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Things to Remember When Life Gets Really Hard.

Here are a few things to remember when life gets really hard. Help yourself stay strong and positive with these uplifting words.

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Is your life feeling hard right now? Read these words and important reminders.

I wrote this article to send strength and faith out into the universe. I hope that wherever this finds you it gives you light and a reminds you to stay positive, stay strong, and keep your head up.

Here are a few things to remember when life gets really hard: 

Everything in life is temporary. Every time it rains, it stops raining. Every time you get hurt, you heal. Your mind might tell you that this will last forever. It won’t. Nothing lasts forever. After darkness there is always light and this too shall pass. 

You are strong enough to rise above this. Life is tough, but you are tougher. No matter how much it hurts, hold your head up and keep going. You were given this challenge because you are strong enough to handle it. Use each setback, each disappointment as a cue to push on ahead with more determination than ever before.  Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle. 

 

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“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” ― Maya Angelou

Where you are right now is a necessary step. You are not what you have done, you are what you have overcome.  Your struggles are part of your path. No pain comes without a purpose. Pain is part of growing and living a stronger, more meaningful life.  This is important to remember when you’re having a rough day, a bad month, or a crappy year.  When you feel like quitting, remember that sometimes things have to go very wrong before they can go right.  Sometimes you have to go through the worst, to get to your best.

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You can’t have happiness without sadness. Its important to understand that you cant know real joy without real sadness. Life’s ups require life’s downs. When you are able to let go and be at peace with the reality of these ups and downs is when you are able to find more meaning from any challenge. 

“Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.” – Joshua J. Marine    

Its OK to not be OK all the time. It’s ok to cry. It’s ok to have meltdowns. It’s ok to not have it all together. It’s OK and actually, it’s important. If you just “shove it under the rug” and ignore hurt, pain, or upset it stays with you and negatively effects your life. Allow yourself to feel. Give yourself space to be sad. Don’t be afraid to fall apart for a little while. You have to FEEL it to HEAL it. Because when you do that, the situation will open into an opportunity for you to heal from it, grow from it, and rebuild yourself into a stronger person because of it.

“Don’t forget you’re human. It’s okay to have a meltdown, just don’t unpack and live there. Cry it out and then refocus on where you are headed.”

Being kind to yourself is the best medicine. When it feels like everything is going wrong, show yourself some extra TLC.  Simple pleasures and self-love can help alleviate suffering, whether it’s watching a comedy, using your favorite tea cup, being in nature, hanging with animals, listening to your favorite album, or taking a mini retreat to your favorite place. Whatever works for you. Show yourself a little extra kindness, care, and love when life gets hard. 

Sometimes not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. It forces you to reevaluate things, opening new doors to opportunities and information you would have otherwise overlooked.

Don’t stop Believing. Just because life didn’t go as planned doesn’t mean you’ll never be happy again. Sometimes you have to go through difficulties, breakups, rejections and painful wounds, in order to gradually discover these powerful truths:  1) Life is not exactly how you thought it was.  2) The loss of one wonderful pleasure is not necessarily the loss of true, long-term happiness and well-being. Life rarely turns out exactly the way you want it to, but you always have an opportunity to make it great.

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No matter what, today is a priceless gift and its up to you to make the best of it. There is always, always, always, something to be grateful for. Strength comes when you have so much to cry and complain about, but you prefer to smile and appreciate your life instead. 

“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning how to dance in the rain.” – Vivian Greene

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You are not alone. We’ve all faced loss, fear, heartbreak, and sadness. So many of us are fighting the same exact battle alongside you.  We are all in this together. Letting others in when you’re having a hard time helps. Let yourself lean on your loved ones and open up to them. No, they won’t always be able to pull you out of the challenge you’re in, but they will be able to give you some light and love on your way through. 

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Be positive, patient and persistent. Learn to trust the journey even when you don’t understand it.   The strongest people aren’t the people who always win, but the people who don’t give up when they lose.

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The dots will connect. We’re not going to always understand why everything happens in our lives. There are things that break us, challenge us, and test our limits. There are things that are not removed and situations that take a long time to change. You have to trust that it is what’s best for you. Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be. As Steve Jobs so famously said, “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.” Trust that your dots will connect. Have faith in yourself and in the future.

The best thing you can do is choose to be positive and keep going. You can’t control everything that happens to you; you can only control the way you respond to what happens.  Your response is your power over whatever challenge you may face. So “Keep Calm and Carry On”. Smiling doesn’t always mean you’re happy with everything.  Sometimes it just means you’re strong and smart enough to accept it and make the best of it.

If you can breathe, you can make it through anything.  When fear, anxiety, worry, or stress sets in, stop yourself and take a minute to regroup. Don’t get too far ahead of yourself worrying about what might happen next. You don’t have any control over that. But you DO have the present moment. Take a DEEP breath and stay committed to being right here, right now. Just take it one day at a time and keep breathing. You’ll make it.  

Those are some reminders I’ve used to help myself through challenges and tough times. What is one reminder that helps you stay strong when life gets really hard? Let me know your words of encouragement in the comments below. 

At the end of the day, I hope that whatever you might be going through you know that:

1. You will get through it

2. You will be stronger for it

3. You will find more greatness out of life because of it.

I’m sending you positive energy and love my friends.

Caroline

Want to build a balanced body? Check out my book, Balanced Body Breakthrough and get your mind, body, and spirit in great shape so you can love your life.

If you are interested in scheduling a consultation to discuss ways we can work with together and improve your health and happiness, contact me at: carolinejordanfitness@gmail.com

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How To Stop Taking Things Personally.

Want to stop taking things personally? Read this helpful article on how to not take things personally to feel better in your relationships and life.

How To Stop Taking Things Personally. 

Have you ever found yourself ruminating and overanalyzing what someone said to you hours after a conversation? Or worried that when a friend doesn’t text you back that they are upset with you? Perhaps you feel hurt by your co-workers actions and feel like they are “out to get you” in the office. Or maybe someone says something which you take as an insult or you assume a person doesn’t like you if they walk past without saying hello.

Why is it so hard not to take things personally? We are human and we all struggle with this from time to time. It’s easy to feel unloved and unwanted when people aren’t able to communicate and connect with you in the way you expect.  And it’s so hard not to internalize that disconnection as a reflection on your worth.  But the truth is, the way other people behave and function is not about you.  In one of my favorite books, “The Four Agreements”, author Don Miguel Ruiz writes,

“Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” ~ Don Miguel Ruiz

This concept seems easy on paper, but it can be hard to put to practice in our lives. When it comes down to it, you’re in control of how you interpret things. Think of how much happier you’d be with a new perspective. Here are some suggestions on how to shift your mindset and adjust your interactions so you can live in peace.

How to Not Take Things Personally.

  1. Realize: It’s just not all about you. Other’s interactions and way of being is a reflection of them and it’s nothing personal. If someone is being unkind to you, remember that they’re probably behaving this way because of something that’s happened to them in the past or present; which has nothing to do with you. They might be having a bad day, going through a rough period, or it might just be their personality. Everyone has their own issues they are working through. Once you realize that the world isn’t all about you, you will be happier.
  2. Wait to respond. Controlling your response in any given situation allows you to reflect on what’s happening and calmly communicate with the person that might be getting under your skin. Before reacting to another’s actions or saying something you might regret, STOP. Pause and take a deep breath. Resist the urge to act immediately through a difficult emotion. Instead, create space to develop an appropriate response and then act with intention.
  3. In difficult conversations, use Nonviolent Communication. Nonviolent communication is also known as Compassionate Communication or Collaborative Communication. It was invented by Marshall Rosenberg in the 1960s and focuses on self-empathy, empathy, and honest self-expression. It’s a four-step process based on (1) observation, (2) feeling, (3) need, (4) request. When I went to wellness coaching school, we studied Nonviolent communication as a technique to have difficult conversations.
    1. For example: “Dan, when I (1) see dishes in the sink, I (2) feel irritated because I’m needing (3) the kitchen that we share in common to be clean. (4) Could you please do your dishes?” You’re not taking the fact that he hasn’t done the dishes, personally; you’re communicating how you feel without being irrational or demeaning. You can learn more at The Centre for Nonviolent Communication.
  4. Have Empathy. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes by trying to understand what the other person might be feeling/thinking/trying to convey to you and what his or her circumstances are that may influence their behavior.  
  5. Seek clarification before jumping to conclusions. Instead of making an assumption, first ask the other person for more information and give them the benefit of the doubt. It’s too easy to assign motives to others. You think they say something a certain way and before you know it you’re getting mad at them before you even speak to them. A better option is to give them the benefit of the doubt. If they do something that confuses you, ask them about it without judgment.
  6. Be okay with being vulnerable and expressing when someone’s actions hurt you. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable by expressing our feelings can help resolve conflicts. My friends know, when there’s a disagreement or mis-understanding, I want to talk it out right away. I believe it’s far better to be uncomfortable being vulnerable and have a difficult conversation than to live with upset in your heart.
  7. Take comments or criticism in a constructive way. If you are criticised, ask yourself if there’s any truth to it, and what you can learn. Even if it wasn’t said in a nice way, you can still learn something. Take the lessons and choose to see the positives in every experience.
  8. Dont dwell on it. Every moment we spend dwelling over the past, even minutes ago, we lose precious time Now. Obsessing over what happened and holding on to anger, resentment, or hurt only causes pain in your life. Learn what you can from the situation and then let it go. I know it can be hard to do, especially if you feel upset and hurt. But it’s very important you don’t obsess over past pain and problems. For these things have the power to poison your heart, your mind, your body, and your life.
  9. Realise that you can’t please everyone. No matter who you are or what you do, there will always be people who dislike or criticise you. You can’t change other people and all you can do is be yourself. At the end of the day, “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
  10. Distance Yourself from Toxic People. Sometimes it’s extra challenging not to take things personally because you are around toxic people. If you know someone who insists on destructively dictating the emotional atmosphere, then be clear: they are toxic.  If you are suffering because of their attitude, you’ve tried the steps above, and it doesn’t seem to help or they don’t seem to care one bit, then ask yourself, “Do I need this person in my life?” When you delete toxic people from your environment it becomes a lot easier to breathe.  If the circumstances warrant it, leave these people behind and move on when you must.  Be strong and know when enough is enough!  Letting go of toxic people doesn’t mean you hate them, or that you wish them harm; it simply means you care about your own well-being. Don’t let toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and get them out of there.
  11. Make sure you have plenty of time for Self Care. Think about how you feel when you haven’t slept, had enough quality nutrition, or haven’t had enough time for yourself. Cranky, moody, and easily upset, right? If you don’t make enough time to care about yourself, you will be more sensitive to taking the words and actions of others personally. But if you give yourself the consistent self-care and love you deserve, you will feel strong and grounded within yourself and other people’s actions and words won’t get to you as much.
  12. Learn to love yourself. Realise that your self-worth depends on you. It does not depend on what others say about you. We take things personally when we care too much about what others think. Instead, give that validation to yourself, so you don’t have to rely on other people to make you feel worthy of love and care. It’s natural to want to feel accepted and loved, but don’t give your power away to other people. When you don’t feel confident in yourself, you will always seek that feeling from other people, but it will never totally satisfy you. Stop relying on others to fuel your self-esteem and love yourself.  The love and attention from others should just serve as an added bonus to what you already have cultivated within.

Can you imagine how many problems could be avoided or solved by practicing this concept and following the steps above? It does require awareness, effort, persistence, and time to stop taking things personally, especially when it’s something you are used to doing. It’s well worth the effort. You will find that your self-esteem and overall quality of life will improve when you stop taking things personally. Commit yourself to self-awareness so you can monitor the times that you’re reading too much into a situation. Practice the suggestions above so you can resolve conflicts externally or internally with calm. Little by little you’ll see a change in your perspective that will positively impact your relationships, especially the one with yourself.

It all boils down to a choice. A choice we sometimes forget we have, but one that can either strengthen us or weaken us. Next time an opportunity arises to take something personally, which will you choose, fear or love? The reality is: the world is impersonal and people do annoying, painful, unimaginable things every single day. That doesn’t mean you have to let that get under your skin. The more you focus on things that make you feel good personally, the less you will take things personally, and the more you will enjoy life.

Writing is one of my personal passions and I loved writing this piece. I hope it helps you in your life, let me know your thoughts in the comment section below and thanks for sharing this article. If you don’t like it, I promise I won’t take it personally 😉

In health and gratitude,

Caroline

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Words to Live By: Making others Better.

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I’ve got exciting news to share with you! I recently started working with Kristi Yamaguchi as an ambassador for her clothing line: Tsu.ya . Tsu.ya (pronounced tsoo-ya) is designed to feel good and deliver style that fits every part of an active lifestyle. Influenced by Kristi’s years as an international athlete traveling to fashion capitals around the world, Tsu.ya, offers modern designs, on-trend colors and sophisticated style, plus ultra comfortable fabrics.

Tsuya has four core beliefs that describe who the “Tsuya Woman” is:

  1. The Tsuya Woman strives to make others better (MOB). She works towards excellence in all that she does and sets a positive example for colleagues, peers, family and community. By doing so, she inspires and enriches others’ daily lives.
  2. The Tsuya Woman is active. Exercise is a part of her lifestyle, which she balances between life and work in order to remain healthy.
  3. The Tsuya Woman is stylish. She likes to feel beautiful in what she wears and seeks style that is both fashionable and comfortable enough to take her through her day.
  4. The Tsuya Woman is philanthropic. She cherishes the feeling of giving back and looks for ways to make a difference in her community. There’s nothing more fulfilling than lending your shoulders to help someone else stand taller to reach their dreams!
Hosting a Tsuya trunk show at my most recent wellness event: Healthy Hour at Studiomix in San Francisco

Hosting a Tsuya trunk show at my most recent wellness event: Healthy Hour at Studiomix in San Francisco

A portion of the proceeds from all Tsu.ya sales goes to the Kristi Yamaguchi’s Always Dream Foundation, which inspires underserved children to reach for their dreams through innovative reading programs and by advancing the cause of early childhood literacy.

“Always Dream is my motto – to dream big, never lose sight of my goals, and strive to become a better person. While I have been supported in the pursuit of my dreams, I realize that support does not exist for all children. My desire is to inspire and embrace the hopes and dreams of children.”
– Kristi Yamaguchi

It is a huge honor to accept the ambassadorship and represent the stylish, active, philanthropic Tsuya woman who strives to “make others better” through her life.

How do I aspire to live in a way that is #makingothersbetter ? I work as a corporate wellness consultant and health coach. My goal is to help people take care of themselves so that they can live their lives fully. We get one life and I work to enable others to make the most of it.

Over the years, my work has evolved and I morphed into a unique combination of corporate wellness consultant, health coach, and community spokesperson with one mission: get the world moving in a positive direction. Fitness and Health is something I love and strongly believe in. I work to shift perspectives and allow others to adopt a healthier life not because it makes them “look good” or fit into a cultural mold, but instead to live their best lives and fulfill their greatest potential. I want to help people develop a positive relationship to exercise, to health, and to themselves. My work in wellness has been a powerful pathway to get my message out into the world. I know that the work that I am doing is serving a purpose and I believe we all need each other to be better and live well. 

Is it true that we all live to serve and that by helping others we fulfill our own destiny? The answer is a simple YES. When you make a positive impact on someone else’s life, you also make a positive impact in your own life. Thats why I find the Tsuya #makingothersbetter campaign so awesome. Because by making others better, you also make the very best version of you.

This video was filmed and produced by Mark Kuroda for the Tsuya #makingothersbetter campaign. Watch it and let me know what you think in the comments below! I’m so excited to see all the possibilities unfold from this partnership and look forward to #makingothersbetter through this work.

How do you live your life in a way that is #makingothersbetter ? Let me know in the comments below.

I just want to say thank you. Thank you dear friend for reading and for joining me in this journey. You make me better and I strive to do the same for you.

Caroline

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Seasons Change. Fall Inspiration.

I hope this finds you enjoying your Labor Day weekend and soaking in the last of summer. Even though where I live in San Francisco the leaves don’t change colors, I can feel the shift in seasons. Fall is around the corner and change is in the air.

Everything changes, whether you embrace change or not. It’s the only constant in life, but somehow it’s always a challenge. We fight to hold on and we fight to let go. But change isn’t part of the process; it is the process. I believe the more we can learn to let go and embrace change in our lives the more we can evolve in the healthiest way possible. 

Learning to accept change is vital to our happiness and success. As a lover of routine and creature of habit, being open to change its something that I work on constantly. Because only when we change, do we grow, and begin to see a world we never knew was possible.  It’s good to remember that no matter how good or bad a situation is now, it will change.  It’s the one thing you can count on.  So with this new fall season upon us, I want to remind you to embrace change and realize that it happens for a reason.  It won’t always be easy or obvious at first, but in the end it will be worth it.

I believe new opportunities are out there waiting for you.  Nobody gets through life without challenges and tough changes… just as nobody gets through life without losing someone they love, something they need, or something they thought was meant to be.  But it is these changes that make us stronger and eventually move us toward future opportunities.  Embrace these opportunities.  Enter this new season, new relationships, and new situations, knowing that you are venturing into unfamiliar territory.  Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to experience something or meet someone that just might change your life forever.

There is something very powerful and liberating about surrendering to change and embracing it. Say HELLO to this season and get ready for a world of new things. I want you to know: it’s never too late to live a life that makes you happy. We get one shot in this world and we can make our story great.  Now is your time to be who you are capable of being. There’s no age limit on changing your course. To settle and be stuck in a life that isn’t authentic or doesn’t make you happy is a tragic waste. There’s no perfect time, you can choose to start and stop whenever you want.  You can change or stay the same.  You can make the best or the worst of today.  It’s up to you. So make the best of it.  Do things that scare you.  Feel things you’ve never felt before.  Spend time with people who help you grow.  Live a life you’re proud of.  And if you find that you’re not, have the courage to change your course. Im here to support you 110%.

What changes are you going through right now? What changes do you want to make in your life?  What do you need to let go and move on from? Leave me a comment below and let me know what new changes you’ll be embracing this fall. 

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Heres to you: being brave, letting go, and moving forward in living a life you love. 

Caroline

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Dear Dad 2015

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Dad,

Im currently up in the air flying home from Hawaii. Such a great trip – I think Hawaii was made for me. Theres so much adventure – running, hiking, swimming, wildlife, nature, and sunsets that make your heart melt with every cloud. Im so happy I said yes and took the time off. That trip was a gift that now is a special memory in my heart.

I did a lot of adventuring but also a lot of thinking while I was on the island. Vacations are good for that yea?  I feel like maybe we are closer now as a family than we’ve ever been and I think everything we have been through together has made us stronger as a Jordan clan. I want you to know how much admiration, respect, and love I have for you. You have been the captain that has steered our ship through both easy and rough waters. We wouldn’t still be sailing without your leadership and huge heart. Your courage, strength, and compassion inspires me DAILY. And I just want to thank you for that. Because who you are moves me to be the woman I want to be.

While in Hawaii I spent time with a lot of really cool, real, and unique people. We went hiking, beach surfing, and dining together. I found myself often telling my new friends stories of you. How you would take us out in the world, adventuring, and be the family leader that allowed us to have a beautiful childhood and grow up with positive memories. I told them of how you taught me about the constellations  – Orion, beetlejuice, and the big dipper. I told them how much you loved hiking and how we would conquer mountains, waterfalls, and national parks together. I told them of how you encouraged our dreams and supported us in our ventures (from dance, to business, and beyond). I told them of some of your passions like sailing, traveling, and reading that allowed you to live fully and be happy. I found myself talking about you a lot and it made me really realize how impactful, inspirational, and powerful you are in my life.

While beautiful, Wakiki is a really touristy place. There are many people who travel all over the world to stay put at a hotel in, sit in a lawn chair, and drink expensive drinks with pineapples. I shared a shuttle ride back to the airport with a father and daughter from New Zealand. They were traveling together to celebrate the daughters 15th birthday for three weeks through SF, LA, Vegas, and Hawaii. They were very friendly and VERY talkative. When I asked how their trip had been and what they experienced over their three weeks together, they shared stories of shopping, shopping, and more shopping. The father basically took the daughter on a three week trip all over the world to go shopping in malls. They were so excited about all the things they had bought and fancy restaurants they had experienced. I smiled and nodded as she showed off her new Gucci sunglasses and necklace but my heart was so sad. All I could think was, “you traveled all over the world from NZ and all you did was go shopping?!?!”. And while her sunglasses were nice I wasn’t the slightest bit jealous. I actually just felt really bad for them. I didn’t do a lick of shopping or stay in the hotel at all while I was in Hawaii. Thats because the best things in life aren’t in a hotel and can’t be bought in a store. They missed it, all of it, and that broke my heart. Thats when it really hit me. Im so grateful my dad raised me the way he did.

Thanks to you I have memories that last longer than any pair of sunglasses ever will. I have experiences that have shaped me into the woman I am and the woman I aspire to be. I know it sounds super sappy but Im so grateful for you it makes me feel happiness and emotions that move me to tears. And that comes from the bottom of my heart, I hope you can feel that.

I’ll probably always be learning about how to be a better daughter, sister, and woman. Thank you for standing by my side through my short comings and forgiving me for my faults. You could have fired me several times and you didn’t. Im very lucky for that! I hope we have more adventures, stars, sunsets, hikes, and experiences to share and I can’t wait to make memories with you. You are the best dad. You do it right. Thank you for being the parent and person who has shaped my life and made it a blessed, beautiful, and full one (all almost 30 something years of it).

I love you I love you I love you. Thank you Dad. Thank you for everything.

Happy Fathers Day.

Your Daughter,

Caroline

 

hiking Mt. Tam, California

hiking Mt. Tam, California

Dancing at brother Tim's wedding

Dancing at brother Tim’s wedding

Christmas in San Francisco

Christmas in San Francisco

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Keep Going.

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Keep Going. 

Please don’t stop.

No matter how hard it gets or how many challenges you face or how many times you fall flat on your face.

Don’t stop.

Just Keep Going.

Keep believing in yourself. Keep putting yourself out there. Keep working for goals that mean something to you. Keep taking chances and keep opening your heart for more. Just whatever you do, don’t stop. Because what the world needs is dreamers who get up and get after it.

Here to support you in dreaming big, taking action, and going after it….. ALL of it.

Caroline

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MOM upside down is WOW. TOO CUTE Mother’s Day Message

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On Mother’s Day, you might give your mom a book or a thoughtful card. You might call to tell her you love her. You might take a moment to reminisce about your fondest memories together.
But one of the greatest gifts you can give your mother is recognition. Whether it takes a few words or a few hours, acknowledging your mother’s hard work is music to her ears.
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Whether you are a mom, have a mom, or are planning to be a mom – mothers day is an important day of recognition for us all. Did you know how INCREDIBLE being a mother is???
Id like to take a moment to give a  tribute to the special woman who GAVE YOU LIFE. Now that is a tough job! The miracle of mothers day is a special day to say, “HEY MOM: I love you and Thank you.”
Just for fun, I thought Id share an inspirational Mother’s Day message from the Kid President, a youthful powerhouse in a power suit who knows how to give one heck of a motivational pep talk. His video message, sent “on behalf of all the kids in the world,” spells out the ten things moms need to know. “Thanks for believing in us, putting up with us, and straight-up loving us,” he says, with his usual authority and panache.
This video offers the perfect smile and is a great reminder to send up some gratitude to the mother in your life in whatever way you can.

The point is, we love you, moms. You’re beautiful. And remember, mom upside down is “wow.

Wishing you and your Mom the Happiest of Mothers Days 🙂

Caroline

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Life Lessons From 2013: “The Year Of Yes”

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As a health and wellness coach, Im sure it comes as no surprise to you that New Years is one of my favorite holidays. Dreaming, defining, and discovering life goals is  a passion of mine and a new year brings so much positive potential it’s beyond exciting. I’m like a kid on Christmas come January first.

As some of you know I am a fan of creating a “theme” for a New Year. I believe this sets a strong, powerful intention for a desired outcome and allows you to stay consistent in taking action towards a year congruent with that theme. For example, 2012 for me was the “year of self love”  where I dedicated time, energy, and effort towards loving myself first. It was an incredible year (highly recommend the theme!) full of health, happiness, and getting strong in every area of my life. At the end of the year I was a completely different woman, self-love had allowed me to spread my wings and start flying.  I felt more alive than ever and was ready to explore everything life had to offer. It seemed only appropriate that the following year, 2013, should be the year of discovery with a brand new set of eyes. It was then the theme “Year of Yes” was born.

My challenge for the Year was this:

  1. Define my priorities, values, goals, and dreams for 2013.
  2. Think of one thing to say yes to everyday that would contribute to the growth and potential of those goals. “Do one thing a day that scares you” in the best possible way.
  3. Use the year of yes as an opportunity to stretch in areas where in the past saying no  created limits.
  4. Use YES as a way past fears and into fearless living.
  5. Discover the outcome of what happens by being open to the infinite possibilities of life by saying “YES”.
Year of YES vision board January 2013

Year of YES vision board January 2013

Quick clarifications on the “Year of Yes” theme:

  • There is a big difference between being a “doormat” and saying yes to your life. Doormats say yes to everyone else’s needs first. Successfully living in the year of yes to me means knowing yourself and evaluating requests to see if they are in line with what you want and need first.  When you’re crystal clear about your goals, you can painlessly arrange new activities and opportunities in the right order and turn down the ones that do not support the outcomes you want for your year. Often times the thing keeping you from reaching your dreams is simply sitting down and knowing what exactly is important to you and what you WANT. If you don’t know yourself it makes it harder to say yes to things inline with that doesn’t it??
  • If you are a people pleaser the year of yes will challenge you to truly get to know yourself,  your desires,  and to learn to prioritize those without feeling guilty. It will also challenge you to set boundaries so that you can enjoy the things you say yes to fully.
  • Of course there are appropriate times to say no and you must honor your intuition and respect those times. This is also a great opportunity to learn to trust your gut (and to learn what happens when you don’t 🙂
At the center of your being you have the answer. You know who you are and you know what you want.

At the center of your being you have the answer. You know who you are and you know what you want.

Without further ado, here are a few valuable lessons I learned in 2013,

“The Year of Yes”

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Life Lessons From My “Year Of Yes”

  • Life really does begin outside your comfort zone. That feeling you get when you try something for the first time. When you learn something new. When you don’t know what to expect. When you surprise yourself. Wonder, awe, excitement – those feelings fuel your “aliveness”. And while we all love a saturday night in watching movies, living in the comfort zone too often eventually leads to boredom, ruts, depression, and feeling “stuck”. After all, “If You Do What You’ve Always Done You’ll Get What You’ve Always gotten.” In order to live freely and happily, you must sacrifice the comfort zone, and this is not always an easy sacrifice. Making the conscious effort to continually challenge yourself, be a lifetime learner, and be uncomfortable when experiencing something new is the fuel that will keep you feeling alive. You will get a rush of life when you jump in… and not with a single toe, but with your whole self. Get your hair wet!970862_10151657477265100_341081919_n
  • Your fears are really so much bigger in your head. Have you ever done something you were afraid of and realized, “wow that totally wasn’t bad at all??”. Yea I thought so. Thats because the things you feel scared or uncomfortable by are much bigger in your mind. Taking action is the best way to overcome the over thinking or dramatizing the mind likes to create. If conquering the fear and saying YES will help you grow towards your goals,  ask yourself, “whats the worst that can happen?” and then feel the fear and DO IT ANYWAY. You’ll find the things you thought were scary are actually not all that bad in reality. And once you start facing fears it gets SO much easier to face more.

    feel the fear and JUMP anyway!!

    feel the fear and JUMP anyway!!

  • Sometimes you dont know what you need. Think you always know what’s best for you? Think again. People and experiences can teach you something about yourself you never knew if you give them a chance.
  • Flexibility is a muscle that if you workout will help your life be stronger. Have you ever heard the saying, “blessed are the flexible for they will never be bent out of shape”? Well it’s true. The more flexible you are with life, the easier life is for you. Change is the only constant, yet most of us resist it. Learning to let go, accept, adapt, and go with the flow is vital to our happiness and general success. Saying yes to new experiences challenges you to exercise your flexibility muscle allowing you to grow and begin to see a world you never knew was possible.
  • You are stronger than you think and braver than you believe. When you start to test your limits you uncover you don’t have as many as you once thought. Remember, FEAR stands for “False Evidence Appearing Real” . Challenge your fears.  You owe it to yourself to try and find out just how limitless you are.
  • Sometimes you might not like what you said yes to. And that’s totally ok. This is really the only way to learn and grow vs staying stuck in the world of no.
  • Saying YES means you have to be willing to let yourself be vulnerable. Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience fully living life. If you play it too safe you miss all the good parts. Allowing yourself to feel scared, to learn, to experience, to grow is one of the gifts saying yes will bring you.532502_10101877009330083_538977864_n
  • Saying yes to life is actually a practice in self-care and self-love. Defining what you want in YOUR life is the first step – going after it is the hard part. The experience of saying yes as an act of self-nurturing can be transformative. For me the year was about saying YES to myself, yes to my life, and yes to what excites my spirit. And that is self-love. And let me tell you – saying YES to living a life I love feels great.

So the question you have is this: after ALL of this, has the year of YES helped me reach the New Years resolution outcomes I had hoped for?? YES, YES, YES a million times over. There is a lot of power in using this one little word intentionally to reach your goals. And even though the year is over I continue to trust, love, and respect myself by saying YES to living my life to the fullest. And so far, life has been responding with an overwhelming YES to me. At the end of this year, there is one thing I know for sure:

The best things in life don’t happen when you say no. They happen when you have the guts to say yes.

With love and lots of YES to you,

Caroline

“Find a way to say yes to things. Say yes to invitations to a new country, say yes to meet new friends, say yes to learn something new. Yes is how you get your first job, and your next job, and your spouse, and even your kids. Even if it’s a bit edgy, a bit out of your comfort zone, saying yes means that you will do something new, meet someone new, and make a difference. Yes lets you stand out in a crowd, be the optimist, see the glass full, be the one everyone comes to. Yes is what keeps us all young.” Eric Schmidt

These words are my own and were written from my heart to yours. Copyright Caroline Jordan Fitness <3

Don’t Let What Is Urgent Distract from What Is Important. Inspiring Life Reminder From My Heart To Yours.

Don’t Let What Is Urgent Distract from What Is Important. Inspiring Life Reminder From My Heart To Yours.

Don't Let What Is Urgent Distract from What Is Important. Inspiring Life Reminder From My Heart To Yours. “Don’t let what is urgent distract from whats important” How will you live with intention and purpose? Here’s what I’ve learned…

It was the week of Thanksgiving and I was planning to go home to see my family for the holiday. I just had a few work projects. And laundry. And cleaning. And meetings. The to-do list kept growing and my plans to visit home kept shortening. “Ill be there for Thanksgiving mom, just need to take care of a few things.”

And then Monday night I got a phone call. Grandma is in the hospital. Stroke. It’s not looking to good. I stopped in shock mid email. Tears. Fears. Reality check.

Have you ever noticed that what  is “urgent” in your life and what is important to your life are two very different things?  Too often we let the to-do’s and the life tasks distract us from what we really value. Time with family, enjoying hobbies, travel, love, living intentionally. Clearly I’m guilty of forgetting  and need regular reminding. It’s all to easy to be summoned by the sharp *PING* of  texts, phone calls, or emails, and forget what truly matters.

It doesn’t need to take a dramatic life event for us to wake up to the important things in our lives. It just takes regular check-ins. Truth is: It’s all to easy to lose sight of our values in our fast paced world of ambition, distraction, and responsibilities. If you are anything like me, you need to slow down, pull off the freeway, and re-evaluate your directions regularly. All of us must change course from time to time because what is surrounding us is constantly changing and we are growing and changing with it. If you don’t stop to reflect and direct you could run over your life. You have to make time to design your directions you could get lost and end up off-roading it.

Id like to invite you to take a moment to slow down and pull out your map. Silence the phone, turn off the email, sit still with yourself. Are you driving in the direction YOU want? Or do you always feel like you are operating in auto-pilot and putting your life off?

Deep down inside, what is important to you? What do you want your life to stand for? What sort of qualities do you want to cultivate as a person? How do you want to be in your relationships with others? The important (aka our values), are our heart’s deepest desires for the way we want to interact with and relate to the world, other people, and ourselves. They are leading principles that can guide us and motivate us as we drive through life.

Values are not the same as goals. Values are directions we keep moving in, whereas goals are what we want to achieve along the way. A value is like heading North; a goal is like the river or mountain or valley we aim to cross whilst traveling in that direction. Goals can be achieved or ‘crossed off’, whereas values are an ongoing process. For example, if you want to be a loving, caring, supportive partner, that is a value – an ongoing process. If you stop being loving, caring and supportive, then you are no longer a loving, caring, supportive partner; you are no longer living by that value. In contrast, if you want to get married, that’s a goal – it can be ‘crossed off’ or achieved. Once you’re married, you’re married – even if you start treating your partner very badly. If you want a better job, that’s a goal. Once you’ve got it – goal achieved. But if you want to fully apply yourself at work, that’s a value – an ongoing process.

Here are some questions to help you dive in and re-discover your important value directions to keep driving your life forward with intention:

  • Family. What sort of brother/sister, son/daughter, uncle/auntie do you want to be? What personal qualities would you like to bring to those relationships? What sort of relationships would you like to build? How would you interact with others if you were the ideal you in these relationships?
  • Marriage/couples/intimate relations. What sort of partner would you like to be in an intimate relationship? What personal qualities would you like to develop? What sort of relationship would you like to build? How would you interact with your partner if you were the ‘ideal you’ in this relationship?
  • Parenting. What sort of parent would you like to be? What sort of qualities would you like to have? What sort of relationships would you like to build with your children? How would you behave if you were the ‘ideal you’?
  • Friendships/social life. What sort of qualities would you like to bring to your friendships? If you could be the best friend possible, how would you behave towards your friends? What sort of friendships would you like to build?
  • Career/employment. What do you value in your work? What would make it more meaningful? What kind of worker would you like to be? If you were living up to your own ideal standards, what personal qualities would you like to bring to your work? What sort of work relations would you like to build?
  • Education/personal growth and development. What do you value about learning, education, training, or personal growth? What new skills would you like to learn? What knowledge would you like to gain? What further education appeals to you? What sort of student would you like to be? What personal qualities would you like to apply?
  • Recreation/fun/leisure. What sorts of hobbies, sports, or leisure activities do you enjoy? How do you relax and unwind? How do you have fun? What sorts of activities would you like to do?
  • Spirituality. Whatever spirituality means to you is fine. It may be as simple as communing with nature, or as formal as participation in an organized religious group. What is important to you in this area of your life?
  • Citizenship/ environment/ community life. How would you like to contribute to your community or environment, e.g.through volunteering, or recycling, or supporting a group/ charity/ political party? What sort of environments would you like to create at home, and at work? What environments would you like to spend more time in?
  • Health/physical well-being. What are your values related to maintaining your physical well-being? How do you want to look after your health, with regard to sleep, diet, exercise, smoking, alcohol, etc? Why is this important?

Remember: everyone’s driving directions are different. Not everyone has the same values, and this is not a test to see whether you have the “correct” values. Think about each area in terms of general life directions, rather than in terms of specific goals. There may be certain areas that you don’t value much; you may skip them if you wish. There may be areas that overlap – e.g. if you value hiking in the mountains, that may come under both physical health and recreation. It is also important that you consider what you would value if there were nothing in your way. What’s important? What do you care about? And what you would like to work towards?

Your life is waiting for you to take an opportunity to choose what’s right for you, even when other people (or the “urgent” sound of emails) are telling you that their own code-red needs should take priority over yours.

To follow your life’s values, you may have to reassign some seemingly important things to “un-important.” If you believe that pleasing your boss or having a spotless house is a higher priority than playing with your children or taking care of your health with enjoyable exercise, be prepared for a long and strenuous battle against destiny. Also, be prepared to lose. And after you’ve lost, go online and watch Randy Pausch’s last lecture. In Pausch, who died on July 25, you’ll see the clarity and joy of a man who chose all along to do what really mattered. That’s no consolation prize; that’s true victory.

As you focus more on what’s important to your soul, filling your schedule with the kinds of things that are vital though maybe not due this minute, every day will bring more enjoyment and refreshment to your life.

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I am thankful to report that my Grandma has returned to good health and I was able to share a beautiful Thanksgiving holiday with her. It was one of the best Thanksgivings I have ever had and I am beyond grateful I had the opportunity to fully experience it. Life moves fast, if you don’t slow down and look around every once in a while you might miss it. I plan on regularly pulling off-road and checking in with my life values map to intentionally drive forward with purpose.

“Don’t let what is urgent distract from whats important” How will you live with intention and purpose?

With love and gratitude,

Caroline

My mission is to empower feel good fitness inside and out. I am here to be of service in your wellness and help you get your mind, body, and spirit in shape so you can love your life. Lets work together and live well. Contact me at carolinejordanfitness@gmail.com 

Want to build a balanced body? Check out my book, Balanced Body Breakthrough and get your mind, body, and spirit in great shape so you can love your life.

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How To Celebrate Every Day Like Its Your Birthday.

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It always makes me sad to hear people dread their birthdays or lament the fact that they are another year older. I believe that birthdays are a chance to take a step back, reflect, and fully appreciate the miracle of being alive. At its very core, the birthday is a celebration of life itself. I recently had the pleasure of celebrating a birthday and it was one of the best ones I’ve had so far. I was overwhelmed by the expressions of love and the warm wishes from people in my life. I spent the day teaching fitness in my community, sharing wellness with coaching clients, throwing a big birthday ball for charity at the Westin Saint Francis hotel in SF, and hanging out with my loving birthday present: a kitten named Tux.  All throughout I was present to a very intense feeling of gratitude for the gift of life and for the blessings in my life.

My birthday present, TUX the kitten

My birthday present, TUX the kitten

My party with the best people in SF!! Happy birthday to Tim Chang, Caroline Jordan, Jonathan Teo, Raj Kapoor, Pangfua Her & Steve Chen!!!!

My party with the best people in SF!! Happy birthday to Tim Chang, Caroline Jordan, Jonathan Teo, Raj Kapoor, Pangfua Her & Steve Chen!!!!

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My twenty-eighth birthday party “palazzo” at the Westin St Francis Union Square San Francisco. Thank you ALL so much for coming out to celebrate and support, we had over 800 in attendance and 100% net proceeds benefiting Family House SanFrancisco and Hackcancer !!!!

At the end of the birthday weekend I came to the realization that a year is much too long to wait to take part in the joys that make your special day so special. Some might argue that treating every day like it’s your birthday might dampen the celebratory nature of your actual birthday, but I believe if we celebrate all of our days as if they are special, we’ll always be looking for the good, hoping for the best, and seeking out the ways to make the most out of every day. So that is my resolution for this New Year: live every day like it’s my birthday! For me this means to become present to the gift of being alive EVERY day. It also means being open to and aware of all the love in our lives EVERY day. You see, I believe our birthdays are just an opportunity to experience an outpouring of the love that is there all the time. The only thing stopping us from experiencing that love on an ongoing basis is our inability to realize it, but it’s always there. Want to join me in this resolution to make every day feel special? Here are a few ways to celebrate each day like its your birthday:

  • Show Yourself Love. Why wait until your birthday to treat yourself special? Self love, self respect, and self care starts with YOU and is the most important part of living a happy, healthy life. Show yourself love every day by taking excellent care of yourself – mind, body, and spirit. It seems simple but this concept is hard to master (Im working on it daily and getting better, but trust me I need a constant reminder!) Here is my list of 100 ways to show yourself self-love to get you started.  This is not a checklist – only a list of suggestions. Feel free to take the ones that speak to you and ignore the rest. One thing I know for sure is that if you learn how to love yourself on a daily basis you will have the  keys to success. Start treating yourself like you would treat yourself on your BIRTHDAY, with the special kind of care that you deserve.
  • Dont save it for a special occasion. Every day of your life is a special occasion. We forget what a gift it is to be alive. LIVE YOUR LIFE NOW, this is not a dress rehearsal. Use your fancy dinnerware. Travel somewhere new. Tell the people in your life you love them now. Dont wait till your birthday to celebrate the miracle that is your life. Do it now.
  • Remind yourself of how far you’ve come. Each year I usually use my birthday as day to reflect on the year. I look back at what I’ve accomplished and try to focus on the good things I’ve done throughout the year. I’ve found it to be a worthwhile exercise and something I’ve always thought I should more often. You don’t need to pat yourself on the back every minute, but it wouldn’t hurt to take a moment every once and awhile to think about all of the things you’ve done and be proud of the person you are.
  • Leave enough time for fun. Sometimes you need to take a few steps back to see things clearly.  Birthdays tend to be moments in our lives where we reflect, relax, and enjoy life. Why not make this a regular practice?? Never let your life become so filled with work, your mind become so crammed with worry, or your heart become so jammed with old hurts or anger, that there’s no room left in them for fun, for awe, or for joy.
  • Express gratitude. Birthdays tend to remind us of all the wonderful people and blessings in our lives. But why wait to recognize how fortunate we are? Gratitude is a way of living not an action only reserved for birthdays and holidays. Live your life every day with a grateful heart and you will find more to be grateful for!

Imagine taking this approach to life every day. Celebrate being alive, remind yourself of everything you have to be thankful for, love yourself to the utmost and tune into to all the love around you. If you really want to get into the spirit, you can even give yourself a gift every day to rejoice in the treasure of another beautiful day of living. And remember, every day that passes, every year that goes by, although we may be getting older, what’s really happening is that we’re getting to live longer, one more day, one more year and that is the greatest gift of all.

Happy Birthday! With Love,

Caroline

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Young, Wild, and Free. The night may be over but this year is JUST getting started!!

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