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This is Me with No Makeup and I’m Cool With It.

This is me with NO Makeup and I’m cool with it. This post is about self acceptance, self love, and making choices based on what makes you FEEL GOOD.

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Hello there friend!

Doing something a little radical on the Youtube channel…. I’m going NAKED for the world to see! This is me with No Makeup. And I’m actually cool with it.

Yup. NO makeup! A bare face! Here I am, this is me. Press play.

This is Me With No Makeup and I’m Cool With It.

I wanted to film this Youtube video to talk about self acceptance, self love, and making choices based on what makes YOU FEEL GOOD.

When I was younger I used to feel pressure to wear makeup. I would feel naked without it. I wouldn’t leave the house without makeup on. In fact: I would even wear makeup to teach fitness classes and workout because I felt self-conscious without it. Which when you think about it, makes NO sense because I was putting makeup on to just sweat it off.  I was wasting money, time, and a lot of effort putting on makeup.

When we start to examine things we do every day on a personal level it sparks thought. Why did I feel like I had to spend all that time and energy putting on makeup?

I felt like I had to wear makeup to be accepted by others. But the reality is: I just had to choose to accept myself (makeup on or makeup off).

Over the years my relationship to myself has evolved and I have grown to love, approve, and accept myself. It’s a never-ending work in progress and I am by no means perfect. But every day I make the conscious effort to practice self-love and make choices that make me feel good.

My relationship to wearing makeup has also changed. I love makeup and I think it is so much fun. I enjoy trying new colors, styles, and getting “fancy”. But I no longer need makeup to feel good enough or good about myself. I wear makeup when I feel like it and when I don’t…. I don’t. At first, the days I chose not to wear makeup felt uncomfortable and strange. Yet the side-eye glances, rude comments, and strange looks I was fearfully anticipating never happened. (“Look, she’s not wearing makeup!” said no one ever.) It’s liberating to realize that at the end of the day, no one cares about what’s on your face except you.

If you are into makeup there is NO shame in that! Heck, I’ll rock a cat eye with you any day. What I want to communicate is simply this message: Wear makeup or don’t wear makeup just DO WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD. You deserve to love yourself and love your life makeup on or makeup off.

I hope this encourages you to make choices that allow you to feel your very best inside and out. And I hope it reminds you that you don’t need any product to feel or be beautiful. You can choose that yourself.

I love you friends – thanks for subscribing to my Youtube channel, for being a part of my community, and for being a part of my heart. I want to hear from you: how do you feel about makeup? What is your relationship to your naked face? Let me know in the comments below – Id love to hear from you!

With love and light,

Caroline

My mission is to empower feel good fitness inside and out. I am here to be of service in your wellness and help you get your mind, body, and spirit in shape so you can love your life. Lets work together and live well. Contact me at carolinejordanfitness@gmail.com 

For more self love resources and support, Check out my book, Balanced Body Breakthrough and get your mind, body, and spirit in great shape so you can love your life.

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What is My Theme for 2017? Healing.

I set an intention with a “theme” for each New Year. I believe this sets a strong, powerful intention for a desired outcome and allows you to stay consistent in taking action towards a year congruent with that theme. 2012 (“The Year of Self Love”) and 2013 (“The Year of Yes”) have been favorites so far.

What’s my theme for 2017?

Healing.

In the middle of 2016, I was sidelined with a serious foot injury that took me out of my life. Up until that point I was happy running around San Francisco doing as much as possible all at the same time. But this? This was a big large stop sign. It forced me to sit, feel, deal, and re-evaluate things. The only way out was through. I had a choice: shut it out and wallow in self pity, or open up and receive it.

I chose to open.

When you can’t go out, you go within. The journey has been everything (#allthefeels) and despite all the not so fun parts, I feel more alive than ever before. It has been one of the most transformative times of my life.

I’ve been thinking a lot about healing. Each one of us has trauma to heal, loss to mourn, hurts to forgive, or pain to let go of. Sometimes our pain manifests in the physical self and other times it takes form in ways that are not so obvious. As hard as it’s been, I am so grateful my foot pressed pause on my life and asked me to look at how I was moving through it. I needed to slow down, to work on myself, to heal past hurts that prevented me from being my best.

Moving into 2017 the journey continues. I am not in a rush, healing takes time (and I’m pretty sure it’s something that is never really done). Taking the time to generously nourish the body, mind, and spirit is one incredibly hard yet rewarding process. But the cool part? You FEEL results. From all of your efforts, you experience lightness, freedom, and expansiveness in your life and heart.

The process begins with one simple move: opening to what is. The photo above is how I feel going into 2017, empowered from my results and open to receive whatever the Universe has for me next. I believe life gives us great challenges to remind us that we’re alive (what a gift!) and that there is pleasure, and joy, and beauty, and so much room to expand into. And that yes, this journey, this life, is worth it.

 

All we have to do is open up to what is. The rest will take care of itself.

What is your theme for 2017? Have you ever focused on healing your mind, body, spirit? What do you do to heal? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.

Thank you for being a part of my journey – here’s to a year full of healing.

With love and light,

Caroline

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How to Listen To Your Body

Struggling to find a balance with fitness? Here’s how to learn to listen to your body and enjoy exercise in a healthy way.

Have you ever had one of those days where you were tired? You started a workout, but then felt heavy, exhausted, and needed to rest?

I have those days. I get excited to sweat, but just don’t seem to have any gas in the tank. My mind feels tired, my legs are like lead, and my body is asking for rest. So I listen, call the workout, and stop.

I wasn’t always like this. Growing up in a strict school of ballet I was taught the “no pain no gain” philosophy. Self-sacrifice, self-discipline, and “pushing through pain” was celebrated. You were a good dancer if you gave your all, no matter what, all of the time. No days off.

My life moved on from dance, but it took me a long time to change this mindset. There was never a specific moment that changed things for me, that turned me from self-sacrificing to self-loving. I just started to evolve over time. I learned many hard lessons. I began to see how pushing through the pain wasn’t actually helping, but rather hurting my fitness goals long term. I changed the way I viewed exercise and training. It wasn’t something to “be good at” or “win”. It didn’t have to hurt or leave me drained. It could actually make me feel strong, confident, energized, and balanced. It could enhance the quality of my life – if I chose to listen and train smart. So I learned to listen to my body. I developed my fitness plan that met my needs, preferences, and energy levels. I found a way of exercising that made me feel happy, healthy, and whole, all because I took the time to listen and figure out what that felt like.

Being a wellness coach, I work to help others find balance. And I can honestly say that today I practice what I preach. Now I train with a self-compassionate mind, a training regimen I would prescribe to a loved one. It’s always a work in progress and my body changes all the time. Every day is an invitation to choose to check in, listen, and find a healthy challenge. One that makes me feel amazing.

I believe exercise is one of the most powerful ingredients in having energy and living a healthy life. The hard part is figuring out when enough is enough and when it’s just too much. The good news? Your body is SMART. You just need to train your brain to recognize the signs for when to put the pedal to the metal and when to pump the brakes—and actually do it.

Here are my thoughts on how to learn to listen to your body and enjoy exercise in a healthy way.

How to Listen To Your Body

Check YoSelf before You Wreck YoSelf. We move so fast these days and follow our busy schedules from start to finish. It’s rare that we take the time to slow down to notice how we are feeling or if our plans are in-line with what we need. Every day is an opportunity to pay attention. Before exercising, take a few moments to do a mindful check-in to get in touch with your body and mind.  How does your body feel? How is your energy? How is your mood? Notice where you might be storing stress, tension, or emotion. With all this in mind, what kind of exercise is right for you that day? Do you need a hard cardio workout to burn off stress? A strength workout to feel grounded? Some functional movement to address muscular imbalances? A few exercises to boost your energy? A yoga workout to stretch out tight hamstrings? By noticing how your body and mind feels in the moment, you can move forward in choosing a workout that meets your needs.

Give it 20 Minutes. If you are feeling tired and are not quite sure if you should or should not workout, give it 20 minutes. Start slow, ease into it, and check in with how you feel. Sometimes a workout can completely transform your energy and turn you from sleepy to energizer bunny. And sometimes it doesn’t work that way. It’s always worth getting moving for 10-20 minutes to see how it goes. If you feel good and end up exercising for more time, then great. If not, at least you got some movement and found out how your body felt. It’s always worth it to try a few minutes and check in with your physical self.

Be Mindful of the Fitness that surrounds you. Those “motivational” quotes that tell you “Unless you puke, faint, or pass out keep going”? Yea thats just plain stupid. That’s not motivating, that’s body shaming. Those types of mantras will end up hurting you mentally, physically, or both. Get away from that sh*t. Also be a conscious consumer of what fitness classes, instructors, and groups you choose to be around. If a class or an instructor ever makes you feel pressured to push or compromise your health for “conquering” a workout, it’s probably not a healthy source of fitness support. There are plenty of fitness classes and coaches that can help you challenge yourself in a positive way, so if you haven’t found them yet, keep looking. You should feel encouraged to listen to your body and supported in doing what you need to do to be strong.

If it hurts, stop. This seems really straightforward but I can’t tell you how many people I know who push through the pain. If you feel sharp pain or discomfort during any type of workout, don’t keep going. Doing so can result in serious injury that will sideline you for a long time—talk about frustrating! Pain signs are not hard to recognize, they HURT. Be smart and listen to your body if it’s telling you to slow down or stop.

If you feel tired, do less. I love hard workouts, but I definitely don’t do maximal, high-intensity workouts every single day of the week. In fact, I usually let my energy levels and body awareness dictate how hard I work. While I love to go fast and do a million burpees, some days I head into the gym for a workout and my body feels low on energy. I take that as a sign that I need to go easier that day. I’ll slow down, ignore my pace, do a little bit of feel good movement, or focus on recovery foam rolling. Using this strategy allows you to take care of yourself, stay active, and make fitness a habit, but without overdoing it.

What would you tell a friend to do? Would you tell a client or friend to train the way you do? If the answer is no, you might want to re-think how you workout. Exercise is supposed to help you not hurt you. Would you tell a friend with achilles tendonitis to go run a hard 6 miles? Or someone who pulled their lower back to toughen up and do their workout anyways? Probably not. But would you encourage a friend who’s feeling down to join run club? Or tell your stressed out colleague to go to yoga? Or suggest some fresh air and a walk outside when your friend is feeling tired? I would too. Sometimes we take better care of others than we do of ourselves. When you are not sure how hard to push or whether or not you should do a workout, think about what you would tell someone you care about to do. Then listen to your own advice.

The younger version of me would have felt guilty for stopping a workout early. Old dance mantras and “fitspiration” quotes would run around circles in my head. I would have continued to workout. I would have pushed past the fatigue. I would have seen “conquering” a tired day as a win.

But today I know better. I know to listen.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for challenging yourself to be your best. But there’s a line between healthy challenge and just not smart. Your body is the only place you have to live and it deserves to be respected. Learning to listen to your body may be one of the best things you ever choose to do. There’s no quote or class out there that can teach you how to find the right balance between push and recover. It’s on you. But the beautiful thing is every day is an opportunity to check in with yourself and choose to do what YOU need to do to feel your best. This process of listening, honoring, and giving to yourself will allow you to find your strongest self, inside and out.  

Do you listen to your body when it comes to planning, modifying, or sometimes skipping workouts? Does this habit work for you? Let me know in the comments below.

I wish for you the wisdom to listen, the strength to find your own challenge, and the courage to do what YOU need to do to be well.

Here’s to you my friend, listening to yourself and living a feel good life.

Caroline

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How To Stay Positive With An Injury. Healing Thoughts

Cheer Yourself Up when injured! Here are some positive thoughts to help you heal from an injury.

Healing Thoughts To Recover From Injury

Healing Thoughts To Recover From Injury

“Aloha from Maui Caroline! I just want to thank you so much for your positive attitude. You have helped me get through such a rough time. Since Sept. my Father was in and out of hospital sick and passed away March 28th. Meanwhile I had broke my foot and had surgery in Jan. I was on crutches for 2 months and just got out of my boot this past Monday. Your ‘hurt foot’ workout videos got me through it without going crazy from not being able to exercise. I’m an avid runner and spinner so it took everything for me to not go crazy. I start PT on Monday and looking forward to getting my life back. Thanks again for ALL your positiveness from the bottom of my heart.” – Lauren, Maui, Hawaii

“Hi Caroline, My name is Bob Mayer, and I live in northern Wisconsin.  I’ve never so much as commented on a YouTube video before, but I needed to go out of my way to thank you for providing the broken foot workouts on YouTube. I’m a triathlete, half-marathon runner, cross country skier, basketball player, and (aspiring) weightlifter.  So, having a broken foot really upends my lifestyle.  I’m appreciative that folks like you are willing to put some time into people like me that have a frustrating injury. Again, thanks!  Keep up the good work. Best, Bob” – Bob Mayer, Wisconsin

“Hi, Caroline! I just wanted to say thank you, really! I sprained my ankle for the first time in life, 5 months ago and it was horrible! It happened after training and I was so depressed about it and felt so helpless not able to move for almost 2 weeks and then having pain and not training at all. I was so happy to find your channel on YouTube and your videos have been so helpful ! Thank you for your advices, positive energy and help in such hard time. You rock! Keep on your great work! Looking forward to more videos from you! Have a great summer, Trisha” Trisha, Denmark

“Caroline, I just want to thank you SO much not only for your YouTube workouts for a broken foot, but for your AWESOME attitude and positive energy!! I have really been lifted up by your validation and empowering dialogue. Seriously, it is a hard thing to recover from an injury and have my usual cardio addiction at a standstill. Your workouts were my turning point from feeling completely depressed and victimized by my injury–to feeling optimistic and empowered that there IS something I can do to stay fit and positive. Your quote, “The only disability is a bad attitude” is like my new life motto!! I can’t tell you how much I needed that! And I can tell I’m healing faster with working out too. Thank you so much for your amazing work!! It’s making a huge difference for me!! ” Elsie Madison, California

Injury. Sh**t happens.

I’ve dealt with my fair share of injuries. Each one has brought it’s own lessons and opportunities to strengthen my internal fitness. Injuries are part of being human and part of the experience of having a body. Sometimes you get sick, tired, hurt, or face physical challenges that are not in your control. It’s life and it happens. But it doesn’t make getting hurt any easier. If you are working through an injury right now, I am here to offer you some comfort and support.

Wellness is so much more than physical. It’s mental, it’s spiritual, it’s taking care of yourself as a whole. Keeping your mind + spirit in good shape will help you recover from your injury and return to good health.  And I am here to help you take care of yourself inside and out.

Here are some healing thoughts to help you recover from injury and stay positive through the process.

How To Stay Positive When Recovering From An Injury.

Acknowledge and radically accept the injury. It is not what you wanted. It is not what you asked for. It sucks but here it is and you must be the one to prioritize and deal with it. Resistance in the healing process is not good. Acceptance helps release resistance. Accept that there are some things you cannot control about the healing process, like how long it may take. But also recognize that there are many things you can control, like how you react to it (moment by moment), how consistent you are with your rehab and treatment, the energy of people you keep around you while you are healing (this is a big one, keep the Negative Nancy’s away!), the alternative activities you do with your time while you are healing, and so on.

Be non-judgmental but honest with yourself about how it got to this point. Ask yourself, “What was my body trying to tell me?” and “Did I listen to its first signals? Or wait until it got to the point where the only way my body could get my attention was to take me out of the game for a bit?” This will help you learn how to better listen to your body. It will help you understand your body’s signals and messages to possibly prevent an injury from occurring again. However, sometimes sh*t happens and you break your foot without notice. Acknowledge that too and move on.

Affirm Your Body’s Ability to Recover and Empower Your Mind To Help you Heal. If you believe your body isn’t healing and talk about how you are not getting better, you are affirming the negative and NOT helping the recovery process. You must empower your mind to help heal your body. It’s kind of like preparing to run a race or deliver an important presentation at work. Close your eyes, visualize the outcome you want, and affirm to yourself that your body WILL heal and WILL recover back to full health. Empower your mind to think positively about recovery and help your body heal.  

You are going to have good days and you are going to have bad days. And it’s important to know: thats OK. Throughout the recovery process you will have days where it’s easy to deal and manage healing. You may also have days where you feel frustrated, upset, impatient, angry, all sorts of emotions. It’s important to know that its totally normal to feel those feelings and to have positive strategies on hand for coping with them when they happen. Don’t isolate yourself or hurt yourself doing something self-destructive (like using drugs/alcohol/food to numb emotions or pushing your injury too far in a workout session that you re-hurt yourself.). Reach out to friends, family, loved ones. Do something to help release the feelings and restore your spirit in a healthy way. Which leads me to my next suggestion…

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Cheer Yourself UP. Life is short. Injured or not, there is SO much to enjoy about it. Count your blessings instead of adding up your troubles. Choose to see the good in everything and make the best of the situation. Put on your favorite music. Sing out loud. Shake your booty. Watch funny movies. Surround yourself with friends. Plan your next vacation. Write thank you notes to those who made a difference in your life. Write a note of encouragement to yourself. Find ways to cheer yourself up. Your body will feel the positive energy and it will make you feel better. 

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Do what you CAN do. Don’t stew over what you can’t do. Do what you CAN do. If you have a hurt foot, work on your push-ups. If you hurt your wrist, practice your body weight squats. Work on the physical therapy exercises prescribed to you through your doctor. Do all your “homework” exercises and follow the doctors orders. Be the best patient there ever was, the kind doctors love to work with. You’ll heal faster and it will make you feel better to be proactive and positive about the recovery process. 

Visualize it. Affirm it. Talk about itYes, realistically you are injured but that is no excuse to rehash the past every day with every ache or pain, or with every person that asks how you are doing. If some asks how you are doing say to them “Thanks for asking and I’m healing up.” or “On my way to coming back stronger and better.”

Most of you know, I am a big believer in positive affirmations (in fact, there’s a whole chapter in my book on them!).  I recommend repeating one or two healing affirmations throughout the day. This will keep your mind in good shape. My favorite healing affirmations are “My body now restores itself to its natural state of perfect health” and “Every day in every way I am getting healthier and stronger”.

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Be kind to yourself. The healing process is all about the art of allowing. Allowing releases resistance and therefore releases tension in the body that is needed for healing, as opposed to the resistance creating tension that inhibits healing. Being angry with our body is like being angry at a kid for having broken leg. What is done is done and now what is needed is support and kindness towards yourself. Also, allow others to take care of you and trust their care. This can be difficult for Type-A-control-freak-independent types (again I say this in the most endearing sense, you all know I love you) but maybe that is a part of the lesson. Many high achieving individuals struggle with asking or receiving help. Be kind to yourself and allow others to help support your needs. This in itself can be very empowering because we are all in this together. There is no person on earth that does not need someone for something in their life, we are all interdependent.

Accept this moment and this injury in this time and space. Try to see your injury isolated to this time and space in your life. Just because something is happening now does not mean it will happen again, especially if we learn from it. What you resist only stays with you longer and when you fight something, you only make it stronger. Flow with reality, not against it. Choose to accept what is, be positive and proactive, let go of the need to control every little detail, and embrace peace in the process. Remember: what you resist persists, what you embrace dissolves. Practice letting go and trusting your body. Which leads me to my last suggestion…

Trust yourself and trust your body.  Time to heal allows you to focus on yourself. Sometimes we think that because we train and workout we are paying attention to ourselves when really we may be distracting from life or other issues. An injury allows you to learn more about you. It provides and opportunity to learn how to be more self compassionate. It also provides time to reflect on things that may need to change in your life. Healing through an injury allows you to make space in your life FOR YOU. Guess what, your life is not going anywhere and if you use this time to take care of yourself and heal correctly you’ll probably come back stronger, wiser, and better than before. I’ve seen it happen time and time again. However, it is up to you to prioritize yourself and take good care of YOU during this time.

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While I could go on and on about coping with various psychological and emotional aspects of an injury, I truly believe that each individual faces their own unique healing process. If you need additional support moving positively forward to health through this time, I offer phone wellness coaching. You can set up an appointment by emailing: carolinejordanfitness@gmail.com

I hope this offers you some comfort and support through this difficult time. It is important that you recognize that you can choose how you react to your situation. Remember, “If you change the way you see things, the things you see change.” Injury and pain in life are opportunities to grow and sometimes change directions in life. Be open to what this time in your life is reflecting back to you. Take it one day, one breath at a time.

Have you ever been injured? Whats one thing you’ve done to stay positive during the recovery process? Let me know in the comments below. And make sure to check out the best foods and supplements for healing from an injury here. 

Injury or not, every day life gives us so much to be grateful for. Keep finding the blessings and stay positive my friends.

Sending good vibes and healing energy to you,

Caroline

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Want to stop taking things personally? Read this helpful article on how to not take things personally to feel better in your relationships and life.

How To Stop Taking Things Personally. 

Have you ever found yourself ruminating and overanalyzing what someone said to you hours after a conversation? Or worried that when a friend doesn’t text you back that they are upset with you? Perhaps you feel hurt by your co-workers actions and feel like they are “out to get you” in the office. Or maybe someone says something which you take as an insult or you assume a person doesn’t like you if they walk past without saying hello.

Why is it so hard not to take things personally? We are human and we all struggle with this from time to time. It’s easy to feel unloved and unwanted when people aren’t able to communicate and connect with you in the way you expect.  And it’s so hard not to internalize that disconnection as a reflection on your worth.  But the truth is, the way other people behave and function is not about you.  In one of my favorite books, “The Four Agreements”, author Don Miguel Ruiz writes,

“Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

This concept seems easy on paper, but it can be hard to put to practice in our lives. When it comes down to it, you’re in control of how you interpret things. Think of how much happier you’d be with a new perspective. Here are some suggestions on how to shift your mindset and adjust your interactions so you can live in peace.

How to Not Take Things Personally.

  1. Realize: It’s just not all about you. Other’s interactions and way of being is a reflection of them and it’s nothing personal. If someone is being unkind to you, remember that they’re probably behaving this way because of something that’s happened to them in the past or present; which has nothing to do with you. They might be having a bad day, going through a rough period, or it might just be their personality. Everyone has their own issues they are working through. Once you realize that the world isn’t all about you, you will be happier.
  2. Wait to respond. Controlling your response in any given situation allows you to reflect on what’s happening and calmly communicate with the person that might be getting under your skin. Before reacting to another’s actions or saying something you might regret, STOP. Pause and take a deep breath. Resist the urge to act immediately through a difficult emotion. Instead, create space to develop an appropriate response and then act with intention.
  3. In difficult conversations, use Nonviolent Communication. Nonviolent communication is also known as Compassionate Communication or Collaborative Communication. It was invented by Marshall Rosenberg in the 1960s and focuses on self-empathy, empathy, and honest self-expression. It’s a four-step process based on (1) observation, (2) feeling, (3) need, (4) request. When I went to wellness coaching school, we studied Nonviolent communication as a technique to have difficult conversations.
    1. For example: “Dan, when I (1) see dishes in the sink, I (2) feel irritated because I’m needing (3) the kitchen that we share in common to be clean. (4) Could you please do your dishes?” You’re not taking the fact that he hasn’t done the dishes, personally; you’re communicating how you feel without being irrational or demeaning. You can learn more at The Centre for Nonviolent Communication.
  4. Have Empathy. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes by trying to understand what the other person might be feeling/thinking/trying to convey to you and what his or her circumstances are that may influence their behavior.  
  5. Seek clarification before jumping to conclusions. Instead of making an assumption, first ask the other person for more information and give them the benefit of the doubt. It’s too easy to assign motives to others. You think they say something a certain way and before you know it you’re getting mad at them before you even speak to them. A better option is to give them the benefit of the doubt. If they do something that confuses you, ask them about it without judgment.
  6. Be okay with being vulnerable and expressing when someone’s actions hurt you. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable by expressing our feelings can help resolve conflicts. My friends know, when there’s a disagreement or mis-understanding, I want to talk it out right away. I believe it’s far better to be uncomfortable being vulnerable and have a difficult conversation than to live with upset in your heart.
  7. Take comments or criticism in a constructive way. If you are criticised, ask yourself if there’s any truth to it, and what you can learn. Even if it wasn’t said in a nice way, you can still learn something. Take the lessons and choose to see the positives in every experience.
  8. Dont dwell on it. Every moment we spend dwelling over the past, even minutes ago, we lose precious time Now. Obsessing over what happened and holding on to anger, resentment, or hurt only causes pain in your life. Learn what you can from the situation and then let it go. I know it can be hard to do, especially if you feel upset and hurt. But it’s very important you don’t obsess over past pain and problems. For these things have the power to poison your heart, your mind, your body, and your life.
  9. Realise that you can’t please everyone. No matter who you are or what you do, there will always be people who dislike or criticise you. You can’t change other people and all you can do is be yourself. At the end of the day, “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
  10. Distance Yourself from Toxic People. Sometimes it’s extra challenging not to take things personally because you are around toxic people. If you know someone who insists on destructively dictating the emotional atmosphere, then be clear: they are toxic.  If you are suffering because of their attitude, you’ve tried the steps above, and it doesn’t seem to help or they don’t seem to care one bit, then ask yourself, “Do I need this person in my life?” When you delete toxic people from your environment it becomes a lot easier to breathe.  If the circumstances warrant it, leave these people behind and move on when you must.  Be strong and know when enough is enough!  Letting go of toxic people doesn’t mean you hate them, or that you wish them harm; it simply means you care about your own well-being. Don’t let toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and get them out of there.
  11. Make sure you have plenty of time for Self Care. Think about how you feel when you haven’t slept, had enough quality nutrition, or haven’t had enough time for yourself. Cranky, moody, and easily upset, right? If you don’t make enough time to care about yourself, you will be more sensitive to taking the words and actions of others personally. But if you give yourself the consistent self-care and love you deserve, you will feel strong and grounded within yourself and other people’s actions and words won’t get to you as much.
  12. Learn to love yourself. Realise that your self-worth depends on you. It does not depend on what others say about you. We take things personally when we care too much about what others think. Instead, give that validation to yourself, so you don’t have to rely on other people to make you feel worthy of love and care. It’s natural to want to feel accepted and loved, but don’t give your power away to other people. When you don’t feel confident in yourself, you will always seek that feeling from other people, but it will never totally satisfy you. Stop relying on others to fuel your self-esteem and love yourself.  The love and attention from others should just serve as an added bonus to what you already have cultivated within.

Can you imagine how many problems could be avoided or solved by practicing this concept and following the steps above? It does require awareness, effort, persistence, and time to stop taking things personally, especially when it’s something you are used to doing. It’s well worth the effort. You will find that your self-esteem and overall quality of life will improve when you stop taking things personally. Commit yourself to self-awareness so you can monitor the times that you’re reading too much into a situation. Practice the suggestions above so you can resolve conflicts externally or internally with calm. Little by little you’ll see a change in your perspective that will positively impact your relationships, especially the one with yourself.

It all boils down to a choice. A choice we sometimes forget we have, but one that can either strengthen us or weaken us. Next time an opportunity arises to take something personally, which will you choose, fear or love? The reality is: the world is impersonal and people do annoying, painful, unimaginable things every single day. That doesn’t mean you have to let that get under your skin. The more you focus on things that make you feel good personally, the less you will take things personally, and the more you will enjoy life.

Writing is one of my personal passions and I loved writing this piece. I hope it helps you in your life, let me know your thoughts in the comment section below and thanks for sharing this article. If you don’t like it, I promise I won’t take it personally 😉

In health and gratitude,

Caroline

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An Exercise That Will Change Your Life.

I am a coach for individuals, groups, and companies. In this work I help others identify their strengths, overcome challenges, achieve goals, and fulfill their ideal vision of success. With my coaching, I help the client to identify exactly what they want and take intentional action towards results. This process allows the client not only to deliver on their promises but to go beyond them; to experiment, innovate, and improvise, so that they can take bigger, bolder, and better actions in service of their dreams.

“I don’t know what to do.”  “I’m in a rut.”  “I feel stuck.”  These are words I hear often from coaching clients.  We all struggle with this kind of mindset sometimes, and if you’re struggling right now, it’s time to push through.  There’s plenty you can do.

The truth is, you have the power to move forward no matter how stuck you feel or what obstacles block your path.  You have the power to live up to your highest vision of how your life can be.  You have the power to follow through and make significant progress on your biggest goals.  You have all this power because you have the CHOICE.  In each moment you can choose what you think, what you do, and who you want to be.

You don’t have to continue doing things the way you’ve always done them.  You don’t have to be held a prisoner by your old, familiar habits and assumptions.

When you are feeling stuck or frustrated in your life without any options, I have an exercise Id like you to try. Put aside 10 minutes a day to sit quietly with yourself. Set a timer or a phone alarm if you need to so that your mind doesn’t wander off. Find a comfortable space free of distractions and interruptions. Sit in an easy position and work through the following meditation:

Caroline’s “Take A Moment Meditation”. An Exercise That Will Change Your Life. 

“Take a good look at your life right now. If you don’t like something about it, close your eyes and imagine the life you want. Now allow yourself to focus your thoughts on the person you would be if you were living this preferred life. Notice the differences in how you behave, present yourself, and how you feel; allow yourself to spend several seconds breathing in the new image, expanding your energy into this new mold. Hold the image for several seconds and allow it to imprint it on your subconscious mind.”

Do this daily for 10 minutes or so. Often times when it feels like you’re being pulled in every direction by forces beyond your control, its time to take time to realign yourself with what you value most in life.  The way to do this is to clear the distractions, the outside noise, the external world and go inward.

One of my favorite quotes by Lao Tzu states: “At the center of your being you have the answer. You know who you are and you know what you want.” Give yourself time and space to connect to the center of your being, to who you are and what you want. I believe a daily meditation can serve as a simple and powerful way to quiet your mind and direct your life in the direction you want.

Everyday is a new day, filled with new possibilities. Never ever assume that you’re stuck with the way things are. Life changes every second, and so can you.

What is one thing you want to change in your life?  Leave me a comment below and share your thoughts.

Here to cheer you on through all of life’s changes. Keep going, keep growing, and stay positive my friends. 

Caroline

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I work with individuals, groups, and companies as a wellness speaker, consultant, teacher and coach. Some of my clients include Genentech, Google, CALPers, Credit Karma, Hines, ReedSmith, DDB Group, Sephora, and RMC Water. I lead public workshops and retreats at luxury resorts like Solage Calistoga, Marriott Hotels, Fairmont Hotels, and W hotels. I provide onsite wellness coaching, special events, offsite retreats, day long seminars, wellness workshops, fitness classes, and stress management programs. My mission is to support others self care and in being happy, healthy, fit, and living a positive life.

For more information on coaching, corporate wellness, or booking a workshop, retreat, or event, contact me at : carolinejordanfitness@gmail.com

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100 Ways to Be Your Happiest Healthiest Self in 2016.

Life is what you choose to make it.

Life is what you choose to make it.

Quick Announcement on a project dear to my heart: I have reached 216 copies pre-ordered and 86% of my light publishing goal for my kickstarter campaign for the coaching book I wrote, “Balanced Body Breakthrough”!! I am SO excited and SO close to hitting the 250 publishing goal.  I need your help to get this book out into the world. I have 28 days left fo reach 250 pre-orders. The kickstarter campaign page can be viewed here: https://www.inkshares.com/projec…/balanced-body-breakthrough

If 250 pre-order copies are sold, the book gets published through Inkshares. They handle editing, design, marketing, and publishing of the book from start to finish. I am SO close and I truly believe in this project. I am positive it will inspire both individual and community wellness. Will you support me in this dream and in helping the world live in health? Click on the link above and check out my book that I want to share with you. Thank you for your time and for your belief in me – I hope to make this book baby a reality! Huge thank you to all of you who have helped get me this far and cheered me on in pursuing this dream and sharing wellness with the world. I have 28 days left to reach 250…. I am going for it and hope to share Balanced Body Breakthrough with you in 2016. 

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A brand new year is always exciting! We are filled with anticipation, we resolve to achieve our goals and make our dreams come true. Given that this is a fantastic time to reflect, visualize and plan, here are 100 tips to be the best possible version of you in 2016.

How to be your healthiest, happiest self in 2016

  1. Always remember: as long as you are breathing, you are capable of changing and growing.
  2. Accept responsibility for your own life.
  3. Put yourself first.
  4. Keep your mind open and never stop learning.
  5. Don’t look back, keep moving forward.
  6. Say YES
  7. Learn from other people’s experiences.
  8. Handle problems with calm, detachment, and heart.
  9. Own the mistakes in which you were directly involved.
  10. Reward yourself when a goal is accomplished.
  11. Never say ‘can’t’ or ‘won’t’.
  12. Learn, assimilate, apply.
  13. Eliminate people and things that distract you or deplete your energy.
  14. Read, read, and read some more.
  15. Stay motivated and go for it.
  16. Decide what you want — then do it.
  17. Hang, work, collaborate and network with the best people you can find.
  18. Find your own definition of balance — family, financial, professional, social, spiritual, recreational — and create it in your life.
  19. Keep your personal goals at the forefront of your mind.
  20. Be resourceful, never timid.
  21. Never fear failure or mistakes. They are an essential piece in your growth and success.
  22. Your state of mind is gold, protect it.
  23. Be open to suggestions, feedback, challenges and guidance.
  24. Leave your ego at the door.
  25. Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it.
  26. Stay curious.
  27. Associate with those you respect and admire.
  28. Challenge yourself in new ways and all ways.
  29. Do not under any circumstance fall prey to negativity — whether yours or that of others.
  30. Remain flexible and adaptable.
  31. Keep an idea file to help guide your course.
  32. Get lots of sleep.
  33. Engage in any activity that enhances your energy and vitality.
  34. Be present — pay attention.
  35. Help others, give of yourself.
  36. Gratitude, gratitude, gratitude.
  37. Be impeccable in your thoughts, words and deeds.
  38. Extend kindness to all who cross your path.
  39. Never hold a grudge, let it go.
  40. Take control of your mind and emotions, if you don’t, they will control you.
  41. Always make a good first impression; people will remember you for it.
  42. Be the kind of person you want to meet.
  43. Let your actions speak louder than your words and make your life preach louder than your lips.
  44. Leave others better than you found them.
  45. Choose your social circle wisely.
  46. Don’t burn bridges.
  47. Raise your standards.
  48. Have boundaries.
  49. If you tell the truth, it becomes a part of your past.  If you lie, it becomes a part of your future.
  50. Be honest.
  51. Love is all there is – be open to it, cultivate it ,and pay it forward.
  52. Pain is temporary, perspective is everything.
  53. Don’t take anything personally, ever.
  54. What you do every day matters more than what you do every once in a while.
  55. Life isn’t fair, but you can still make it a good one.
  56. Don’t buy things you don’t need.
  57. Stay true to yourself
  58. Don’t compare your life to others. Comparison is the thief of happiness.  You could spend a lifetime worrying about what others have, but it wouldn’t get you anything.
  59. Always choose life.
  60. Believe in magic, miracles, and serendipity.
  61. Envy is a waste of time.
  62. Be happy.  Be yourself.  If others don’t like it, then let them be.  Happiness is a choice.  Life isn’t about pleasing everybody.
  63. If you don’t like something, change it.  If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.
  64. Be different. Be unique. Be memorable.
  65. Trust your gut, always.
  66. Words are cheap, actions priceless.
  67. You are not your possessions or your looks.
  68. Work to create a life that feels right to YOU, not one that looks right to everyone else.
  69. In five years, it won’t matter.
  70. Life is not complex – your thinking makes it so.
  71. Avoid drama and don’t create any.
  72. Don’t pursue success, but positive impact.
  73. Learn to love yourself first, instead of loving the idea of other people loving you.
  74. Walk with those who want more and are doing more. Surround yourself with those who are on the same mission as you.
  75. Spend time with those who are near and dear to you.
  76. There’s no such thing as a quick fix.
  77. Never compromise your self-worth for anyone or anything.
  78. Don’t think of cost.  Think of value.
  79. The opinion you hold of yourself is all that matters.
  80. Stop being so hard on yourself.
  81. It takes more energy to resist than to accept something. You can not change what you refuse to confront.
  82. The most reliable way to predict the future is to create it.  Participate in life instead of just watching it pass you by.
  83. Learn to relax more.
  84. Accept that you cannot control everything.
  85. Get rid of your wish-bone and get a backbone.
  86. Don’t be a short-term thinker.
  87. Keep it real.
  88. Treat yourself well.
  89. Inhale, exhale, embrace, enjoy.
  90. Do it. Do it now.
  91. Replace the phrase “I have to” with “I get to” whenever you catch yourself starting to complain.  So many activities we complain about are things others wish they had the chance to do.
  92. Respect yourself enough to walk away from anything that no longer serves you, grows you, or makes you happy.
  93. Take constructive criticism seriously, but not personally.  Listen, and then operate with your own intuition and wisdom as your guide.
  94. Always remember: you are stronger than you think and braver than you believe.
  95. Smile, it is the best accessory.
  96. Take time to realign yourself with what you value most in life.  What is important in your life is what you decide is important.  
  97. Have patience and keep a good attitude while working hard for what you believe in.
  98. Be assertive, never aggressive.
  99. Don’t take things for granted.

100. Happiness is a choice. Choose happy.

What number above resonated most with you? What is one thing you’d like to focus on for the new year? Leave me a comment below and let me know how you are going to be your happiest, healthiest self in 2016.

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Here’s to you, living a life you love.

Caroline

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How to Have A Healthy Relationship to Holiday Fitness

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Festive, Fun, Feel-Good Holiday Fitness

Many people talk about “burning off” holiday calories or exercising to earn their holiday treats. Well let me tell you: this mindset sets you up for a negative relationship to fitness and a lifetime of fighting for a healthy weight. Anytime the motivation to move or eat well comes from a place of guilt, shame, or fear, the outcome never leaves you feeling better long term. And who wants to live through the holidays feeling scared to gain weight? Shouldn’t it be a time of joy and celebration? Yes. And it all starts with shifting your mindset. 

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Christmas Morning Run. How I like to celebrate after seeing Santa 😉

It makes me sad to hear people equate sugar cookies consumed with number of burpees performed. Or over-exercise just to over-eat and make themselves sick. Eating well and exercise during the holiday season is about SO MUCH MORE than avoiding weight gain. It’s about :

– Having energy, stamina, and strength. From holiday parties to shopping, long days of cooking or socializing, you’ll have more power to do it all with quality fuel and exercise induced endorphin power. 

– Having a healthy way to bond with friends and family. One of my favorite ways to build positive relationships is through exercise and eating well. Preparing nourishing meals and making time to exercise with each other, supports both your relationship AND your health goals. Its all about how you choose to spend time with your loved ones. Together you can create an environment of support that embraces exercise and eating well in a positive light. If you want them to, your relationships CAN support you in your health.

Family Bonding over Making Strawberry Santa Hat Treats for the holidays

Family Bonding over Making Strawberry Santa Hat Treats for the holidays

– Managing the physical stress of traveling or unusual schedules. Nothing says back pain like a full schedule, the car, or airplane. A little bit of exercise goes a long way and helps you not feel so bent out of shape from long days. Healthy meals and snacks keep your digestion and mood on track despite unusual hours. Exercise and eating right helps you travel smart, manage long hours, and get around feeling your best. 

– Feeling confident at family/friend gatherings. You know that feeling you get after a workout? Or that satisfied sensation you experience after eating a nourishing meal? A million bucks, top of the world, happier than ever, ready to conquer? Yea I thought so. Me too. It’s that undeniable, unstoppable power that health gives you. It puts extra strength in every step and the confidence that gives all your holiday plans a little boost. 

– Finding calm, stress relief, and a better mental state. The holidays can be emotional, demanding, and challenging for many people. From dysfunctional family gatherings to running into ex-boyfriends or old memories, it’s a time of year that can bring up a lot of feelings. But when you take time for yourself and connect to the silence within you, that’s when you can make sense of any chaos going on around you. Exercise can be that space for you. It can give you time to clear your mind, feel your feelings, sort through your emotions, and find a better state of being. Simply by taking time out to take care of yourself will allow you to be your best and deal with any stress with a positive outlet. 

– Being more present and in the moment. Taking care of your health allows you to be conscious of how your body feels, what you put in your body, and what you put in your mind. Fitness is a practice of listening to your body and mindfully nourishing yourself with healthy foods and movement. Research has shown that being more present with how you care for your body can relieve stress, while also improving energy levels, memory and attention. Which in itself allows you to truly be present throughout the holiday season. 

I’m not saying NOT to indulge in your favorite holiday treats or take some well-deserved time off to hang in your christmas pjs over the holidays. Please DO! I believe in balance, listening to your body, and living life to the fullest. I just want to invite you to shift the way you look at exercise and eating over the holidays. Motivate from a place of gratefulness, health, and feeling your best. You deserve a life full of energy and strength to celebrate all the blessings in your life. Through moderation and choosing to look at health as a gift, I believe that you’ll drop the holiday “fight to fitness” and find yourself feeling your best. 

What gifts does exercise and eating well give YOU during the holiday season? Leave me one way you power up your holidays as a comment below.  Lets choose to be grateful, grounded, and happier through making exercise and eating well a positive, uplifting part of our lifestyle. 

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Heres to you, living a life you love.

Caroline

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Balanced Body Healthy Holiday Drink Recipes + A Giveaway

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I am a wellness coach and an advocate for BALANCE. I believe in living fully and savoring all the joys life brings. I don’t believe in deprivation diets, quick fixes, extremes, or “surviving” through life with strict regulations. Depriving yourself to an extreme isn’t sustainable long-term and neither is indulging 24-7. When you don’t let yourself enjoy the things you love, you end up craving them more. You want to find a healthy diet that keeps your body nourished and your spirit satisfied. A way of eating that doesn’t just allow you to achieve a one time goal, but keeps you fueled with energy for a long and vibrant life. This is where learning the practice of moderation comes in. Moderation allows you to enjoy some of the sweeter (or more savory) things in life without overdoing it so you don’t sabotage your efforts to maintain healthy habits. By indulging wisely and treating yourself once in a while, it actually makes it easier to stay on track and maintain balance.

Life is meant to be enjoyed and personalizing ways of enjoying your life in health will allow you to thrive. Sometimes all you need is a little coaching on different ways you can remix your health habits to have them help you. In my coaching book, “Balanced Body Breakthrough”, I work with you to customize your approach to living well and adopt healthy habits that help you stay on track, find moderation + balance, and maintain a feel-good life. 

Are you an “all or nothing” type of eater? Have you tried every diet out there only to find yourself right back where you started (or worse, 5 pounds heavier)? Do you feel frustrated, confused, or defeated? Are you exhausted from the fight of trying to eat well and exercise “right”? It doesn’t need to be a struggle, you can find a healthy balance that works for you. In my book I give you strategies for success and help you customize your wellness to work with you to enable you to reach your full potential.

The “Body” section of my book, provides you with many of my favorite feel good recipes that will satisfy cravings and give energy for your life. I want to share a few of the book beverage recipes with you, so you can decide if you are hungry for more. These recipes are the perfect healthy indulgences for the upcoming holiday season. Whip up a few of these balanced body beverages in your kitchen and let me know what you think. Notice what happens in your life when you make the choice to feel good.

Sample Balanced Body Breakthrough Beverage Recipes

Vega Pumpkin Pie Smoothie. Enjoy pumpkin pie flavors all year round with this pumpkin pie smoothie recipe. Beautifully smooth and creamy rich, this is a healthy smoothie recipe to keep in your arsenal every day of the year! Who said that dessert can’t be part of a healthy diet?

Ingredients

Preparation

  1. Add all ingredients to blender, blend until smooth and enjoy! Tip: Freeze extra pumpkin puree in mounds on wax paper ahead of time, then place in bags and store in the freezer for pumpkin pie smoothies all year long.
Nutrition Information
Serving size: 1 cup Calories: 341.9 Fat: 8.1g Saturated fat: .1g Unsaturated fat: 2.6g Carbohydrates: 51.1g Sugar: 18.6g Sodium: 363.4mg Fiber: 16.6g Protein: 20g
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Healthy Hot Chocolate and Healthy Chocolate Milk (Serves 1)
A sugar free way to curb your sweet tooth in a healthy way
Ingredients
  • 1 cup unsweetened vanilla almond milk (or milk of choice)
  • 1 Tablespoon unsweetened cocoa powder
  • Stevia to taste (I use 10 drops of NuNaturals liquid stevia)
Hot Chocolate Directions:

Heat milk in the microwave in a microwave safe mug for 2 – 2 1/2 minutes (depending on your preference) or place in a small pot on the stove on medium and heat slowly until it starts to bubble. In the mug of milk, add cocoa powder and stevia. Use a spoon to stir quickly until cocoa has dissolved. Add more stevia if desired. Enjoy immediately.

Chocolate Milk Directions:

Place milk, cocoa powder, and stevia in a blender. Blend on high for 15 seconds. If you like a lot of froth, blend for as much as 30 seconds (no longer or milk will get warm). Pour into a glass and add more stevia if desired. Enjoy immediately.

Nutrition Information:
Serving size: 1 cup Calories: 52  Fat: 4.2 Saturated fat: 0.7 Carbohydrates: 4.9  Sodium: 181 mg Fiber: 2.8  Protein: 2.1

To help you stay healthy during the holidays, I am hosting a Balanced Body Breakthrough GIVEAWAY! Entering the giveaway will allow you to cook up the recipes above and try the NuNaturals high quality ALL NATURAL stevia sweetener for FREE. The Vanilla flavored stevia makes GREAT smoothies and baked goods, and the hot cocoa is the perfect treat for the holidays that wont pack on extra pounds. The to-go packets are perfect to throw in your purse for on the go use for if you find yourself out at work, or coffee with a friend and don’t have a healthy sweetener choice. Just pop out a packet and you’re good to go.

As a healthy holiday gift to you and to support the “Balanced Body Breakthrough” kickstart campaign, NuNaturals has generously offered a sweet giveaway package for Caroline Jordan Fitness readers. I’m able to award FOUR winners who will each receive the following:

You can read more about NuNaturals in this post. Ive done my research – this sweet treat IS actually good for you! I want to help you savor the sweetness of the holidays. Heres how you can enter:

How To Enter the Super Sweet Holiday Giveaway:

  1. Visit and LIKE the NuNaturals Facebook page and the Caroline Jordan Fitness Facebook page.
  2. Support my “Balanced Body Breakthrough” book kickstart campaign by visiting my InkShares page and pre-ordering your copy for $9.99 : https://www.inkshares.com/projects/balanced-body-breakthrough
  3. I need to reach the goal of 750 pre-order copies to have my book published! Im almost to 200…. I SO appreciate your support! 
  4. Share your “Balanced Body Breakthrough” book purchase on twitter or facebook with a tag to @Caroline Jordan FitnessIn your post or tweet tell me one way you practice BALANCE in your life and why you want to win “Caroline Jordan Fitness’s Super Sweet Holiday giveaway”!

THATS IT! Spend $9.99 and get $54.00 worth of goodies in return. Super Sweet Giveaway! So what are you waiting for? Get those entries in! FOUR of you will win!

Giveaway Rules:
* Contest is entry to contestants WORLDWIDE. Be aware no PO boxes are acceptable for shipping, so if you enter, please have a physical location where it can be shipped if you win. All ages welcome. Contest ends Sunday November 15th, 2015  at 11:59 p.m. PST. Four winners will be randomly chosen and announced Monday, November 16th, 2015 by 9 a.m. PST. Winners will also be notified via email by Monday, November 16th, 2015 by 9 a.m. PST*

Your body wants you to eat well. My “Balanced Body Breakthrough” book will give you the tools (and recipes!) to personalize your diet and have it HELP you instead of frustrate you.  Eating healthy foods makes you feel better and have more energy, along with reducing digestion problems and mood swings. Healthy eating doesn’t mean deprivation, tasteless, or time consuming. It can be delicious, nourishing, and balanced with foods you love. Eating for energy means eating clean, eating regularly, and eating light. Be moderate with alcohol, stay away from emotional eating, and MOVE more! Within a short period of time your days and nights will not only be filled but fulfilled. Take action now: whip up one of the recipes above. Satisfy your holiday beverage sweet tooth with a nutritious and delicious choice.

Cheers to your health,

Caroline

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Too Tired for Life After Work? Let me help you with that.

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You get home from a long day and feel the fatigue hit you when you walk in the door. You had hoped to go for a run, check out that yoga class, or meet a friend for dinner but you are just…. so…. tired. The only thing that sounds good is pouring a large glass of wine and turning on BRAVO. It’s just too easy to get on your pjs and cancel everything, who cares if its only 7pm?

Sound familiar? You are not alone. We all struggle with that “5 o clock somewhere” exhaustion. This often leads us to look for relaxation in sources that have a “numbing” sensation. A few cocktails, real housewives episodes, or snack foods later we are ready for bed, without ever REALLY relaxing or renewing our energy from a long work day.

Heres the irony in it all : the less you do, the less energy you are going to have. The more you do the more energy you are going to have. It’s just like exercise. The more you exercise, the more energy you have; the less you exercise, the less energy you have. Intuitively, we know this is true, but it can be hard to put into practice, especially after a stressful work day.

What can you do if you don’t want to spend ALL of your nights with the remote, the couch, and the television? Here are my suggestions for ways you can shake off post-work fatigue and transition into your evening with energy for a personal life beyond the T.V.

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Work to Life Transitions. Strategies to Prevent 5 O Clock Exhaustion from sidelining your life. 

      • Have a healthy, stress busting ritual you put between work and the rest of your night. Plan ahead and prepare something RELAXING you can do just for you immediately when you get home from work. Take a hot bath, do ten minutes of yoga, get outside and go for a walk, the options are endless. Get creative and personalize a few feel-good transitions that work for you.
      • Unplug for 10-20 minutes (or more). Put your work phone, email, or to-do list away for a “digital detox”. Being overstimulated from a constant stream of texts and emails causes exhaustion and stress. I like to set a specific time to unplug from all tech. Any time you take to unplug will help you feel more grounded (and less likely to dive head first into a bottle of wine) when you get home.
      • Head to the gym, a workout class, a run club, or a sports practice straight from work. Pack all your clothes, a water bottle, and a healthy snack in your gym bag to bring with you so you don’t have to run home and get anything. Movement is medicine. Exercise might not sound enticing after a long work day, but is always a good decision. Think of how good you’ll feel after a workout, let this motivate you to follow through with your exercise plans no matter how drained you feel from your work. Even a short workout session will help clear your mind and restore your energy.
      • Make healthy dinner plans with your friends or loved ones. Friends don’t let friends eat dinner in front of the iPhone. Make the dinner table a no-tech zone and engage in real, quality conversation with those you love. You’ll get to 1. unplug from work and 2. create meaningful relationships over a healthy meal. This is much healthier and happier for you than multitasking mindlessly while eating. Break the habit of reading work emails or watching reruns while you eat. Focusing on what you’re putting into your mouth can help you slow down and really pay attention to the task at hand. Enjoy it, savor it, and your mindfulness will help you digest well, feel full, and appreciate every bite.
      • Walk or bike ride as your commute to work. This can be a great way to get fresh air and create a buffer between work and home.
      • Get OUTSIDE.  Do you have a beautiful, open space where you can walk? A track? A path? A loop that you enjoy that gives you energy, that makes you feel good, and gets you out in nature? Take a detour after work to a park, beach, bridge, ANYWHERE outdoors that allows you to exhale.
      • Pay in advance and sign up for a workout class, session with a personal trainer, or hobby class (cooking, art, etc) after work. When you have paid and registered you are much more likely to show up for yourself.
      • Make a phone date with a good friend. Schedule a call with someone you love for after work. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will. Make time for the people who make your life meaningful and allow this time to help you decompress from your day.
      • Don’t let alcohol be your transition. Many of us get in the habit of having a drink after work, to relax and take a load off. Find a healthy replacement for the after-work drink. Develop non-drinking means of relaxation. Build awareness into your habits when it comes to alcohol. If you feel you need it to relax, think about other activities that are relaxing and enjoyable to you – working out, taking a walk outside, listening to music, reading, etc – and schedule those into your life as a means of unwinding instead of looking for stress relief in a drink.
      • Don’t use food as your transition either! It can become a habit to hit the appetizers right when you walk in the door…. adding up to hundreds of calories and you haven’t even had dinner. Have a light snack if you are REALLY hungry. If you are not physically hungry and are eating to get rid of the work day, go do something to help clear the stress that doesn’t involve emotional eating. Food is not a fix.
      • Put on some music that you love. Whatever tunes you need to feel some relief from a long day – turn up the volume and sing along if it helps you blow off steam.
      • Do a quick youtube stretch or foam rolling video. Its easy, free, and works with your schedule. Make a pinterest board of your favorite go-to videos so all you’ll have to do is press play when you walk in the door. Here are a few of my personal favorite end of day stretching routines:

Its always going to be a challenge to move your mind from a busy work day into a present and positive personal life. I believe if you build the habit of healthy transitions from one world to the next you’ll be enjoying much more than Real Housewives. You’ll be living a more balanced, healthy, and fulfilling life.

Whats one healthy way you transition from a busy work day to a relaxing evening? Leave me a comment below with your favorite way to ease into your evening.

Bottom line: You must make time for yourself at the end of your workday. You’ll feel better, sleep better, and LIVE better with healthy downtime just for YOU. And isn’t that whats life all about? LIVE WELL – lets make this one life COUNT!

Yours in happiness,

Caroline

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I work with a variety of companies to create, write, and develop wellness programming designed to enhance the success and health of their staff. I have hosted corporate wellness workshops and offsite events across the United States. Some of my past presentations include:

“Thrive: Wellbeing At Work”
“Thrive Wellbeing on the Road”
“Digital Detox. Healthy Tech Wellness”
“Reboot at Work! Simple Strategies for improved energy.”
“RX Series. Stress Relief Strategies that Work”

I have consulted for leading companies including: Genentech, Google, RMC Water and Environment, Credit Karma, TaskRabbit, Litekey Technology, ReedSmith LLP,  and Hines. I work to customize each program to meet the unique needs of your team. My goal is to make each offering engaging and provide resources participants can immediately use to improve their wellness and life. I believe that self-care is health care and the secret to thriving in work, wellness, and life. If you are interested in scheduling a consultation to discuss ways we can work with together, please contact me at carolinejordanfitness@gmail.com . 

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