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This is Me with No Makeup and I’m Cool With It.

This is me with NO Makeup and I’m cool with it. This post is about self acceptance, self love, and making choices based on what makes you FEEL GOOD.

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Hello there friend!

Doing something a little radical on the Youtube channel…. I’m going NAKED for the world to see! This is me with No Makeup. And I’m actually cool with it.

Yup. NO makeup! A bare face! Here I am, this is me. Press play.

This is Me With No Makeup and I’m Cool With It.

I wanted to film this Youtube video to talk about self acceptance, self love, and making choices based on what makes YOU FEEL GOOD.

When I was younger I used to feel pressure to wear makeup. I would feel naked without it. I wouldn’t leave the house without makeup on. In fact: I would even wear makeup to teach fitness classes and workout because I felt self-conscious without it. Which when you think about it, makes NO sense because I was putting makeup on to just sweat it off.  I was wasting money, time, and a lot of effort putting on makeup.

When we start to examine things we do every day on a personal level it sparks thought. Why did I feel like I had to spend all that time and energy putting on makeup?

I felt like I had to wear makeup to be accepted by others. But the reality is: I just had to choose to accept myself (makeup on or makeup off).

Over the years my relationship to myself has evolved and I have grown to love, approve, and accept myself. It’s a never-ending work in progress and I am by no means perfect. But every day I make the conscious effort to practice self-love and make choices that make me feel good.

My relationship to wearing makeup has also changed. I love makeup and I think it is so much fun. I enjoy trying new colors, styles, and getting “fancy”. But I no longer need makeup to feel good enough or good about myself. I wear makeup when I feel like it and when I don’t…. I don’t. At first, the days I chose not to wear makeup felt uncomfortable and strange. Yet the side-eye glances, rude comments, and strange looks I was fearfully anticipating never happened. (“Look, she’s not wearing makeup!” said no one ever.) It’s liberating to realize that at the end of the day, no one cares about what’s on your face except you.

If you are into makeup there is NO shame in that! Heck, I’ll rock a cat eye with you any day. What I want to communicate is simply this message: Wear makeup or don’t wear makeup just DO WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD. You deserve to love yourself and love your life makeup on or makeup off.

I hope this encourages you to make choices that allow you to feel your very best inside and out. And I hope it reminds you that you don’t need any product to feel or be beautiful. You can choose that yourself.

I love you friends – thanks for subscribing to my Youtube channel, for being a part of my community, and for being a part of my heart. I want to hear from you: how do you feel about makeup? What is your relationship to your naked face? Let me know in the comments below – Id love to hear from you!

With love and light,

Caroline

My mission is to empower feel good fitness inside and out. I am here to be of service in your wellness and help you get your mind, body, and spirit in shape so you can love your life. Lets work together and live well. Contact me at carolinejordanfitness@gmail.com 

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How To Stop Taking Things Personally.

Want to stop taking things personally? Read this helpful article on how to not take things personally to feel better in your relationships and life.

How To Stop Taking Things Personally. 

Have you ever found yourself ruminating and overanalyzing what someone said to you hours after a conversation? Or worried that when a friend doesn’t text you back that they are upset with you? Perhaps you feel hurt by your co-workers actions and feel like they are “out to get you” in the office. Or maybe someone says something which you take as an insult or you assume a person doesn’t like you if they walk past without saying hello.

Why is it so hard not to take things personally? We are human and we all struggle with this from time to time. It’s easy to feel unloved and unwanted when people aren’t able to communicate and connect with you in the way you expect.  And it’s so hard not to internalize that disconnection as a reflection on your worth.  But the truth is, the way other people behave and function is not about you.  In one of my favorite books, “The Four Agreements”, author Don Miguel Ruiz writes,

“Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

This concept seems easy on paper, but it can be hard to put to practice in our lives. When it comes down to it, you’re in control of how you interpret things. Think of how much happier you’d be with a new perspective. Here are some suggestions on how to shift your mindset and adjust your interactions so you can live in peace.

How to Not Take Things Personally.

  1. Realize: It’s just not all about you. Other’s interactions and way of being is a reflection of them and it’s nothing personal. If someone is being unkind to you, remember that they’re probably behaving this way because of something that’s happened to them in the past or present; which has nothing to do with you. They might be having a bad day, going through a rough period, or it might just be their personality. Everyone has their own issues they are working through. Once you realize that the world isn’t all about you, you will be happier.
  2. Wait to respond. Controlling your response in any given situation allows you to reflect on what’s happening and calmly communicate with the person that might be getting under your skin. Before reacting to another’s actions or saying something you might regret, STOP. Pause and take a deep breath. Resist the urge to act immediately through a difficult emotion. Instead, create space to develop an appropriate response and then act with intention.
  3. In difficult conversations, use Nonviolent Communication. Nonviolent communication is also known as Compassionate Communication or Collaborative Communication. It was invented by Marshall Rosenberg in the 1960s and focuses on self-empathy, empathy, and honest self-expression. It’s a four-step process based on (1) observation, (2) feeling, (3) need, (4) request. When I went to wellness coaching school, we studied Nonviolent communication as a technique to have difficult conversations.
    1. For example: “Dan, when I (1) see dishes in the sink, I (2) feel irritated because I’m needing (3) the kitchen that we share in common to be clean. (4) Could you please do your dishes?” You’re not taking the fact that he hasn’t done the dishes, personally; you’re communicating how you feel without being irrational or demeaning. You can learn more at The Centre for Nonviolent Communication.
  4. Have Empathy. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes by trying to understand what the other person might be feeling/thinking/trying to convey to you and what his or her circumstances are that may influence their behavior.  
  5. Seek clarification before jumping to conclusions. Instead of making an assumption, first ask the other person for more information and give them the benefit of the doubt. It’s too easy to assign motives to others. You think they say something a certain way and before you know it you’re getting mad at them before you even speak to them. A better option is to give them the benefit of the doubt. If they do something that confuses you, ask them about it without judgment.
  6. Be okay with being vulnerable and expressing when someone’s actions hurt you. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable by expressing our feelings can help resolve conflicts. My friends know, when there’s a disagreement or mis-understanding, I want to talk it out right away. I believe it’s far better to be uncomfortable being vulnerable and have a difficult conversation than to live with upset in your heart.
  7. Take comments or criticism in a constructive way. If you are criticised, ask yourself if there’s any truth to it, and what you can learn. Even if it wasn’t said in a nice way, you can still learn something. Take the lessons and choose to see the positives in every experience.
  8. Dont dwell on it. Every moment we spend dwelling over the past, even minutes ago, we lose precious time Now. Obsessing over what happened and holding on to anger, resentment, or hurt only causes pain in your life. Learn what you can from the situation and then let it go. I know it can be hard to do, especially if you feel upset and hurt. But it’s very important you don’t obsess over past pain and problems. For these things have the power to poison your heart, your mind, your body, and your life.
  9. Realise that you can’t please everyone. No matter who you are or what you do, there will always be people who dislike or criticise you. You can’t change other people and all you can do is be yourself. At the end of the day, “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
  10. Distance Yourself from Toxic People. Sometimes it’s extra challenging not to take things personally because you are around toxic people. If you know someone who insists on destructively dictating the emotional atmosphere, then be clear: they are toxic.  If you are suffering because of their attitude, you’ve tried the steps above, and it doesn’t seem to help or they don’t seem to care one bit, then ask yourself, “Do I need this person in my life?” When you delete toxic people from your environment it becomes a lot easier to breathe.  If the circumstances warrant it, leave these people behind and move on when you must.  Be strong and know when enough is enough!  Letting go of toxic people doesn’t mean you hate them, or that you wish them harm; it simply means you care about your own well-being. Don’t let toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and get them out of there.
  11. Make sure you have plenty of time for Self Care. Think about how you feel when you haven’t slept, had enough quality nutrition, or haven’t had enough time for yourself. Cranky, moody, and easily upset, right? If you don’t make enough time to care about yourself, you will be more sensitive to taking the words and actions of others personally. But if you give yourself the consistent self-care and love you deserve, you will feel strong and grounded within yourself and other people’s actions and words won’t get to you as much.
  12. Learn to love yourself. Realise that your self-worth depends on you. It does not depend on what others say about you. We take things personally when we care too much about what others think. Instead, give that validation to yourself, so you don’t have to rely on other people to make you feel worthy of love and care. It’s natural to want to feel accepted and loved, but don’t give your power away to other people. When you don’t feel confident in yourself, you will always seek that feeling from other people, but it will never totally satisfy you. Stop relying on others to fuel your self-esteem and love yourself.  The love and attention from others should just serve as an added bonus to what you already have cultivated within.

Can you imagine how many problems could be avoided or solved by practicing this concept and following the steps above? It does require awareness, effort, persistence, and time to stop taking things personally, especially when it’s something you are used to doing. It’s well worth the effort. You will find that your self-esteem and overall quality of life will improve when you stop taking things personally. Commit yourself to self-awareness so you can monitor the times that you’re reading too much into a situation. Practice the suggestions above so you can resolve conflicts externally or internally with calm. Little by little you’ll see a change in your perspective that will positively impact your relationships, especially the one with yourself.

It all boils down to a choice. A choice we sometimes forget we have, but one that can either strengthen us or weaken us. Next time an opportunity arises to take something personally, which will you choose, fear or love? The reality is: the world is impersonal and people do annoying, painful, unimaginable things every single day. That doesn’t mean you have to let that get under your skin. The more you focus on things that make you feel good personally, the less you will take things personally, and the more you will enjoy life.

Writing is one of my personal passions and I loved writing this piece. I hope it helps you in your life, let me know your thoughts in the comment section below and thanks for sharing this article. If you don’t like it, I promise I won’t take it personally 😉

In health and gratitude,

Caroline

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From Body Loathing to Self-Loving. An inspiring story.

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“Hi Caroline,

My name is Megan, I am 19 years old and I am writing to you to say thank you. I have struggled with body image and exercise my entire life, when I was 12 years old I was extremely over weight, and by the time I was 14 I was in the beginning stages of anorexia. I went from being a kid who hated sports and loved junk food to a teenage girl that would go days without eating and exercising constantly. As I got a little older I realized neither scenario was healthy. I cared only about my exterior and not about my health. As I started to eat again, I gained weight, which was good but I wasn’t happy with how I looked.
By 16 I knew how to eat healthy and loved the way good, nutritious food made me feel, but HATED exercising because I associated it with the struggles I had with my eating disorder. Again, I still hated the way I looked.

About 2 years ago is when I found your YouTube channel. I was looking for workouts to make me skinny and busting my butt and hating exercise. Your channel was different, your exercises eased me into a healthy fitness regime and your positivity, energy and kindness made me realize that a healthy lifestyle is achievable by forgetting the exterior and most importantly having a positive outlook on yourself, others and on life.

Now, I am the happiest I have ever been, I feel amazing, move every day, and eat healthy food for energy to keep me going. I would like to say you were a huge part of how i feel today. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

In health AND happiness

Megan”

“Megan,

I can’t even begin to tell you how incredibly touched and inspired I was by your story. THANK YOU for taking the time to write and to share your journey so openly with me. I am extremely grateful youtube brought us together and allowed us to share time online being healthy, happy, and positive. Your story is exactly why I do the work I do, to inspire a healthy relationship to self and to empower others to live a life that FEELS good and is full of happiness. I hope we continue to share this life journey together and I hope to see you on towards dreaming big, being brave, accomplishing goals, loving life, and loving yourself. Your note today touched my heart in such a powerful way. You have truly inspired me and I am honored to have been a part of your journey.

I can’t wait to film more videos to share with you through youtube! If you ever have any requests for videos please let me know – I am so happy I get to support you through the channel. And in the event you ever want to share your story below anonymously as a testimonial on my “Caroline Jordan Fitness” social media I would be honored. I know your story would  inspire others to adopt a healthy and happy relationship to exercise! WE are the change in the world! WE can help others live a life that FEELS good and is positive simply by doing it ourselves. THANK YOU for being the change and helping create a healthier, more positive, more self-loving world. I hope you know how beautiful you are inside and out. And I hope you know how your life is positively impacting the health and happiness of the planet.

Till next time – keep inspiring and keep shining. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for this beautiful note 🙂

Caroline”

“Caroline,

Wow! I did not even expect a response. I can truly tell you care about what you do and it makes a huge difference in the lives of others. I just thought I should say thank you, because you definitely were a part of the push I needed to get me where I am today.

I think that a healthy body image and acceptance of self is so important in creating a happier life. I would love to help you improve the happiness and health of others by sharing my story anonymously. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, and I hope to inspire others the way you do.

Also, your channel and weekly newsletters have inspired someone all the way in Canada! Good for you 🙂

Megan”

*** Reader’s name has been changed to respect her privacy ***

Megan’s transformation story touched me deeply and re-affirmed my work in the world. People ask me all the time: Caroline, what exactly do you do? And I don’t have a one word answer. Im a little bit of everything. A little bit teacher. A little bit coach. A little bit writer. A little bit model. A little bit speaker. All of these little bits mix into the big piece of Caroline Jordan Fitness. I am not a one word answer. I am a unique blend of positivity, purpose, heart, and character. I want to make the world a better place through my work. I want to inspire and enable people to love themselves, take care of themselves, and live a life that feels good inside and out. Megan’s story reminded me of WHY I do what I do. I wanted to share it in this space as I thought it might inspire you on your healthy journey too. 

I was raised in movement. Dance and fitness are part of my DNA makeup. It is in my blood, it is something I love, and it is what I live. My first big career dream when I was growing up was to be a “successful fitness instructor” teaching world wide and helping others find the joy in movement. I have journals from high school where I described in detail my visions of success in spandex. Teaching group fitness through high school nurtured my passion and I continued on to pursue Dance and fitness in college which affirmed my mission: I was put on this planet to inspire movement and loving life through health.

After graduation I hustled in San Francisco to work in fitness full time. It was a successful career, yet burnt me out. I became disillusioned. While there is a lot of good in the fitness world, there is also a lot of negative. The extreme, image obsessed, “push yourself till you puke”, and “work yourself to exhaustion” messages are very strong and celebrated. They reinforce a negative relationship to exercise, body, and self. This superficial side of the industry and “six pack abs” songs of glory turned me off. I believe that looking good on the outside is not the path to happiness, but instead believe that feeling good on the inside is the path to happiness. Exercise and movement IS a gateway to fulfill your highest potential, but too often this message gets lost in the “harder better faster stronger” and “look sexy or you aren’t successful” messaging thats out there. I didn’t want a part of it, I wanted a way out. So I signed up to earn my Health and Wellness Coach cert and I started to change career paths.

Studying positive psychology and wellness coaching lit a fire in me. I discovered strengths and skills I didn’t know I had. My career blossomed and branched out as a result. Through coaching my brand began to morph from one of just “fitness professional” to “other”. I still held a space in fitness, yet was pursuing all these opportunities under the vast umbrella of wellness. Through the years I morphed into what I am now – this unique combination of a little bit of everything with one mission: inspire positive thoughts to enable positive actions that create positive outcomes in the world.

For so long I wanted “out” of the fitness industry because I was tired of fighting it’s dark superficial side. Yet over the past few years and through email reminders like Megan’s, I have come to a realization. Fitness is something I love and something I strongly believe in. My work in fitness has been a powerful pathway to get my message out into the world. I now understand that by embracing my fitness roots I can take my Caroline Jordan Fitness mission to new heights. I have been called not to leave the fitness industry, but to LEAD the change within the fitness industry. Will you join me?

I know that the work that I am doing IS serving a purpose. My brand works to shift perspectives and allows others to adopt a healthier life not because it makes them “look good” or fit into a cultural mold, but instead to live their best lives and fulfill their greatest potential. It’s stories like Megan’s that keep my fire burning that remind me to keep going.

Let me ask you: Where are you on your healthy life journey? How can I help you along the way? Tell me how I can be of service in the comments below, it brings me great joy to see you thrive.

I believe in you and believe you have the power to choose to love yourself and love your life. And if ever you forget your own greatness, I want to be the voice thats there to remind you of your strength. Stay committed, positive, present, and persistent. You deserve to feel good and to live a life you love.

Keep going, keep growing,

Caroline

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Great Reasons To Spend More Time Alone. Health Benefits of Solitude

Carving out a little solitude can make a world of difference. Here are some great reasons to spend more time alone. Go ahead—give yourself a break.

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I consider myself a pretty social person, but I also absolutely need my “caroline” time – those periodic moments away from the world. After a business trip, a joint vacation with family or friends, the chaos of the holidays, or a week of events, I hit my threshold – beyond which I slip into an irritable, stressed version of myself. This is why I balance my extroverted life by having quality ME time. I think it’s extremely important and very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not be defined by another person or thing.  After spending some quality time with myself, I’m as good as new. A bit of regular solitude helps me continue to be the positive woman I aspire to be. 

Solitude is the soul’s holiday, an opportunity to stop doing for others and to surprise and delight ourselves instead. We need to have some downtime, but often it’s a challenge to let ourselves slow down. As Thomas Moore, author of Care of the Soul, says, “We seem to have a complex about busyness in our culture. Most of us do have time in our days that we could devote to simple relaxation, but we convince ourselves that we don’t.” It seems there is always something that needs doing, always someone who needs our attention. “Unfortunately,” Moore says, “we don’t get a lot of support in this culture for doing nothing. If we aren’t accomplishing something, we feel that we’re wasting time.

Many of us feel compelled to measure our success in terms of acquisition and accomplishment. But even those who don’t buy into such a narrow definition of success may feel uncomfortable with the idea of claiming time just for themselves, with no agenda whatsoever. Often when we find ourselves with an empty hour, we spend that time doing chores or attending to our relationships or Facebook scrolling.

If no one’s around, we’ll reach for the phone—or the TV remote or even the vacuum cleaner. We avoid ourselves because we’re afraid of what we might find or fear missing out on life’s party (also known as F.O.M.O. , aka the “Fear of Missing Out.”). But solitude and isolation do not go hand in hand. We can retreat from the world for a time without being renounced by it. Heres a few of the benefits you get from spending time with yourself:

Health Benefits of Spending Time Alone

1. Alone time allows you to reboot your brain and rejuvenate. Constantly being “on” doesn’t give your brain a chance to rest and replenish itself. Getting away from others allows you to decompress and relax. It gives you a break from the “have tos” and allows you to focus on the “want tos.” It lets you address your own needs as opposed to everyone else’s and gives you the opportunity to rejuvenate and push the restart button.

2. Alone time gives you a higher sense of independence and increased self-esteem. Being alone and getting comfortable with being alone gives you a higher sense of independence. Relying on yourself to make choices and decisions increases your self confidence, which then permeates other aspects of your life, including the times you are in the presence of others.

3. Alone time allows for self discovery. Spending time alone gives you the ability to discover things about yourself and to get a real understanding of who you are. We have grown to appreciate the art of getting to know others, but in reality, it is even more important to get to know ourselves, our preferences, and our likes and dislikes, without other people’s influences.

4. Alone time gives you a fresh perspective. Time alone gives you the opportunity to clear your mind and weed through a lot of thoughts. This allows you to get to the heart of what YOU really think as opposed to being told or influenced by others and their opinions. It gives you time to reflect on what is important in your life and how you feel about everyday situations that need to be addressed.

5. Alone time can enhance the quality of your relationships with others. By spending time with yourself and gaining a better understanding of who you are and what you desire in life, you’re more likely to make better choices about who and what you want to be around. You also may come to appreciate your relationships more after you’ve spent some time alone.

Despite knowing these benefits, it can be a challenge to find time alone in a world that seems to never sleep. Here are a few suggestions to help you find more time to spend with yourself.

How to Spend More Time Alone

  • Be OK with spending time with yourself for yourself. This gets easier with practice, so if you are new to the idea give it some time first.
  • MAKE time for yourself and schedule it. Make a date night just with YOU. I have what I call “non-negotiable self care nights”. These are planned weekly and I commit to spending time with myself for myself (its non-negotiable!). If you dont make time you wont ever have time. Work to create a habit of planning YOU time week to week.
  • Stand firm in your commitment. If you make a commitment to spend time with yourself KEEP it! Dont ask people to join you for your solo walk or journal date (two people doesn’t count as alone time sorry).
  • Learn to say NO. You don’t “have to” attend every party, event, or gathering. And actually, its better if you are more exclusive with how you choose to spend your time. The “fear of missing out” often drives us to over-extend ourselves and attend every social opportunity on the calendar. But that only leads to what I call, “social jetlag” the burnout from comes from too much running around and the need for quality downtime. Next time you are asked to attend an event, say “Let me check my schedule and get back to you.” This allows you time to decide what you need more: going out or time for yourself.  
  • Be clear about your needs. “I need some time for myself” sounds both desperate and vague. Be clear and practical: “On Saturday afternoon, I will be gone from two o’clock to five o’clock. Will you be able to watch the kids?” or “I’ve got plans on Friday night for myself, can we get together another time during the week?”
  • Disconnect. You can’t spend time with yourself if you are too plugged in to everything else. Choose a time in the day and switch off your internet, mobile and any tool that makes you reachable to the world for at least 30 minutes. Turn off your cell phone, Turn off your Internet. Turn off your TV. UNPLUG from the world and PLUG into you. This is really hard habit to create at first especially if your iphone has become attached to your hand. But you’ll be amazed at how much more you can relax, focus, and destress when you’re not plugged into tech.
  • Get Up or Get it In Early. That’s probably the ideal way to find and spend some time alone. When you wake up before the rest of the world, you’ll spend the most peaceful time ever. Waking up at dawn and watching the sunrise is a pleasurable experience. It will allow you to spend the rest of the day with a totally different mode, rather than waking up late rushing to work and getting stuck & frustrated in a traffic jam. When you experience the peace of the early morning, you’ll get addicted to it. Some of the activities that you can do to enjoy spending time alone in the morning include: writing, learn something new, reading, watching a movie, meditating, exercising, walking, breathing the fresh morning air, playing games, thinking & reflecting or listening to music.

If you and your inner self have been out of touch, build a new relationship with someone who deserves attention—you.  Here are a few great ideas to get you started:

  • Exercise solo. Go for a walk, run, swim, bike ride. You can even leave the headphones at home and spend time listening to your thoughts and the world.
  • Journal. I spend a lot of time journaling and love to use my journal time for reflection, goal setting, and creating positive intentions for my life.
  • Meditate. It doesnt have to be long. Sit still with yourself. Watch your thoughts. No judgement. Im a huge fan of the app “Headspace” which guides you through daily 10 minute meditations. Easy to use and accesible anywhere. Plus the meditation guide has a soothing British accent (totally awesome.)
  • Take yourself on a date. Dinner, a movie, a museum. Embrace being out with yourself ALONE.
  • Get lost. Go for a walk, hike, or drive somewhere you’ve never been before. Explore.
  • Get Crafty. Paint, create, make a vision board…. there are so many ways to get crafty and express yourself while making something cool. I recently went to an event at MakeShop by Brit & Co that gave me many unique ideas on different creative projects for self-expression!

Time Alone

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Solitude is a kind of vacation. We live in a demanding world, and we demand much of ourselves. But the harder we push, the more we also need time to replenish ourselves.  In solitude we discover what makes us feel alive. We can use our time alone to rest, in a complete and profound way, or we can engage in an activity that brings us joy. What a pleasure it is to dive into a project with no distractions, or to pursue our passions at full tilt.

In the end, it is important to remember that spending time alone doesn’t mean that you isolate yourself all the time. We need people and social connections are an extremely important componet of happiness. Its just about finding the balance between being accessible to others and being accessible to yourself. Spending time alone is a way to stop, re-connect, re-evaluate, and live your life on purpose. Alone time allows you to live the healthy, happy life you want with others. 

Inspirational quotes about solitude that will inspire you to find and spend time alone TODAY

  • “I restore myself when I’m alone.” – Marilyn Monroe
  • “You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.” – Wayne Dyer
  • “In solitude the mind gains strength and learns to lean upon itself.” – Laurence Sterne
  • “All men’s miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone.” – Blaise Pascal
  • “I think that I cannot preserve my health and spirits, unless I spend four hours a day at least – and it is commonly more than that – sauntering through the woods and over the hills and fields, absolutely free from all worldly engagements.”  – Henry David Thoreau
  • “We live in a very tense society.  We are pulled apart… and we all need to learn how to pull ourselves together…. I think that at least part of the answer lies in solitude.” – Helen Hayes
  • “It is only when we silent the blaring sounds of our daily existence that we can finally hear the whispers of truth that life reveals to us, as it stands knocking on the doorsteps of our hearts.” – K.T. Jong
  • “Only in quiet waters do thing mirror themselves undistorted.  Only in a quiet mind is adequate perception of the world” – Hans Margolius
  • “When we cannot bear to be alone, it means we do not properly value the only companion we will have from birth to death – ourselves.” – Eda LeShan
  • “I’m not anti-social.  I’m pro-solitude.” – Author Unknown
  • “The happiest of all lives is a busy solitude.” – Voltaire
  • “True silence is the rest of the mind, and is to the spirit what sleep is to the body, nourishment and refreshment.” – William Penn
  • “Reading well is one of the great pleasures that solitude can afford you.” – Harold Bloom
  • “We visit others as a matter of social obligation.  How long has it been since we have visited with ourselves?” – Morris Adle

Do you like to spend time alone? What is your favorite way to spend quality time with yourself? Leave your thoughts as a comment below.

Take yourself out on a date, you deserve it.

Caroline

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If you are interested in scheduling a consultation to discuss ways we can work with together and improve your health, contact me at: carolinejordanfitness@gmail.com

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Buff up your Body Image With This Body Love Strength Workout.

Want to build a stronger body image? Buff up your body image with this body love strength workout.

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Every time i look in the mirror I choose to celebrate what I’ve got vs. hate what Im not. Its a constant work in progress and somedays are easier than others. Love it what we are born with, self-criticism is what we’ve learned here. The only challenge greater than learning to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes, is learning to walk a lifetime comfortably in your own.

In the body image obsessed world we live in today,  having a positive, confident body image is extremely challenging. You are constantly surrounded by the message that if you just had “six pack abs”, a “lean toned physique”, or a “brazillian booty” you’d be happy and successful. Well we all know thats NOT true, but if you are around anything enough it influences you.

You gotta work hard every day to choose self-love over self-hate. By accepting and loving yourself you can inspire others to do the same. Body confidence and self-love is a muscle, the more you work on it the stronger it gets. There’s no better time than right now — yep, right this very minute! — to get started on some serious body-love. Here are my “body love muscle” strength workout tips. Do a self-love mental pushup with these suggestions for success and REPEAT!

Buff up your Body Image with this Body Love Strength Workout (to be done daily times one million reps)

  • Stop the comparison or body bashing when it starts. Stay alert to fighting negative self-talk. Catch yourself when you find yourself saying, “I wish I had her this” or “Id rather look like that”. Nip it at the bud. Don’t build a habit of comparing yourself to others. You are you and that is that. Work to be the best possible YOU vs trying to be a second rate version of someone else. When that little voice of doom pops up in your mind trying to remind you how horrible you think you are, have a strategy for turning those negatives to positives. No one is perfect! When you find yourself being self critical immediately stop and turn your talk around.
  • Talk it out. Feeling bummed about your body? Talk to a friend, coach, or kind ear about it! Getting your feelings out in the open will help you 1. realize they are just thoughts and 2. work to do something positive about them. Thoughts become things – when you bring them out in the open by talking them out with a friend you can help them grow into positive things vs. allowing them to drive you crazy keeping them inside.
  • Become a critical viewer of social and media messages.  Pay attention to images, slogans, or attitudes that make you feel bad about yourself or your body. You have to learn to shield yourself from the constant negative media and culture messages. Look at magazines, tv, fitness images, and other sources of “social image pressure” that make you feel badly about your body image and GET RID of your exposure to them! If you can’t get rid of them, put your blinders on. Be a conscious consumer at all times and protect your mental health with the images you choose to be around.
  • Surround yourself with positive people.  It is easier to feel good about yourself and your body when you are around others who are supportive and who recognize the importance of liking yourself just as you naturally are. Friends don’t let friends engage in “fat talk” or “body shaming”. If you catch your social circle obsessing or stressing about image in a negative way, bring attention to it and ask to STOP it. That talk is toxic.
  • MOVE your body. Exercise not only changes your BODY. It changes your MIND, your ATTITUDE and your MOOD. Movement therapy is something that helps improve everyone’s sense of being. Exercise because you love your body, not because you hate it. Move to generate positive energy, sweat out negative energy, and to be healthy. Being active is one of the best ways to support your health and enjoy life!
  • STOP defining yourself with numbers. You are not your weight. You are not your body fat percentage. You are not your mile speed. You are not your bra size. You are SO SO much more than a number. Don’t give power to or allow numbers to define you. Remember: the scale LIES anyway so why trust it’s judgement or give it’s values power over your mental health, emotional health, and life?? At the end of your life are you really going to remember the numbers? NO. You are going to remember the quality of your life based off how you lived it. And being obsessed with the scale is not a happy way spend your days.
  • Work the Gratitude. Snap out of a negative body funk by giving THANKS for your body. YOUR BODY IS AMAZING. Its a miracle. Its a gift. Stop focusing on the one thing its not and start celebrating all the wonderful things it IS. Appreciate all that your body can do.  Every day your body carries you closer to your dreams.  Celebrate all of the amazing things your body does for you—running, dancing, breathing, laughing, dreaming, etc. Appreciating all that you have to be grateful for is one the very best ways to remember that you’re so very lucky to be uniquely YOU. Your body is the most incredible instrument you will ever own, stay thankful always.
  • Do Some GOOD. Use the time and energy that you might have spent worrying about food, calories, and your weight to do something to help others.  Sometimes reaching out to other people can help you feel better about yourself and can make a positive change in our world.
  • Learn to be happy with what you have while you pursue what you want. I do believe it is possible to love yourself and work on self improvement, when the intention for change comes from a compassionate place vs a place of criticism or self hate. When you accept and love yourself and your body, you know that whatever healthy changes you are making isn’t to change a part of you. It isn’t coming from a place of, “There’s something wrong with me, and I need to fix it.” It’s coming from a place of, “I’m enhancing my life. This healthy choice is good for my mind, body, and spirit.”
  • Look at yourself as a whole person.  When you see yourself in a mirror or in your mind, choose not to focus on specific body parts.  See yourself as you want others to see you–as a whole person with a healthy mind, heart, and soul <3
  • Remind yourself that “true beauty” is not simply skin deep.  When you feel good about yourself and who you are, you carry yourself with a sense of confidence, self-acceptance, and openness that makes you beautiful regardless of whether you physically look like a supermodel.  Beauty is a state of mind, not a state of your body.

Do you work on your positive body image, self-confidence, and self-esteem? Leave a comment below and let me know one way you strengthen your body love muscle.

Be the change in a world full of body-hate. Lead by example. BE YOURSELF, ACCEPT YOURSELF, VALUE YOURSELF, FORGIVE YOURSELF, BLESS YOURSELF, EXPRESS YOURSELF, TRUST YOURSELF, LOVE YOURSELF, EMPOWER YOURSELF. You are you and that is that – no apologies or regrets. You get one body and one life – work to love it and have a healthy relationship with it (imperfections included!). Be positive, be present, this is your LIFE. Don’t wait. Love your body now and live every second in gratitude, health, and happiness. You can’t be real if you are trying to be perfect, and you can’t be authentically YOU either. Be you, be real, be amazing.

Sending you love and light. Keep working those body image push-ups, you’re doing great.

Caroline

Want more help on loving yourself inside and out? Check out my book, Balanced Body Breakthrough . I’ve got chapters worth of content on body image, body confidence, self love, self-esteem, and self-care. It will help you take action and love yourself so you can love your life.

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