meet will be those who lose themselves in the joy and challenge of helping others.
  • Learn to forgive. My mom’s typical response to a negative or upsetting event is forgiveness. She’ll would something like, “It’s ok. I’m going to let it go and move forward.”   This is an excellent way to handle conflict because harboring feelings of hatred or resentment is horrible for your well-being. That’s because your mind doesn’t know the difference between past and present emotion.  When you ‘hate’ someone, and you’re continuously thinking about it, those negative emotions are eating away at your immune system. You put yourself in a state of hate and it stays with you throughout your day. In contrast, showing forgiveness is a form of compassion and love, which is a much happier state of living your life. My mom showed me that forgiveness is a constant attitude of choosing happiness over hurt – acceptance over resistance. And that forgiveness creates a space to let go and love more.
  • Live in gratitude. When you appreciate what you have, what you have appreciates in value. Being grateful for the goodness that is already evident in your life will bring you a deeper sense of happiness.  My mother lived in a state of gratitude and was constantly affirming the things she was grateful for. Studies have shown practicing gratitude can center you, help you live in the moment, enhance your relationships, help you overcome hurdles, improve your health, and motivate you to reach your goals. Feeling grateful for what you have can produce the good feelings that keep you moving towards the happy life you want. Click here to learn more on how to practice gratitude in your life.
  • Live by the Golden Rule. My mother raised us by this rule: “…thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.” or “treat others the way you want to be treated”. It’s known as the “Golden Rule”  or ethic of reciprocity. Mom was right again: the rule of treating others as you would want to be treated in their place will ultimately lead to your own happiness. Think about it: let’s say you apply the Golden Rule in all of your interactions with other people, and you help your neighbors, you treat your family with kindness, you go the extra mile for your co-workers, you help a stranger in need. Now, those actions will undoubtedly be good for the people you help and are kind to and people will treat you better. But, beyond that, you will find a growing satisfaction in yourself, a belief in yourself, a knowledge that you are a good person and a trust in yourself. Of course, there are exceptions and logic arguments with the Golden Rule and if taken to extremes it falls apart. I’m not concerned about that stuff. The truth is, on a day-to-day basis, living by the Golden Rule will make those around you happier, will make you a better person, and will make the community you live in a better place.
  • Savor life’s joys. My mom taught me that the best things in life are free. There is absolute joy and wonder to be had in the simplest of moments.  Watching the sunset over the horizon or spending time with a family member making jam in the summer (triple berry anyone?). Deep happiness cannot exist without slowing down to enjoy the joy.  It’s easy in a world of wild stimuli and omnipresent movement to forget to embrace life’s enjoyable experiences.  When we neglect to appreciate, we rob the moment of its magic.  It’s the simple things in life that can be the most rewarding if we remember to fully experience them. Make it a point to regularly celebrate all of the little things in life and you will be a happier person inside and out.

My mom taught me that all of the lessons above are habits and thoughts we can choose to bring more happiness into our lives. That’s the thing about living a positive, happy life: it is a conscious choice. It’s not always an easy choice and creating healthy habits may challenge you at times. But doing so will allow you to break free from the mold and truly live more of  life – to experience it and enjoy it to the fullest, instead of settling for a mere existence.

To my mother who taught me how and showed me the way: Thank you. I love you. I will celebrate the momentous mother that you are today and always.

Happy Mother’s Day to you,

Caroline

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How To Stop Taking Things Personally.

Want to stop taking things personally? Read this helpful article on how to not take things personally to feel better in your relationships and life.

How To Stop Taking Things Personally. 

Have you ever found yourself ruminating and overanalyzing what someone said to you hours after a conversation? Or worried that when a friend doesn’t text you back that they are upset with you? Perhaps you feel hurt by your co-workers actions and feel like they are “out to get you” in the office. Or maybe someone says something which you take as an insult or you assume a person doesn’t like you if they walk past without saying hello.

Why is it so hard not to take things personally? We are human and we all struggle with this from time to time. It’s easy to feel unloved and unwanted when people aren’t able to communicate and connect with you in the way you expect.  And it’s so hard not to internalize that disconnection as a reflection on your worth.  But the truth is, the way other people behave and function is not about you.  In one of my favorite books, “The Four Agreements”, author Don Miguel Ruiz writes,

“Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

This concept seems easy on paper, but it can be hard to put to practice in our lives. When it comes down to it, you’re in control of how you interpret things. Think of how much happier you’d be with a new perspective. Here are some suggestions on how to shift your mindset and adjust your interactions so you can live in peace.

How to Not Take Things Personally.

  1. Realize: It’s just not all about you. Other’s interactions and way of being is a reflection of them and it’s nothing personal. If someone is being unkind to you, remember that they’re probably behaving this way because of something that’s happened to them in the past or present; which has nothing to do with you. They might be having a bad day, going through a rough period, or it might just be their personality. Everyone has their own issues they are working through. Once you realize that the world isn’t all about you, you will be happier.
  2. Wait to respond. Controlling your response in any given situation allows you to reflect on what’s happening and calmly communicate with the person that might be getting under your skin. Before reacting to another’s actions or saying something you might regret, STOP. Pause and take a deep breath. Resist the urge to act immediately through a difficult emotion. Instead, create space to develop an appropriate response and then act with intention.
  3. In difficult conversations, use Nonviolent Communication. Nonviolent communication is also known as Compassionate Communication or Collaborative Communication. It was invented by Marshall Rosenberg in the 1960s and focuses on self-empathy, empathy, and honest self-expression. It’s a four-step process based on (1) observation, (2) feeling, (3) need, (4) request. When I went to wellness coaching school, we studied Nonviolent communication as a technique to have difficult conversations.
    1. For example: “Dan, when I (1) see dishes in the sink, I (2) feel irritated because I’m needing (3) the kitchen that we share in common to be clean. (4) Could you please do your dishes?” You’re not taking the fact that he hasn’t done the dishes, personally; you’re communicating how you feel without being irrational or demeaning. You can learn more at The Centre for Nonviolent Communication.
  4. Have Empathy. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes by trying to understand what the other person might be feeling/thinking/trying to convey to you and what his or her circumstances are that may influence their behavior.  
  5. Seek clarification before jumping to conclusions. Instead of making an assumption, first ask the other person for more information and give them the benefit of the doubt. It’s too easy to assign motives to others. You think they say something a certain way and before you know it you’re getting mad at them before you even speak to them. A better option is to give them the benefit of the doubt. If they do something that confuses you, ask them about it without judgment.
  6. Be okay with being vulnerable and expressing when someone’s actions hurt you. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable by expressing our feelings can help resolve conflicts. My friends know, when there’s a disagreement or mis-understanding, I want to talk it out right away. I believe it’s far better to be uncomfortable being vulnerable and have a difficult conversation than to live with upset in your heart.
  7. Take comments or criticism in a constructive way. If you are criticised, ask yourself if there’s any truth to it, and what you can learn. Even if it wasn’t said in a nice way, you can still learn something. Take the lessons and choose to see the positives in every experience.
  8. Dont dwell on it. Every moment we spend dwelling over the past, even minutes ago, we lose precious time Now. Obsessing over what happened and holding on to anger, resentment, or hurt only causes pain in your life. Learn what you can from the situation and then let it go. I know it can be hard to do, especially if you feel upset and hurt. But it’s very important you don’t obsess over past pain and problems. For these things have the power to poison your heart, your mind, your body, and your life.
  9. Realise that you can’t please everyone. No matter who you are or what you do, there will always be people who dislike or criticise you. You can’t change other people and all you can do is be yourself. At the end of the day, “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
  10. Distance Yourself from Toxic People. Sometimes it’s extra challenging not to take things personally because you are around toxic people. If you know someone who insists on destructively dictating the emotional atmosphere, then be clear: they are toxic.  If you are suffering because of their attitude, you’ve tried the steps above, and it doesn’t seem to help or they don’t seem to care one bit, then ask yourself, “Do I need this person in my life?” When you delete toxic people from your environment it becomes a lot easier to breathe.  If the circumstances warrant it, leave these people behind and move on when you must.  Be strong and know when enough is enough!  Letting go of toxic people doesn’t mean you hate them, or that you wish them harm; it simply means you care about your own well-being. Don’t let toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and get them out of there.
  11. Make sure you have plenty of time for Self Care. Think about how you feel when you haven’t slept, had enough quality nutrition, or haven’t had enough time for yourself. Cranky, moody, and easily upset, right? If you don’t make enough time to care about yourself, you will be more sensitive to taking the words and actions of others personally. But if you give yourself the consistent self-care and love you deserve, you will feel strong and grounded within yourself and other people’s actions and words won’t get to you as much.
  12. Learn to love yourself. Realise that your self-worth depends on you. It does not depend on what others say about you. We take things personally when we care too much about what others think. Instead, give that validation to yourself, so you don’t have to rely on other people to make you feel worthy of love and care. It’s natural to want to feel accepted and loved, but don’t give your power away to other people. When you don’t feel confident in yourself, you will always seek that feeling from other people, but it will never totally satisfy you. Stop relying on others to fuel your self-esteem and love yourself.  The love and attention from others should just serve as an added bonus to what you already have cultivated within.

Can you imagine how many problems could be avoided or solved by practicing this concept and following the steps above? It does require awareness, effort, persistence, and time to stop taking things personally, especially when it’s something you are used to doing. It’s well worth the effort. You will find that your self-esteem and overall quality of life will improve when you stop taking things personally. Commit yourself to self-awareness so you can monitor the times that you’re reading too much into a situation. Practice the suggestions above so you can resolve conflicts externally or internally with calm. Little by little you’ll see a change in your perspective that will positively impact your relationships, especially the one with yourself.

It all boils down to a choice. A choice we sometimes forget we have, but one that can either strengthen us or weaken us. Next time an opportunity arises to take something personally, which will you choose, fear or love? The reality is: the world is impersonal and people do annoying, painful, unimaginable things every single day. That doesn’t mean you have to let that get under your skin. The more you focus on things that make you feel good personally, the less you will take things personally, and the more you will enjoy life.

Writing is one of my personal passions and I loved writing this piece. I hope it helps you in your life, let me know your thoughts in the comment section below and thanks for sharing this article. If you don’t like it, I promise I won’t take it personally 😉

In health and gratitude,

Caroline

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From Body Loathing to Self-Loving. An inspiring story.

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“Hi Caroline,

My name is Megan, I am 19 years old and I am writing to you to say thank you. I have struggled with body image and exercise my entire life, when I was 12 years old I was extremely over weight, and by the time I was 14 I was in the beginning stages of anorexia. I went from being a kid who hated sports and loved junk food to a teenage girl that would go days without eating and exercising constantly. As I got a little older I realized neither scenario was healthy. I cared only about my exterior and not about my health. As I started to eat again, I gained weight, which was good but I wasn’t happy with how I looked.
By 16 I knew how to eat healthy and loved the way good, nutritious food made me feel, but HATED exercising because I associated it with the struggles I had with my eating disorder. Again, I still hated the way I looked.

About 2 years ago is when I found your YouTube channel. I was looking for workouts to make me skinny and busting my butt and hating exercise. Your channel was different, your exercises eased me into a healthy fitness regime and your positivity, energy and kindness made me realize that a healthy lifestyle is achievable by forgetting the exterior and most importantly having a positive outlook on yourself, others and on life.

Now, I am the happiest I have ever been, I feel amazing, move every day, and eat healthy food for energy to keep me going. I would like to say you were a huge part of how i feel today. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

In health AND happiness

Megan”

“Megan,

I can’t even begin to tell you how incredibly touched and inspired I was by your story. THANK YOU for taking the time to write and to share your journey so openly with me. I am extremely grateful youtube brought us together and allowed us to share time online being healthy, happy, and positive. Your story is exactly why I do the work I do, to inspire a healthy relationship to self and to empower others to live a life that FEELS good and is full of happiness. I hope we continue to share this life journey together and I hope to see you on towards dreaming big, being brave, accomplishing goals, loving life, and loving yourself. Your note today touched my heart in such a powerful way. You have truly inspired me and I am honored to have been a part of your journey.

I can’t wait to film more videos to share with you through youtube! If you ever have any requests for videos please let me know – I am so happy I get to support you through the channel. And in the event you ever want to share your story below anonymously as a testimonial on my “Caroline Jordan Fitness” social media I would be honored. I know your story would  inspire others to adopt a healthy and happy relationship to exercise! WE are the change in the world! WE can help others live a life that FEELS good and is positive simply by doing it ourselves. THANK YOU for being the change and helping create a healthier, more positive, more self-loving world. I hope you know how beautiful you are inside and out. And I hope you know how your life is positively impacting the health and happiness of the planet.

Till next time – keep inspiring and keep shining. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for this beautiful note 🙂

Caroline”

“Caroline,

Wow! I did not even expect a response. I can truly tell you care about what you do and it makes a huge difference in the lives of others. I just thought I should say thank you, because you definitely were a part of the push I needed to get me where I am today.

I think that a healthy body image and acceptance of self is so important in creating a happier life. I would love to help you improve the happiness and health of others by sharing my story anonymously. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, and I hope to inspire others the way you do.

Also, your channel and weekly newsletters have inspired someone all the way in Canada! Good for you 🙂

Megan”

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Megan’s transformation story touched me deeply and re-affirmed my work in the world. People ask me all the time: Caroline, what exactly do you do? And I don’t have a one word answer. Im a little bit of everything. A little bit teacher. A little bit coach. A little bit writer. A little bit model. A little bit speaker. All of these little bits mix into the big piece of Caroline Jordan Fitness. I am not a one word answer. I am a unique blend of positivity, purpose, heart, and character. I want to make the world a better place through my work. I want to inspire and enable people to love themselves, take care of themselves, and live a life that feels good inside and out. Megan’s story reminded me of WHY I do what I do. I wanted to share it in this space as I thought it might inspire you on your healthy journey too. 

I was raised in movement. Dance and fitness are part of my DNA makeup. It is in my blood, it is something I love, and it is what I live. My first big career dream when I was growing up was to be a “successful fitness instructor” teaching world wide and helping others find the joy in movement. I have journals from high school where I described in detail my visions of success in spandex. Teaching group fitness through high school nurtured my passion and I continued on to pursue Dance and fitness in college which affirmed my mission: I was put on this planet to inspire movement and loving life through health.

After graduation I hustled in San Francisco to work in fitness full time. It was a successful career, yet burnt me out. I became disillusioned. While there is a lot of good in the fitness world, there is also a lot of negative. The extreme, image obsessed, “push yourself till you puke”, and “work yourself to exhaustion” messages are very strong and celebrated. They reinforce a negative relationship to exercise, body, and self. This superficial side of the industry and “six pack abs” songs of glory turned me off. I believe that looking good on the outside is not the path to happiness, but instead believe that feeling good on the inside is the path to happiness. Exercise and movement IS a gateway to fulfill your highest potential, but too often this message gets lost in the “harder better faster stronger” and “look sexy or you aren’t successful” messaging thats out there. I didn’t want a part of it, I wanted a way out. So I signed up to earn my Health and Wellness Coach cert and I started to change career paths.

Studying positive psychology and wellness coaching lit a fire in me. I discovered strengths and skills I didn’t know I had. My career blossomed and branched out as a result. Through coaching my brand began to morph from one of just “fitness professional” to “other”. I still held a space in fitness, yet was pursuing all these opportunities under the vast umbrella of wellness. Through the years I morphed into what I am now – this unique combination of a little bit of everything with one mission: inspire positive thoughts to enable positive actions that create positive outcomes in the world.

For so long I wanted “out” of the fitness industry because I was tired of fighting it’s dark superficial side. Yet over the past few years and through email reminders like Megan’s, I have come to a realization. Fitness is something I love and something I strongly believe in. My work in fitness has been a powerful pathway to get my message out into the world. I now understand that by embracing my fitness roots I can take my Caroline Jordan Fitness mission to new heights. I have been called not to leave the fitness industry, but to LEAD the change within the fitness industry. Will you join me?

I know that the work that I am doing IS serving a purpose. My brand works to shift perspectives and allows others to adopt a healthier life not because it makes them “look good” or fit into a cultural mold, but instead to live their best lives and fulfill their greatest potential. It’s stories like Megan’s that keep my fire burning that remind me to keep going.

Let me ask you: Where are you on your healthy life journey? How can I help you along the way? Tell me how I can be of service in the comments below, it brings me great joy to see you thrive.

I believe in you and believe you have the power to choose to love yourself and love your life. And if ever you forget your own greatness, I want to be the voice thats there to remind you of your strength. Stay committed, positive, present, and persistent. You deserve to feel good and to live a life you love.

Keep going, keep growing,

Caroline

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Don’t Seek Love, Live in Love. 70 ways to Fall in Love with your Life!

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When Valentine’s Day approaches, we all start looking for signs of love outside of ourselves—chocolate, cards, phone calls, flowers, gifts or other sweet sentiments.  Its all to easy to connect our happiness to these external factors and use these things to define the level of love in our lives.

Yet it’s important to remember that happiness is not really determined by the external world, but by the world found inside of you. No amount of flowers, gifts, or love from someone else can fill a void created by a lack of internal happiness. Love is an inside job—and the irony of it is, in order to receive it, we have to already have it. So with Valentine’s Day coming up, Id like to invite you to look at your relationship with yourself and your life. Are you in love with it?

Love takes work. Relationships take work. And the love you have for yourself and your life – yes you guessed it – takes work. Just like anything worth working for, great love doesn’t happen over night. It takes time, sweat, dedication, patience, practice, persistence, and a positive attitude. Learning to love life and all that life has to bring you is a sure way to bring more happiness into your world. One small intentional action a day can create a big changes in creating a life you love. Here are my thoughts on 70 different ways you can create a positive, powerful relationship to your life, and fall in love with it…. every minute of it.

70 Ways to create a positive, powerful relationship to your life. 

  1. Love yourself first.
  2. Live in the present moment.
  3. Don’t ignore the past.
  4. Look for the good in everyone.
  5. Don’t believe everything you think.
  6. Be honest with yourself.
  7. Do what you enjoy doing.
  8. Eat foods that nourish you from the inside out.
  9. Travel. As often as possible.
  10. Give back to others.
  11. Practice patience.
  12. Don’t avoid conflict.
  13. Know what really matters.
  14. Learn to say no.
  15. Learn to say yes.
  16. Create positive rituals.
  17. Find something to believe in.
  18. Accept what you cannot change.
  19. Don’t try to change others.
  20. Let go, forgive, and move forward.
  21. Stand up for yourself.
  22. Be grateful for what you have.
  23. Avoid judgments, stereotypes, and assumptions.
  24. Expect good things.
  25. Be open-minded.
  26. Find a positive outlet.
  27. Use positive language (especially when talking to yourself).
  28. Take chances.
  29. Don’t sabotage your happiness. Get out of your own way.
  30. Find your voice and listen to it.
  31. Surround yourself with positive people.
  32. Believe in your ability to change your life.
  33. Don’t compare yourself to others.
  34. Ask for help.
  35. Take life one day at a time.
  36. Treat others how they want to be treated. Golden rule people!
  37. Don’t let fear hold you back. Feel the fear. Do it anyway.
  38. Avoid complaining.
  39. Don’t create unnecessary drama. Don’t put up with people that do.
  40. Stop making excuses.
  41. Get rid of mental clutter.
  42. Get rid of physical clutter.
  43. Set up clear boundaries.
  44. Seek out opportunities.
  45. Don’t take things personally.
  46. Celebrate the little things.
  47. Trust your intuition.
  48. Help others help themselves.
  49. Be a good listener.
  50. Don’t take life so seriously.
  51. Pick your battles.
  52. Highlight your strengths.
  53. Look for beauty everywhere.
  54. Let go of what you don’t need.
  55. Work hard and play hard.
  56. Know your life has a purpose.
  57. Greet yourself with love.
  58. Pay attention to what your body is saying.
  59. Take calming time-outs.
  60. Don’t wait for someday.
  61. Look for learning opportunities.
  62. Make time to play.
  63. Don’t settle. Ever.
  64. Don’t waste time on hate and envy.
  65. Handle stress positively.
  66. Inspire yourself – and others.
  67. Try your best in everything.
  68. Turn your face to the sun.
  69. Stop wanting to be what you’re not.
  70. Be your own hero.

“If we look at the world with a love of life, the world will reveal its beauty to us.” Give yourself permission to fall in love with your life, no matter what’s missing or what you wish could be different. It’s your life and like it or not, you are married to it. You might as well make it the relationship of a lifetime and find all the beauty in it. Love is a choice. No one can take that choice away from you and no darkness is bold enough to extinguish it. Go ahead… you have nothing to lose. Fall head over heels in love with your life. Every minute of it.

Till next time…. live in love,

Caroline

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Positively Inspiring Workout Tanks. A Happy Holiday Gift From Caroline Jordan Fitness

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I believe positive thoughts equal positive results and that when your mind is in a good place your life will follow suit. The mind is a funny thing, and just like any muscle needs regular exercise to stay positive. The stress of modern living makes it even more challenging to remain mentally grounded, strong, and grateful.  But when you surround yourself with good people, a healthy environment, and inspiration it’s much easier to keep your mind feeling happy, healthy, and motivated for fearless living.

Sometimes even the smallest act, word, or sign can be the one thing that changes your mindset and turns your day around. I teamed up with local designers Manifesto Print Co to create tee-shirts with positive messages. I believe these tanks can serve as a reminder to train positive and live in gratitude. Even something as simple as a screen print tee can actually signal the mind to move into a more powerful place. Below are the first two “Caroline Jordan Fitness” positive thought workout tops to help you train positive. You can order directly from the links below the photos, they ship nationwide.

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manifesto print co. was co-founded by a graphic designer, Lexie, & an illustrator, Kiri. They both work in San Francisco and met at their day job at lululemon. The company started off when they found out their friend, Sossi, lost her bike and needed one in order to complete her Triathlon in a few weeks. So, Kiri & Lexie both designed a shirt and partnered with one of Sossi’s friend Courtney to start a Go Fund Me campaign. Everyone who donated got a handprinted shirt and the design, now known as the “This is Our San Francisco” print, had a bunch of bikes hidden in it in honor of Sossi. After that, Lexie & Kiri decided to create a bunch of designs that they were inspired by. They both design & illustrate everyday and have ongoing projects with fitness instructors, yoga studios and teams at corporate companies. manifesto print co. is all about custom printing unique designs and they handprint every shirt that they make.

Im beyond excited about these tees and believe in the positive intention behind the screen printed messages. Id love to hear your thoughts and feedback on my very first clothing product! Can you imagine yourself seeing one of these tees at the gym? What would you think if you saw one? Would you smile, be inspired, or feel grateful? Please leave your words as a comment below.  Your feedback will help me continue to grow and create content that MOVES you. If you think any of your friends might also enjoy these workout tops, please share this post on Facebooktwitter, or email. Id love to see a positive tee smiling back at me in my next class, workshop, or while walking down the street in SF! 

Yours in gratitude,

Caroline

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Reflections from Cloud 29

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On September 27th, 2014 I turned 29 years old. Ive made it to my last year in my 20’s and I plan on making it COUNT. Its the end of an era leading into a bright new one. It’s the perfect time to let go of what has been and create space for what will be in the decade to come.

This past year has been quite the roller coaster ride: there have been accomplishments, there have been challenges, there have been adventures, and ah-ha moments. Throughout it all this is one thing I’ve learned:

“There are only two ways to live your life.  One is as though nothing is a miracle.  The other is as though everything is a miracle.” ―Albert Einstein

I think you can tell which perspective I take 😉 There will always be ups and downs in life, but ultimately, at the end of the day, that’s what makes each of us who we are.  Which is why you have to learn to accept both the good and the bad that falls on your plate with grace.  Because everything in life happens for you, not to you.  Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late.  For everything you lose, you gain something else; and for everything you gain, you lose something else.  You don’t have to like it, but it’s just easier if you choose to make the most of it.

Living a positive, present life is a daily practice. But it’s worth it. You are worth it. And its up to you to make every second count. So pay close attention to your outlook on life. Like Albert Einstein said, your attitude directly determines how well you live your life. Every day you can either regret or rejoice; it’s your choice. Good or bad, when you choose to celebrate every moment, you create a life of meaning and purpose.

I believe that birthdays are a chance to take a step back, reflect, and fully appreciate the miracle of being alive. After all, the birthday is a celebration of life itself; not just parts of it but of ALL of it. You’ve got to take the good with the bad, smile with the sad, love what you’ve got, and celebrate what you’ve had. 

In the end, loving your life is about trusting your intuition, taking chances, losing and finding happiness, cherishing the memories, and learning through experience.  It’s a long-term journey.  Laugh at the confusion, live consciously in the moment, and enjoy your life as it unfolds – struggles and all.   Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful and in every moment you can find miracles. 

What makes life amazing?  What makes a moment worth remembering? What are you choosing to celebrate today?

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And If you’d like to CELEBRATE life with me,  please join me at my Annual birthday bash benefit party at the W San Francisco. Last year’s ‘Palazzo’ birthday party at the Westin St. Francis was such a fun success that the birthday friends are getting together once again to host another epic event, this time with a heavenly “CLOUD 9” theme.

Urban Dictionary defines “Cloud nine” as the following: 

noun, Informal. 1. a state of perfect happiness (usually in the phrase “on cloud nine”). Perfect happiness to me is living in the moment and ENJOYING life with people I love 🙂

How do you dress your “heavenly” best? White and Blue cocktail attire and you can add angel wings, halos & any other ‘heavenly’ accessories if you want to get into the theme even more. Or spice it up and take the devil approach…. leave the stretchy pants at home and get classy with us!

We will have 2 floors, upbeat dj’s, Tim, Raj & Pang’s live band Rainbow Party performing & more special surprises.  100% net proceeds of our birthday party will benefit hackcancer and other local charities. Please feel free to invite other amazing friends too, the more the merrier and we can’t wait to celebrate with you! Click the link below for tickets :

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I just want you to know how grateful I am for each and every one of you. In life its not about where you go but who you travel with, the experiences you enjoy, and the memories you create. Thanks for being a big part of the journey 🙂 Looking forward to sharing this new year with you. 

With birthday love and gratitude,

Caroline

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Food for Thought: “Fitspiration”. Motivating or Body Shaming?

I love to read and spend a lot of my free time wrapped up in my kindle (oh how I miss real physical books). While I love books, Im also an avid Blog subscriber and follow many for inspiration, information, and pleasure. I came across this article on “Fitspiration” by Lindsay and Lexie Kite of the Beauty Redefined and found it to be a powerful piece worth sharing. Read their amazing thoughts below on why “Fitspiration isnt so motivational”:

“If you are on Facebook, Pinterest, or Twitter, you have seen fitness inspiration images just in time for “the holidays” or “bikini season” or your “big day” to motivate you to “get fit” – we call them “fitspiration.” They are almost always images of parts of women without heads or faces. They are always very thin, surgically and/or digitally enhanced, tanned, oiled up parts of bodies with text like this:

Look good, feel good.

Unless you puke, faint, or die, keep going.

Girls who are naturally skinny are lucky. Girls who have to fight to be skinny are strong.

No matter how slow you’re going, you’re still lapping everyone on the couch.

If you haven’t posted one of these pictures on one of your social networking sites, one of your well-intentioned friends has. I promise. Pinterest itself is a site designed to help people collect images that inspire them, for heaven’s sake. And while a slogan and image motivating you to get out and move and live and do is a beautiful thing, so many of these “fitspiration” messages floating across the web must be exposed for what they are: shame-inducing, objectifying, limiting ideals that keep women in their places as objects to be looked at above all else. 

Ever heard of a thing called “thinspo” or “thinspiration?” It’s an online world of thousands — even millions — of females who share and collect pictures of very thin women as inspiration to keep up their eating disorders. It is a saddening and terrifying world of females banding together to literally get thin at any cost, and thousands of girls and women die every year in this pursuit of thinness. But Beauty Redefined is here to reveal truth — to speak about things as they really are — and we echo Charlotte over on The Great Fitness Experiment“Fitspo may be thinspo in a sports bra.”

It is.

So we are here to provide you with a few ways to determine if the fitness inspiration you are viewing is healthy and motivating you toward real health goals or keeping you imprisoned in a body that is to be looked at above anything else. You are capable of so much more than being looked at. And if you believe that, it puts fitness back into focus as a way to improve your physical health first and foremost.

1. Be very aware of any “fitspiration” that is advertising something. Every company that hosts these ads, all profit from these “girl power!” messages that look so empowering on first glance. The problem with so many of these is what Virginia at VirginaSoleSmith.com calls “a lot of big, fancy girl power talk to sell us stretchy pants and sports bras. This is fine if you’re in the market for some new stretchy pants or a sports bra; not fine if you’re hoping their marketing materials will teach you something profound about yourself.”

fitspiration 1See this bit of fitspiration floating around online? It has effectively chopped a woman into just a part of her — without a head as is so often done in objectifying but totally normal and harmless-looking media. This part of her also happens to be sexually alluring to men, which is so often the case in this same objectifying but totally normal and harmless-looking media. Her hand is placed in her pants in a way that looks very reminiscent of a woman about to pull down her pants in a sexually alluring way. Her hip bones, navel, and cleavage are highlighted by the lighting of the shot, which say nothing of fitness or whatever the “it” is spoken of in the text. This text is open for interpretation so the “it” can be a well-meaning physical fitness goal, but the image would lead one to assume it is a look — a vision of oneself — that is the goal. A sexually appealing, “to be looked at” goal that leaves little room for worrying about internal indicators of health or meeting a fitness goal like hiking to the top of that peak or finishing that race or getting your heart rate up every day.

Pay attention to the advertising so often being done in these “fitness inspiration” messages and you will see what is really being sold here. Is it a message of real health and fitness or a message asking you to commodify yourself by buying sports bras, yoga pants, the latest fitness DVD, etc. to appear a certain way. Advertisers are VERY GOOD at framing their messages as an empowering “You Go Girl!” message with their fists in the air cheering you on. But pay attention to their swift move from using that pumping fist to cheer you on, to punching you in the face for not being enough. If you do not have rock hard chiseled abs, the right workout outfit, etc., you are not good enough until you do. These advertisers will make sure you know that, because their profit depends on your wallet and your beliefs about yourself. They’ll make sure you know you must work for “it” every second. Of every day. For the rest of your life.

2. Next time you see one of these “fitspiration” messages, please ask yourself how it makes you feel. If these images and texts motivate you to respect your body as something that can do so much good, make and reach fitness goals, and maintain health that will keep you happy and able, then they are appropriate for you. If they motivate you to worry about being looked at or to improve parts of your body to meet a beauty ideal you see in media, you must be aware of this. Virginia at VirginaSoleSmith.com so concisely says, “Pay attention to how it makes you feel to be ‘inspired’ by lots of photos of a largely unattainable beauty ideal. Because that’s what rock hard abs are, after all. Yes, sure, core strength is important for your health. But pictures of bikini-clad, chiseled muscles beaded with sweat? That’s about pretty, not about health.”

If these images and messages categorized as “fitness inspiration” actually inspire body shame — you feel ashamed of the beauty ideals you cannot reach and want to hide or judge your body or covet other women’s bodies — then these messages are not inspirational at all. They trigger you to feel anxiety, hopelessness, and ask you to resort to extremes to get somewhere largely unattainable for healthy people. I just finished writing 150 pages of my best work to date to culminate my Ph.D. competency examinations on all these issues Beauty Redefined brings to light, and the most powerful quote struck me hard. It has everything to do with the fitness inspiration we are discussing here:

Taught from infancy that beauty is woman’s scepter, the mind shapes itself to the body and roaming round its gilt cage, only seeks to adorn its prison.” (Wollstonecraft, 1792)

This woman hundreds of years ago described what girls and women growing up today are asked to do every second of every day for the rest of their lives. We are asked to believe our power, our very identities, our worth, all lie in our bodies because we ARE our bodies. So we are asked to fix every part of our bodies – from the wrong-colored roots of our hair to the scratchy bottoms of our feet and every new flaw in between (baggy fitspiration 3eyelids, insufficient eyelashes, saggy knees, cellulite, stretch marks, and every other sign of life). Men are not asked to fix these “flaws” because this is women’s work — a work that must last a lifetime. We are advertised in media to ourselves as parts of ourselves to encourage us to view ourselves as simply parts in need of constant maintenance and perfection. We are asked to believe we are our bodies and nothing more, and we are asked to adorn the prison that we must reside in every second. Of every day. For the rest of our lives.

Now look again at those “inspirational” fitness messages. Are those messages carefully crafted to appear to be health and fitness inspired, only to sell you a product, keep you fixated on parts of yourself that have nothing to do with your actual health and physical fitness, and keep you roaming around your prison? Our bodies are not prisons — they are gifts that allow us to live and breathe and act and do and be. But when we believe we are only bodies, and health is simply making those parts look presentable and beautiful to people looking at us, we are at once prisoners and the prison guards.

3. We borrow from the fantastic Virginia Sole-Smith again for our last very important point: “Any motivational statement that has to diss another type of body in order to make you feel good about your body? Not. Helping. Anyone.” You’ve seen those photos of Marilyn Monroe vs. Nicole Richie with the words: “When did this become hotter than this?” or some variation. Ugh. When we pit female against female, we get nowhere fast. We continue minimizing each other to our bodies EVERY TIME we judge each others’ bodies, comment on them, even compliment each other.

fitspiration 4One thing Lindsay and I mention at every speaking engagement is this: We have been taught from a young age that girls are to be looked at. So we compliment little girls on how pretty they are and little boys on how funny/rambunctious/smart/anything else they are. When we greet another female, we so often compliment her on her appearance: “Have you lost weight?” “I love your hair!” “Is that a new outfit?” But reverse that scenario. When guys greet each other, how often do you hear them minimize each other to their bodies and appearance? I almost NEVER hear a man say “Is that a new outfit?” or “Your hair looks great today!” to another man, because they do not learn they ARE their bodies like females do. We are capable of so much more than being looked at, but when our dialogue revolves around our bodies and we judge other women’s bodies, we are not getting anywhere progressive or happy or healthy. So next time you see a “fitspiration” post that pits one woman’s body type against another, please comment on it and link to this post!

So where do you turn for fitness information and happy inspiration?! If you are seeking positive inspiration to get fit and healthy and respect your body as something so powerful and capable of more than being looked at, we can help. That’s why Beauty Redefined is here! Check out our in-fitspiration 5depth look at the Body Mass Index (BMI) that has a shocking history and completely flawed present status. Get going on making 2012 the year of the Body Hate Apocalypse by setting real health and fitness goals. We’ve got a fantastic list of them here. Read why fat shaming and focusing on numbers on the scale won’t get us anywhere in terms of real health here.

You are capable of much more than being looked at. When you believe that, you break free from the prison walls that keep you confined to your body, pitted against every other woman/prisoner in her own individual cell, always monitored by a gaze that controls your beliefs about yourself and your actions. Beauty Redefined is here to shine a light in on that lonely prison cell and remind you what you are capable of in a world so badly in need of you — not a vision of you — but all of you. Thank you for joining the fight!

This post originally appeared on Beauty Redefined.”

I connected with Lindsay to thank her for writing this piece and ask to share her thoughts in this space.  In the image obsessed world we live in today,  having a positive, confident body image and healthy relationship to exercise is extremely challenging. You are constantly surrounded by the message that if you just had “six pack abs”,  “worked harder for it”, or a “drowned yourself in sweat” you’d be happy and successful. Well we all know thats NOT true, but if you are around anything enough it influences you. I am grateful to Lindsay and Lexie for writing this piece and reminding us to be a critical viewer of social and media messages.  Its so important to have regular reminders to be a conscious consumer and protect your mental health from images that make you feel negatively about yourself. SHARE this post with anyone you feel could benefit from a little awareness on this subject or body image boost on Facebooktwitter, or emailA healthier, happier world starts with a healthier, happier mind. You are the change. Thank you for being amazing!

Where do you stand, how do you feel? Do these images motivate you towards health or make you feel badly about yourself? Leave your thoughts in the comments below, Id love to hear your opinion! 

Yours in gratitude,

Caroline

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Buff up your Body Image With This Body Love Strength Workout.

Want to build a stronger body image? Buff up your body image with this body love strength workout.

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Every time i look in the mirror I choose to celebrate what I’ve got vs. hate what Im not. Its a constant work in progress and somedays are easier than others. Love it what we are born with, self-criticism is what we’ve learned here. The only challenge greater than learning to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes, is learning to walk a lifetime comfortably in your own.

In the body image obsessed world we live in today,  having a positive, confident body image is extremely challenging. You are constantly surrounded by the message that if you just had “six pack abs”, a “lean toned physique”, or a “brazillian booty” you’d be happy and successful. Well we all know thats NOT true, but if you are around anything enough it influences you.

You gotta work hard every day to choose self-love over self-hate. By accepting and loving yourself you can inspire others to do the same. Body confidence and self-love is a muscle, the more you work on it the stronger it gets. There’s no better time than right now — yep, right this very minute! — to get started on some serious body-love. Here are my “body love muscle” strength workout tips. Do a self-love mental pushup with these suggestions for success and REPEAT!

Buff up your Body Image with this Body Love Strength Workout (to be done daily times one million reps)

  • Stop the comparison or body bashing when it starts. Stay alert to fighting negative self-talk. Catch yourself when you find yourself saying, “I wish I had her this” or “Id rather look like that”. Nip it at the bud. Don’t build a habit of comparing yourself to others. You are you and that is that. Work to be the best possible YOU vs trying to be a second rate version of someone else. When that little voice of doom pops up in your mind trying to remind you how horrible you think you are, have a strategy for turning those negatives to positives. No one is perfect! When you find yourself being self critical immediately stop and turn your talk around.
  • Talk it out. Feeling bummed about your body? Talk to a friend, coach, or kind ear about it! Getting your feelings out in the open will help you 1. realize they are just thoughts and 2. work to do something positive about them. Thoughts become things – when you bring them out in the open by talking them out with a friend you can help them grow into positive things vs. allowing them to drive you crazy keeping them inside.
  • Become a critical viewer of social and media messages.  Pay attention to images, slogans, or attitudes that make you feel bad about yourself or your body. You have to learn to shield yourself from the constant negative media and culture messages. Look at magazines, tv, fitness images, and other sources of “social image pressure” that make you feel badly about your body image and GET RID of your exposure to them! If you can’t get rid of them, put your blinders on. Be a conscious consumer at all times and protect your mental health with the images you choose to be around.
  • Surround yourself with positive people.  It is easier to feel good about yourself and your body when you are around others who are supportive and who recognize the importance of liking yourself just as you naturally are. Friends don’t let friends engage in “fat talk” or “body shaming”. If you catch your social circle obsessing or stressing about image in a negative way, bring attention to it and ask to STOP it. That talk is toxic.
  • MOVE your body. Exercise not only changes your BODY. It changes your MIND, your ATTITUDE and your MOOD. Movement therapy is something that helps improve everyone’s sense of being. Exercise because you love your body, not because you hate it. Move to generate positive energy, sweat out negative energy, and to be healthy. Being active is one of the best ways to support your health and enjoy life!
  • STOP defining yourself with numbers. You are not your weight. You are not your body fat percentage. You are not your mile speed. You are not your bra size. You are SO SO much more than a number. Don’t give power to or allow numbers to define you. Remember: the scale LIES anyway so why trust it’s judgement or give it’s values power over your mental health, emotional health, and life?? At the end of your life are you really going to remember the numbers? NO. You are going to remember the quality of your life based off how you lived it. And being obsessed with the scale is not a happy way spend your days.
  • Work the Gratitude. Snap out of a negative body funk by giving THANKS for your body. YOUR BODY IS AMAZING. Its a miracle. Its a gift. Stop focusing on the one thing its not and start celebrating all the wonderful things it IS. Appreciate all that your body can do.  Every day your body carries you closer to your dreams.  Celebrate all of the amazing things your body does for you—running, dancing, breathing, laughing, dreaming, etc. Appreciating all that you have to be grateful for is one the very best ways to remember that you’re so very lucky to be uniquely YOU. Your body is the most incredible instrument you will ever own, stay thankful always.
  • Do Some GOOD. Use the time and energy that you might have spent worrying about food, calories, and your weight to do something to help others.  Sometimes reaching out to other people can help you feel better about yourself and can make a positive change in our world.
  • Learn to be happy with what you have while you pursue what you want. I do believe it is possible to love yourself and work on self improvement, when the intention for change comes from a compassionate place vs a place of criticism or self hate. When you accept and love yourself and your body, you know that whatever healthy changes you are making isn’t to change a part of you. It isn’t coming from a place of, “There’s something wrong with me, and I need to fix it.” It’s coming from a place of, “I’m enhancing my life. This healthy choice is good for my mind, body, and spirit.”
  • Look at yourself as a whole person.  When you see yourself in a mirror or in your mind, choose not to focus on specific body parts.  See yourself as you want others to see you–as a whole person with a healthy mind, heart, and soul <3
  • Remind yourself that “true beauty” is not simply skin deep.  When you feel good about yourself and who you are, you carry yourself with a sense of confidence, self-acceptance, and openness that makes you beautiful regardless of whether you physically look like a supermodel.  Beauty is a state of mind, not a state of your body.

Do you work on your positive body image, self-confidence, and self-esteem? Leave a comment below and let me know one way you strengthen your body love muscle.

Be the change in a world full of body-hate. Lead by example. BE YOURSELF, ACCEPT YOURSELF, VALUE YOURSELF, FORGIVE YOURSELF, BLESS YOURSELF, EXPRESS YOURSELF, TRUST YOURSELF, LOVE YOURSELF, EMPOWER YOURSELF. You are you and that is that – no apologies or regrets. You get one body and one life – work to love it and have a healthy relationship with it (imperfections included!). Be positive, be present, this is your LIFE. Don’t wait. Love your body now and live every second in gratitude, health, and happiness. You can’t be real if you are trying to be perfect, and you can’t be authentically YOU either. Be you, be real, be amazing.

Sending you love and light. Keep working those body image push-ups, you’re doing great.

Caroline

Want more help on loving yourself inside and out? Check out my book, Balanced Body Breakthrough . I’ve got chapters worth of content on body image, body confidence, self love, self-esteem, and self-care. It will help you take action and love yourself so you can love your life.

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